a long story short im in love with my cousins girlfriend she tells me
she loves me and wants to be with me but she wont leave him its been
going on almost a year we havent done anything but talk ok i cant seem
to shake my feelings for her and i told her i was going to move to put
space between us she started to cry and begged me to stay so my question
is this what do i do? can yous please help me

STAY FAR AWAY FROM HER, She isn't with you, she is with your cousin.
Blood is thicker than water. She isn't worth destroying family over.

Grow up, be a man, have integrity.
Respect your cousin.
Can't figure out your nxt move from the hints?
Reaqd them again, you'll get it.

Sorry if I sound harsh but it sounds to me that you and your cousin are
are being used by this girl. Move on with your life and find someone you
can love openly who will love you back openly. Someone who says they
love one person but stays with another has a lot of growing up to do and
doen't know the true meaning of love.

I can understand that you feel love for her, but he is your cousin and
even if it was a friend, there is a line that a man should not cross,
respect for others is very important, because you will want the same for
you!!! fineporcelain is right stay away from her
if she can do that to your cousin, what do you think she will do to
you!!?

From a practical standpoint, if she refuses to leave him, the decision
has pretty much been made. All you're going to do by hanging around is
exacerbate the hurting. If it was me, I'd get away from the situation
and look for somebody a little more available.

I'd have doubts about her anyway -- if she's with your cousin and still
claims she wants to be with you, how do you know she wouldn't be saying
the same thing to some other guy if she ever did get with you? Not the
most trustworthiest of people, she seems to me....

finily i have a pic

well i agree with everybody else here,tell your cousin,tho.she is
nothing but heartache and grief too you both.look thru here and find a
good honest woman.you should not have to have this explained to you.

If she really wanted to be with you she would have left your cousin a
long time ago. She is just trying to have her cake and eat it to. Move
on with your life knowing you did the right thing. At the end of a dya
all a man really has is his word and his self respect dont lose yours by
staying around. Good luck and best wishes.

husky thats like dateing your sister tell your cousin about it but be
extramly carefull he might get real mad at you ok dean

run forest run

kojack what do you meen

You would only be setting your self up to be used just like your cousin
is being used except it would cost you more (your family) and when
someone else came along for her she would be gone and you will be alone
is she worth that

I mean run away, don t date your cousins sig other.

run if you have went this long without "doing anything" then u have it
so built up in your head that it would never work anyway it will only
turn out badly

Yep I agree with all of them her Lex pretty much hit it on the nail she
is using you for a backup and if she was to leave him which after a year
sorry I don't see that she will do the same to you if she finds soneone
she thinks it better seems to always want a back up move on and find
someone that wants just you.

I think you should tell your cousin what his girlfriend is doig. I try
not to judge people, well because we all make mistakes. I know for
certain..the more cuminication and honesty there is with all three of
you....the beter things will work out in the end.

Hey Husky, I think this girl is more confused then you are, If she
understood true and real love you would'nt be in this prediciment,she is
getting something from both you guys and being selfish by letting you
put your life on hold for something that clearly isn't going to
happen,it sounds like you like the idea of being in love and don't fully
understand what takes to make love work,if she will play your cousin,she
will play you too,you need to tell your cousin and both you guys cut her
loose!!!!! She is the devil..