IT sounds like you've really seen the bad end of some love deals gone wrong. I can see how you feel the way you do.



And Tina, you are right on! Some loves don't last forever, but I wouldn't have changed a thing.

I am optomistic

I think some of yall might change your mind if you meet the right person and i wish that for all of you

Everyones got a past. That's not the problem. The problem is when it affects your relationship. Ok. A year and a half ago I took a woman on a dinner date. At the end of the evening dropped her off at her front door. Nice date. Unbeknown to me- she was a psycho with a criminal record. She legally changed her name and moved to run from her criminal past. She started stalking me. Then my neighbors surveillance camera caught her trying to burn my house down because she was drunk and angry because I wasn't home because I was at work. Yeah a yearlong restraining order was issued. All this over a casual dinner date that turned into a nightmare. A simple background check could save your life and your livelyhood. Jaded? Cynical? Better than dead. Use caution. Everyone. Please.

i have my own stalkers i'mnot going to let it stop me

Well, I think that is the kind of past we don't want into our future or current relationships! Something extreme like that.

I was referring more to death of a spouse or divorced...those kinds of "pasts"

I don't take wreckless risks anymore. I value myself more than that. How can I take care of others if I can't take care of myself first. I'm just saying I don't care too much for being in a relationship with an irresponsible person that I have to clean up their messes constantly. I am lacking quality responsible singles. I'm not knocking love. Just being overly cautious and I have a right to be. Mmmmmmmm these fries are good! But this love is overdone.

dang you are a MED WELL kinda guy aren't you?!

Well, seriously, no one should take reckless risks! Especially now that we have the internet and people can be anybody behind these keyboards. I met a guy in a WIDOW chat room of all places, funny , seemed nice enough....turned out to be a registered sex offender. THAT experience made caused me to be more cautious than I likely was before. So I see what you mean. Good to learn!

So this is the reasoning behind my "NO" answer. Sad but I have women who want to be in a relationship with me but its for ulterior motives whether it be money or security or convenience. Its never because of my love of life or convictions to do right in every aspect of my life and do the best I can in all that I do. Its never for my dedication of family and freinds and environment and my surroundings. Its never for love. And that's the biggest heartbreak of all.

I've had chances to be with plenty of rich guys.They start off naming all their material possessions you know what it means nothing to me.sure it would be nice but i'm looking for a connection not a connection to someones wallet

Yes...someday

I love ya, Kyle

That is really sad. Do you think it is your selection process doing this? Sorry you feel like that.

That's the spirit!

I want the brass ring. I want it all. I want someone who is financially, fiscally, and emotionally responsible. Yeah I know good luck. Ha ha ha ha. But I have hope for as negative as I sound. Love? Its tough but I can choke it down with this beer if I try.

That's exactly it! I have walked thru this house on occasion and thought what does any of it mean if there is no one to share it with any more.

monica understands me. Love ya monica. Tell them. I have a big heart full of love and do things out of the kindness of my heart daily that I feel is the right thing to do even to strangers. Because my heart tells me its the right thing to do. Love is sharing. Love is caring. Love is putting someone elses needs in front of your own with selflessness. That's love.

I agree with you completely

is waking up everyday thinking of how you can make your feel special