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Topic: A Strange Feeling
maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Mon 05/12/08 07:34 PM
that happens seeing that some one else wants your ex does bring the thought to mind that you may have made a mistake. but you have to remember why you did split up in the first place.plus you have to consider where your at in life right now . move on you will be a lot happier.

bgeorge Joined Fri 09/14/07 Posts: 7850	Mon 05/12/08 07:35 PM
i would think so.....when my ex-husband was going to remarry i was sooooooooo nice to them...because i didn't want anything to go wrong and them not get married so he'd lv me the f*ck alone...he kept asking me what was wrong and that i was really starting to scare him for being so nice Yeah killing them with kindness always gets them.....you go Brenda ty cat...how are ya sweet

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Mon 05/12/08 07:37 PM
I actually think it is normal IF you are not happy in your own life! BUT I was always happy that he was not my problem anymore! In all honesty, I was so relieved when my ex finally found someone else! I knew I would finally be left alone and I might be able to live my life the way I wanted to. I would suggest that you remember all the reasons why he is your ex? I am sure that you had a lot of bad times or he wouldn't be an ex, am I right? So don't be jealous...be happy that you are not the one putting up with his rusty a$$!! Good Luck

CATBW56 Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 7224	Mon 05/12/08 07:37 PM
i would think so.....when my ex-husband was going to remarry i was sooooooooo nice to them...because i didn't want anything to go wrong and them not get married so he'd lv me the f*ck alone...he kept asking me what was wrong and that i was really starting to scare him for being so nice Yeah killing them with kindness always gets them.....you go Brenda ty cat...how are ya sweet doing great Brenda...how are you hun?

beebee620 Joined Thu 07/05/07 Posts: 2066	Mon 05/12/08 07:37 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! i felt the same way when i found out my ex boyfriend from 4 years ago was getting married to the girl he has a child with (by cheating on me)...i think its normal because at one point you loved him and regardless of what happened there will always be a little piece of him in your heart.

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Mon 05/12/08 07:37 PM
build a bridge....move on...he seems to have.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Mon 05/12/08 07:38 PM
Normal

sexxyandsingle Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3283	Mon 05/12/08 07:40 PM
Don't be surprised if you find yourself driving passed your ex's house "just to test out your car's suspension", Wow my face hurts from laughing

BLUEYEDEVIL Joined Sun 02/24/08 Posts: 297	Mon 05/12/08 07:41 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! IT ABSOLUTELY IS. THE TWO OF YOU HAVE, OR AT LEAST HAD, HISTORY TOGETHER, FOR YOU TO HAVE NOTHING AT ALL WOULD HAVE BEEN ABNORMAL

BLUEYEDEVIL Joined Sun 02/24/08 Posts: 297	Mon 05/12/08 07:43 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! IT ABSOLUTELY IS. THE TWO OF YOU HAVE, OR AT LEAST HAD, HISTORY TOGETHER, FOR YOU TO HAVE FELT NOTHING AT ALL WOULD HAVE BEEN ABNORMAL

bgeorge Joined Fri 09/14/07 Posts: 7850	Mon 05/12/08 07:44 PM
i would think so.....when my ex-husband was going to remarry i was sooooooooo nice to them...because i didn't want anything to go wrong and them not get married so he'd lv me the f*ck alone...he kept asking me what was wrong and that i was really starting to scare him for being so nice Yeah killing them with kindness always gets them.....you go Brenda ty cat...how are ya sweet doing great Brenda...how are you hun? most excellent...busy busy busy as usual

sandradee1961 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1411	Mon 05/12/08 07:47 PM Edited by sandradee1961 on Mon 05/12/08 08:06 PM
I think it's normal. I don't love my ex anymore and I don't miss him. It still bothers me that he found it so easy to walk away and start a new life. We were high school sweethearts, married for over 24 years, and had 5 children together. He bragged to everyone about dating multiple women within a week of leaving.

BLUEYEDEVIL Joined Sun 02/24/08 Posts: 297	Mon 05/12/08 07:48 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! TO BE TOTALLY HONEST, A MAN IS LESS LIKELY TO FEEL THE WAY YOU DID THAN A WOMAN WOULD. JUST THE WAY IT IS, ALTHOUGH FOR ANY MAN TO SAY HE'D FEEL NOTHING AT ALL, I'LL CALL HIM A LIAR, BECAUSE WE DO, WETHER IT BE A PANG OF GUILT, ANGER, OR DISGUST, THERE WILL BE SOMETHING THERE, ESPECIALLY WHEN SEEING IT FOR THE FIRST TIME. GUYS, AM I WRONG

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Mon 05/12/08 07:52 PM
It's totally normal...I mean you had a past together.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Mon 05/12/08 08:05 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! It is normal, Whisp. 4 years does not erase the fact that you once had feelings for this man. 4 years does not erase memories of good times you shared with him. You can move on but there will always be a part of you that still has some little shred of a feeling, if not for that person now, then for that person as you once knew them. I agree with that

lily38 Joined Wed 09/20/06 Posts: 3441	Mon 05/12/08 09:39 PM
After 4 years????? A bit obsessive, perhaps. If it were shortly after your break-up, that would be normal....but 4 years. Yikes!! Hide the rabbits!!

JaceKnows Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 5110	Mon 05/12/08 10:05 PM
You've been divorced/separated for FOUR (4!) years, and you're still (or just now?) feeling jealous to see him with someone else? Have YOU been with anyone in the last four years? "Spend your whole living on someone else's shelf, got no one to blame but your own damn self." Or to put it another way. Yeeeeessssshhhhhh!

nvrsaynvr Joined Tue 06/12/07 Posts: 5283	Mon 05/12/08 10:11 PM
I just saw a picture of my ex husband with him and his new girlfriend. This the the first girlfriend that I have seen him with in the 4 years we have been separated. And I got this really strange feeling. Almost a jealousy feeling. Is that normal? Please tell me it is! OH PLEASE let there be some serendipity left in this world! It is normal, Whisp. 4 years does not erase the fact that you once had feelings for this man. 4 years does not erase memories of good times you shared with him. You can move on but there will always be a part of you that still has some little shred of a feeling, if not for that person now, then for that person as you once knew them. Lex, as usual, has totally the right answer!!!

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Tue 05/13/08 06:46 AM
Thank you guys, I feel a little better, we do have 3 children together an a lot of history to follow. I have dated others and am very happy with my life right now for the most part, I am sure I will get over it, I guess I guess just knowing he has been fighting to get me back for the last 4 years and then seeing him with somebody knew was just a shock.