why is it so hard to actually meet and talk to someone on here?

If I had any idea, I would have done something about it by now....!!

The locals don't post in the forums, and they don't respond to e-mails. Communication is difficult when it's only going one way....

yeah, sucks major.....

This is my theory....
It's because a lot of people fear being taken advantaged of by some that they do talk to.

Just a little while ago today, I made an attempt to talk with a man who is 44. Well either it was the site was working out its stuff or the guy just up and didn't want to talk with me, I don't know?

Then the IM window we had open, up and closed.

He is still on now and as far as I can tell, he may be shallow or just a scammer but he has not made any attempt to talk with me again so that is a big sign saying he isn't interested, plus he acted a bit rude when I asked if we could talk in IM on here.

All he had to say was, "I can't talk now", which he did in a yes no manner but the way he talked with me was rude. I asked him if he was busy and he said, "Yes and No." Then he talked a bit with me and then like I said above, vanished.

So sometimes it's the men and sometimes it's the women being just ANTISOCIAL or FREAKED OUT because of some reason or another. If only they would just say, "Sorry I'm not interested in you." That would be enough for me and then I'd go on my merry way.

I guess I'll just have to take their rejection of me, not so personally but it still hurts me none the less.

Well I try to talk to people from Illinois all the time...and so far only one person will really talk to me.

Two words... Unrealistic expectations.
"I know exactly what I want in a guy." No one can live up to that. Then at the end of your creative writing essay you tell us you found your guy.

So what's the point. We're here to hook up and meet someone that fills that empty spot.

As far as anyone else give it time. It took me about a year here to get a date and the same on another site. I actually requested no chatting and no IM in my profile. Changed my preferences to be more picky. Then I had some luck.

Actually I just started dating this guy and I just put that on there yesterday. Even before then, nobody from my area talked to me.

I talk to one person in Illinois, and she lives like 50 minutes away.

1) Back off, dude. The lady knew what she wanted, and she got it.

2) Maybe that's why YOU'RE still here. You're obviously looking for someone that doesn't know what they want. Helllo...get it together, son.

Because you whine too much. Thank you, come again.

God, I can't believe I missed this topic!

Thank you Dave :)

Well, seeing that the last post was a month ago........

Well said...

Hey everybody...Ive made lots of friends in Illinois! What's the problem?

I wish I knew....I've been here a year and a half, I've posted 11,000 times, had a book published a couple months ago, became a forum moderator for this site, and I still can't get anyone closer than 897,000 miles to talk to me here!

Not that it particularly matters now -- I'm in a relationship and no longer looking -- but I do have to wonder why the locals have been so uncommunicative since Day One.

I mean, once I got established on this site, I started getting tons of e-mail, and still do. But never from anyone even remotely local. There was a time I would write to new local people when I noticed someone had joined; not a one ever wrote back. I gave up. I figured I'll just enjoy talking to the far-away people, since they are the only ones who would ever talk to me!