Topic: Why don't some people...
adj4u's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:45 AM

Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know

lilith401's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:47 AM
All I can say is that I know I say what is on my mind, then and now.

Nothing will change that. That includes my perception of your posts in this thread.

No offense, you know I am always honest. At least, I hope you have observed that.

no photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:48 AM
Shadow........Im way too serious at work. Do I have to be serious here too?>>?????noway sad sad

FallinAngel82's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:48 AM
robin, he was using that thread as an example

his thread is about honesty such as why ppl will just go in and post or always agree with what other ppl are saying,

its not nessasarly that thread in general

he just used it as an example of saying what everyone else is sayin instead of answering for yourself and not being like everyone else


TheShadow's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:49 AM

Ha! Way more of us saw what you were doing but your example nullified your point in my opinion.

So let me get this straight.... first you call us liars, and then you follow it up by saying we are stupid as well?

Very nice.


Come on now:smile: your reading into this to much. Why? your taking this way to serious. it's about telling the truth and how is/ whats wrong with that. people are who they are and some that read this. looked at one thing as you do. it was the first thought that came out whyen you read this. But my question is, why don't most do that when answering most questions on here. They don't. they beat around the bush of whats really going on. nothing wrong in giving ones opinion. It's learning how to give iot with out taking things so serious. life is ment to enjoy and so is this site and the people on here. So why make somthing more then what it actually is ment to be. most know me on here and i don't put people down or usually try to start anything. All i'm saying is answer any question honestly and not what everyone else is saying and it will open your mind up to a whole new world.

lilith401's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:50 AM

robin, he was using that thread as an example

his thread is about honesty such as why ppl will just go in and post or always agree with what other ppl are saying,

its not nessasarly that thread in general

he just used it as an example of saying what everyone else is sayin instead of answering for yourself and not being like everyone else




So if a person agrees with something somebody else said they should just not post, then? To avoid being seen as a follower? A mindless drone? Wanting to fit in?

Come on.

lilith401's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:52 AM

Come on now:smile: your reading into this to much. Why? your taking this way to serious. it's about telling the truth and how is/ whats wrong with that. people are who they are and some that read this. looked at one thing as you do. it was the first thought that came out whyen you read this. But my question is, why don't most do that when answering most questions on here. They don't. they beat around the bush of whats really going on. nothing wrong in giving ones opinion. It's learning how to give iot with out taking things so serious. life is ment to enjoy and so is this site and the people on here. So why make somthing more then what it actually is ment to be. most know me on here and i don't put people down or usually try to start anything. All i'm saying is answer any question honestly and not what everyone else is saying and it will open your mind up to a whole new world.


No, I'm not reading too much into it.

Your example nullified your point. I know you are a nice guy and I like you.... but I think you are not seeing the other side here, the perception of what you are saying.

adj4u's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:52 AM

robin, he was using that thread as an example

his thread is about honesty such as why ppl will just go in and post or always agree with what other ppl are saying,

its not nessasarly that thread in general

he just used it as an example of saying what everyone else is sayin instead of answering for yourself and not being like everyone else




i understand that

but point must be it is a bad example then

i am just being honest as he requested

if my pointing out the contradiction in his posting

then i guess i am doing as he requests

just a thought

but hey

what do i know


flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou
:wink: :wink: :wink:

laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

TheShadow's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:55 AM


Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know


There is a difference between complaining and expressing. Words can throw people off if there isn't a smiley face or somthing. The word "tired" or "BS" as most looked at is what most will take out of content. look beyound them and you'll see what i'm talking about.

FallinAngel82's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:56 AM


robin, he was using that thread as an example

his thread is about honesty such as why ppl will just go in and post or always agree with what other ppl are saying,

its not nessasarly that thread in general

he just used it as an example of saying what everyone else is sayin instead of answering for yourself and not being like everyone else




So if a person agrees with something somebody else said they should just not post, then? To avoid being seen as a follower? A mindless drone? Wanting to fit in?

Come on.


of cource not, i think he means that if you just dont have anything to say or any real comment why agree with someone if that isnt really how you feel

now mind you there really is no way of telling but sometimes you might see someone post something one day and then the next completly turn around and post something that contradicts what they posted the day before

i sometimes post in agreement to someone however i'm usually doing other things and dont always have time to post completely what i think so i simply agree with the poster that was as close to my thoughts as possible and try to post more on it later

adj4u's photo
Wed 05/14/08 10:59 AM



Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know


There is a difference between complaining and expressing. Words can throw people off if there isn't a smiley face or somthing. The word "tired" or "BS" as most looked at is what most will take out of content. look beyound them and you'll see what i'm talking about.


it is a matter of interpretation

the way something is taken shows more about the person reading it than the person posting it

quit trying to ruin seeing how people really are laugh

just a thought but hey what do i know

TheShadow's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:02 AM



robin, he was using that thread as an example

his thread is about honesty such as why ppl will just go in and post or always agree with what other ppl are saying,

its not nessasarly that thread in general

he just used it as an example of saying what everyone else is sayin instead of answering for yourself and not being like everyone else




So if a person agrees with something somebody else said they should just not post, then? To avoid being seen as a follower? A mindless drone? Wanting to fit in?

Come on.


of cource not, i think he means that if you just dont have anything to say or any real comment why agree with someone if that isnt really how you feel

now mind you there really is no way of telling but sometimes you might see someone post something one day and then the next completly turn around and post something that contradicts what they posted the day before

i sometimes post in agreement to someone however i'm usually doing other things and dont always have time to post completely what i think so i simply agree with the poster that was as close to my thoughts as possible and try to post more on it later


of cource not, i think he means that if you just dont have anything to say or any real comment why agree with someone if that isnt really how you feel Thank youflowerforyou

TheShadow's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:03 AM




Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know


There is a difference between complaining and expressing. Words can throw people off if there isn't a smiley face or somthing. The word "tired" or "BS" as most looked at is what most will take out of content. look beyound them and you'll see what i'm talking about.


it is a matter of interpretation

the way something is taken shows more about the person reading it than the person posting it

quit trying to ruin seeing how people really are laugh

just a thought but hey what do i know


Point takendrinker laugh

creationsfire's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:04 AM
Edited by creationsfire on Wed 05/14/08 11:07 AM


Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know


Tell the truth and be nice. How can you twist that around? If you think someone is mixed up about something and give your opionion, fine.

I'm not saying to lie, conform or otherwise, just pointing out IMHO that this thread (right or wrong) was started based on Shadow's opinion that too many people "conform in threads".

I simply said that we should all tell the truth, and by saying that, I did not imply or say that anyone is a liar.

Be nice, I did not imply or say that anyone was being rude or otherwise.

Why do some people have to complicate things so much. Just have fun, be truthful and be nice. How much more simple can that be? SHeeshsss

But hey,

What do I know?laugh

adj4u's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:04 AM





Get honest with themselves when answering questions on the forum?


There have been so many topic's where people will follow what everyone else is saying. The ole high school thinking. I want to fit inohwell


Example, lilangel just posted who is your favorite person on here and more then half will say. I like to many to answer that question. I know i'm going to hear it on this. But BS, everyone has one person they talk to the to above all others. This was just an example besids all the other topic's people will answer. Get honest with yourself when your answering a question on here. Just tired of seeing how people will follow others and i know what most of you will say. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Were not kids and some point in life people have to grow up! When your honest with yourself and what you do in life. You start to see who you really are and start to grow and others will see that todrinker So why not start here?

This is not a drama thread unless you turn it into one. it's really not that hard to answer a question with out drama. it's how you people perceive things. you can take it serious if you want or you can answer it with an open mind :wink:


answer
Wed 05/14/08 10:35 AM


The thread he used as an example must be a drama thread then too. There are way too many drama threads and basically this is about telling the truth, not who you like the best.

Basics are, have fun, realize this is the net, but there are real human beings on the other end of the posts and be nice. Simple.



response from op writer



WOW! thank youdrinker Someone that actually looked beyond what was posted. This was an open and honest answer and thats what i'm talking about. Have to give credit to youdrinker drinker



well i would say you are contradicting yourself

you complain people say too many to choose just one


then you say yes you should remember there are people on the other end of the post and should be nice

so i ask you

which is

be nice (and probably honest) and say too many


or pick one (which may be true to a point) that may not have been yesterday or may not be tomorrow


just a thought

but hey

what do i know


There is a difference between complaining and expressing. Words can throw people off if there isn't a smiley face or somthing. The word "tired" or "BS" as most looked at is what most will take out of content. look beyound them and you'll see what i'm talking about.


it is a matter of interpretation

the way something is taken shows more about the person reading it than the person posting it

quit trying to ruin seeing how people really are laugh

just a thought but hey what do i know


Point takendrinker laugh


drinker drinker

DestinysDream's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:06 AM
Club mentality. I thought that was the point of this thread not stop being afraid to hurt others. I will stand up to anyone wishing me to hurt another and they will receive only my head shaking, no.

Club mentality. That isn't it at all. I bet most people read the first post and instantly reply without reading the other posts in between if it is a question aimed at you, the individual We do not read what everyone else is saying so we fit in. Where are you coming up with that?

We are all part of the web of humanity. We think alike. The only difference between you and I are small bits of DNA. 99.999 percent of you is me. If people didn't think alike and say the same things it would be very surprising.

In fact this is how we will live on beyond our deaths. We can't do it physically but in one hundred years when a person falls in love we'll be there with them because we know that feeling. If that person a hundred years from now is asked the same question they will likely respond the same way as we would if we were still around. Embrace our being the same. Don't denegrate it.

lilith401's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:09 AM

Club mentality. I thought that was the point of this thread not stop being afraid to hurt others. I will stand up to anyone wishing me to hurt another and they will receive only my head shaking, no.

Club mentality. That isn't it at all. I bet most people read the first post and instantly reply without reading the other posts in between if it is a question aimed at you, the individual We do not read what everyone else is saying so we fit in. Where are you coming up with that?

We are all part of the web of humanity. We think alike. The only difference between you and I are small bits of DNA. 99.999 percent of you is me. If people didn't think alike and say the same things it would be very surprising.

In fact this is how we will live on beyond our deaths. We can't do it physically but in one hundred years when a person falls in love we'll be there with them because we know that feeling. If that person a hundred years from now is asked the same question they will likely respond the same way as we would if we were still around. Embrace our being the same. Don't denegrate it.


love love love love

TheShadow's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:20 AM
Edited by TheShadow on Wed 05/14/08 11:21 AM

Club mentality. I thought that was the point of this thread not stop being afraid to hurt others. I will stand up to anyone wishing me to hurt another and they will receive only my head shaking, no.

Club mentality. That isn't it at all. I bet most people read the first post and instantly reply without reading the other posts in between if it is a question aimed at you, the individual We do not read what everyone else is saying so we fit in. Where are you coming up with that?

We are all part of the web of humanity. We think alike. The only difference between you and I are small bits of DNA. 99.999 percent of you is me. If people didn't think alike and say the same things it would be very surprising.

In fact this is how we will live on beyond our deaths. We can't do it physically but in one hundred years when a person falls in love we'll be there with them because we know that feeling. If that person a hundred years from now is asked the same question they will likely respond the same way as we would if we were still around. Embrace our being the same. Don't denegrate it.


Ok:smile: here is is a good examplelaugh

When a new member post something and it a woman, saying how she is looking for someone that is honest, open, trusting etc etc. And she is very attractive. How man men will jump on that thread and say i'm looking for the same thing. And knowing that there is a good percentage of men that are just looking to have fun and there just agreeing to get her attention. Thats what i'm talking about, people that follow and do what everyone else is and not answering the question honestly of what there really thinking. The truth is. onn that thread. some are saying how can i get into her paintslaugh laugh Tell me i'm wrong?

DestinysDream's photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:22 AM


Club mentality. I thought that was the point of this thread not stop being afraid to hurt others. I will stand up to anyone wishing me to hurt another and they will receive only my head shaking, no.

Club mentality. That isn't it at all. I bet most people read the first post and instantly reply without reading the other posts in between if it is a question aimed at you, the individual We do not read what everyone else is saying so we fit in. Where are you coming up with that?

We are all part of the web of humanity. We think alike. The only difference between you and I are small bits of DNA. 99.999 percent of you is me. If people didn't think alike and say the same things it would be very surprising.

In fact this is how we will live on beyond our deaths. We can't do it physically but in one hundred years when a person falls in love we'll be there with them because we know that feeling. If that person a hundred years from now is asked the same question they will likely respond the same way as we would if we were still around. Embrace our being the same. Don't denegrate it.


love love love love


Thank you Lillith. That's why I keep saying I love people. I do love you all.

Look back knowing all of our ancestors possessed the same basic feelings. They may be gone but they live on in each of us. I cherish the thought and it brings me comfort knowing this. If living in the same time frame a large majority would come up with the same answers as us.

no photo
Wed 05/14/08 11:34 AM



mmmm....its the internet...21 century version of OZ...who takes this stuff seriously????

huh huh
So, if your interested in someone or they are interested in you, it shouldn't be taken seriously?


when you meet them, face to face, and start having a "real" exchange with that person, then sure..but until then, you're just trading words with Max Headroom...
So you would just play along with what they say, which means them thinking you are being serious when really your not until you meet. Leading someone on. That is wrong.