Ya know I was really looking forward to Tuesday, my divorce will be final. Hey, a new life, new beginning, and who wants that cheater back anyway. But as the time grows nearer I am finding myself just bawling all the time. I never thought I would be here, at this point in my life, I thought I had a good marriage, I thought everything was fine, how could I have been so blind? Anyway, any pointers on how to get past this and be happy again, well at least on Tuesday? What do you do to make you feel happy when you are sad?

I've been where you are at. Keep your chin up, it gets better.

Honestly, this is a difficult situation to really put a "this will make you happy" answer. I would say spend time with friends and/or family, talk to them about issues and allow them to help you. Perhaps go out and have a good time at a dance club or something along those lines, I wouldn't recommend drinking as that can lead to all kinds of bad...but just go out and enjoy yourself, you deserve that.

sounds cold but welcome to the club

my x got married 3 weeks later answered lots of ??????

give it some time it will get easier

and after 20 years it aint so bad

















well i hope four dozen flowers distract ya a little

Mine was final a little bit ago. It was a hard day but I got through it. I remembered all the good times and wished that it had been different. I thought of my kids.... then I thought of all the bad times, the fighting, the arguments, the childrens confusion on what was going on. Then I thought of the opportunities for myself and for my kids, starting fresh and enjoying life instead of dreading it. Look at the good things that this can bring. Think of what you are gaining and not what you are leaving!

Dont know if that means anything but it's how I got through it.

This weekend either friday or saturday... the girls are going out... you should come down to detroit... and party with the girls, celebrate womenhood with a girls nite out

yup you are not alone ... and better things will happen again and this will take its place in the past ... it does get better ..

I can relate very much! I just divorced on the 23rd of last month and have been a little weepy. Maybe change, but better than all that hurt and chaos. I emphatize, with you.

detriot huh hhhmmmmm

only about 100 miles or so lol

went up there to buy a truck a few months back

Gosh this is hard,,, I took me out for a long walk,, I was married for 13 years most of it bad and thought when the day came that he final would sign the papers I would be over joyed, but this overwhelming feeling of I failed came over me,,, Sheshhhhhhhhhhh most of my marriage was abusive,, So I picked myself up and Had me time,,, reminded me I was and Can make it through one day at a time,, step by step,,

Remember you are an incredible women and can do anything you set your mind too,,, Take time for you,,

Love & Light

You can handle whatever life gives you.
You did it yesterday, and the day before.
You've done it all your life, and it has brought you to where you are today.
Somehow, in some way, you have successfully made your way through every challenge, to arrive at this point in life, right here, right now.

Every day for as long as you can remember you've faced challenges, you've solved problems, and you have worked your way through the obstacles that blocked your path.
You have proved to yourself and to the world that you are resourceful, that you are effective, that you can propel yourself to where you want to be.

Nothing yet has stopped you.
You have proven that you can handle the challenges.
Don't stop now.
Have the courage to go for what you truly want.

Sure, the task looks daunting.
Sure, there are hurdles to be overcome.
Yet that's what you're so good at doing.
You've made it here, and you can make it anywhere you want to go.

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REMAIN POSITIVE


Instead of focusing so intently on what you can get, consider what you can let go.
Lighten your load and become more nimble, peaceful and powerful.
Some of the things you so desperately think you need, you do not need at all.
As your needs diminish, your freedom and richness grow.

There's nothing you must have in order to be.
Devote some of your life to simply being, and know the liberation that comes from letting go of yourself.

Ambition, intention and disciplined effort will bring you much in this world.
Always remember, though, that there is more to life than the success the world confers.

When you act out of need you will struggle from a position of weakness.
Rise above the need, and you are free to achieve without limitation.

Remember that fulfillment is not about getting all that you need.
Fulfillment is knowing the freedom to be all that you are.
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Even the most intense experience is only an experience you are having. It is not you, and you are not it.
You are more than your problems, more than your possessions, more than the pains and pleasures. You are more than the frustrations that sometimes feel so overwhelming.

Too often, out of fear, you cling tightly to things that don't really matter. Imagine the freedom that can come from letting go and stepping back.

What if your most agonizing worries no longer had the power to worry you? What if your most burdensome difficulties no longer had the power to trouble you?

Step back from them, and it is all possible. It's not a matter of running away, but of putting the world in perspective.

The real person you are, is not defined or limited by the passing circumstances, no matter how intense they may be. Always remember that you are more.

by: Ralph Marston

I thought I was going to have a big party when my divorce was final...

wrong...

I wanted out...but it still was a sad day...

I just went with what ever emotion came over me..got a lot of rest..also kept busy and things got better..

If u are going to go thru a sad time better now....when u can go out and the sun is shining and that makes u feel better than be cooped up in the dreary winter..

when u feel down..go out ....for a walk or a ride what ever...

then grab the T.v remote..Flick all the stations and realize ..wow...I am now in control of everything in my life..

Start new..

It gets better...

there are no easy ways to get through it. You have to.

i listen to over 60 hours of music a week for the last 3 years after it.it is what helps me and the great friends at jsh.their is some of the best friends here seek and you will find ps i am still fighting in court 3 years after for my daughter.it has ben the biggest fight of my lifetime but she is my child to and i will not stand down.it has costed me lots of money but money is no big thing to me.

It's really hard...You think you know someone because you share your life with them, then they turn out to be a dirtbag and you're left wondering, " What now?!" Try to remember that everything is temporary, keep a positive outlook and be grateful. Being happy is the best revenge! I had a 'Divorce Party' when mine was final, it was so fun! After all that stress it was nice to celebrate my being single again with my friends and family.

I to have been thru these very feelings. Time and living for your kids is what helped me...

It will change for you, TRUST ME, I soon figured out how much better off I was and will be...

If you able to take a divorce class, such as calmwaters it might help you and your kids if you have them.

Better days ahead<-----I did not know that was your name

I got that from Franshade.

I know I am not alone, and thank you all for all of your sweet words, but....I am still bawling . And I do feel like I failed, and if it wasn't for my kids, I would feel like I wasted over 20 years of my life on a man that obviously didn't love me. I know I will get over it, I just want the pain to go away now ya know.

Cry sweetie,, Remember you did not fail,,, And yes I can say it does get better as time moves on,, be you be happy and most of all enjoy life

It is time for you to cry, and the sooner you can do it the better...
Cause once you run out of tears, you will see clearly again.