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Topic: Red flags
aLittleBird Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 2515	Tue 05/20/08 07:45 PM
When they tell you, in the spirit of being helpful, that you will need to "rewire" your personality if you are ever to be attractive to the opposite sex. somebody really said that to you?? did you smack them?? lol

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Tue 05/20/08 07:48 PM
These are warning signs they do not mean the thing is tumbling towards the toilet but they make me cringe to hear it. "I don't have time." "watever." "I feel tired." 'I don't care what you do."

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 05/20/08 09:23 PM
When they tell you, in the spirit of being helpful, that you will need to "rewire" your personality if you are ever to be attractive to the opposite sex. somebody really said that to you?? did you smack them?? lol yes. someone who said he was my friend. Who no longer is.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 05/20/08 09:23 PM
When you attempt to be honest with someone and they do not wish to hear it Ditto that

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Tue 05/20/08 09:26 PM
...what are they for you when meeting someone new? We can surpass the obvious...lengthy prison record, married, plaids with stripes, etc. What things make you go hmmmmmm??? Or, what about the things you ignored in the beginning and realized later they were red flags? Constantly pestering me about needing - a man - a man for marriage - a man for "the kids" (from the previous failed marriage) would just about do it. Another one would be if the other person kept saying that I was a "replacement" date for someone else who decided to cancel. I don't play second-stringer for anybody.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 05/20/08 09:26 PM
When you attempt to be honest with someone and they do not wish to hear it sometimes people bludgeon each other with malice in the name of honesty. If being honest with me means you feel the need to trot out every one of my perceived character flaws, keep it to yourself. You clearly never had a high opinion of me to begin with.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 05/20/08 09:27 PM
...what are they for you when meeting someone new? We can surpass the obvious...lengthy prison record, married, plaids with stripes, etc. What things make you go hmmmmmm??? Or, what about the things you ignored in the beginning and realized later they were red flags? Constantly pestering me about needing - a man - a man for marriage - a man for "the kids" (from the previous failed marriage) would just about do it. Another one would be if the other person kept saying that I was a "replacement" date for someone else who decided to cancel. I don't play second-stringer for anybody. why does this stuff happen to you? You should have great women just falling at your feet.

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Tue 05/20/08 09:29 PM
Dunno, exactly. Bad luck on my part, I guess. shrugs shoulders

Lordling Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 536	Tue 05/20/08 10:03 PM
When I find out that they drink way too much Kool-Aid.

nonchalantwendy Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 13574	Tue 05/20/08 10:06 PM
When they are very selfish and just talk about themselves and don't ask about you......

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Tue 05/20/08 10:09 PM
...what are they for you when meeting someone new? We can surpass the obvious...lengthy prison record, married, plaids with stripes, etc. What things make you go hmmmmmm??? Or, what about the things you ignored in the beginning and realized later they were red flags? Obvious ones: Drinking, drugs, kids.... Phrases that mean "It's time to get the hell out!": "I know you can be domesticated." "You'd make a wonderful father." "Wanna go to the bar with me?" "Life is nothing unless you're married." "Douglas Adams? He was a president, right?" The one I overlooked, that SHOULD have been a red flag, from my ex-wife, was when she couldn't spell or pronounce the word "ghosts." She pronounced it "ghost-us," two syllables, and spelled it "ghostest," thereby turning an ostensible plural into a superlative.