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Topic: possible gay girlfriend.
grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 06:52 PM
okay this is a strange i met a girl 2 months ago and we started talking .She told me she always took things slow okay no problem.So during this 2 month time we start going out to eat clubs and such she still wont even let me kiss her.Now this is where it gets screwy numerous people that know her have told me that she was gay but what is the point of coming over to my house laying up in bed cuddling and all watching movies if your gay.Has anyone ever thought this about someone they were with?

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 05/10/08 06:52 PM


EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Sat 05/10/08 06:53 PM
Maybe she's been traumatized by men but really wants to give you a chance.

toastedoranges Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 11042	Sat 05/10/08 06:53 PM
Maybe she's been traumatized by men but really wants to give you a chance. 2 months and no kissing? i'd be out, that's insane

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Sat 05/10/08 06:55 PM
That is a toughie, everyone's definition of "slow" is different. She could just be taking it slow. Is her excuse for not kissing you yet that she wants to take it slow or what? Think back has she given you any idea to maybe being homosexual, not counting the no kissing and taking it slow thing? The only way you will get an answer is talking to her.

AngelMapper Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 524	Sat 05/10/08 06:56 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL?

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Sat 05/10/08 06:56 PM
That is a toughie, everyone's definition of "slow" is different. She could just be taking it slow. Is her excuse for not kissing you yet that she wants to take it slow or what? Think back has she given you any idea to maybe being homosexual, not counting the no kissing and taking it slow thing? The only way you will get an answer is talking to her. great answer! communication solves a lot of things!

lifestooshort6 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 6667	Sat 05/10/08 06:56 PM
have you asked her if she is gay or bi? be upfront and honest, that'll save a lot of time, worrying and wondering "if"

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 06:57 PM
Not really basically normal starting relations just not going any farther.

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Sat 05/10/08 06:58 PM
i find it strange that the 2 of you go out and eat clubs.

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 06:59 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months.

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Sat 05/10/08 07:00 PM
i find it strange that the 2 of you go out and eat clubs. as it is not strange your selling you stiff used tube socks for over 2grand on ebay right now?!

lifestooshort6 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 6667	Sat 05/10/08 07:00 PM
i find it strange that the 2 of you go out and eat clubs.

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Sat 05/10/08 07:01 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months. then ask yourself if she is worth the wait... i am sure she has her reasons to being a turtle on relations with men

justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Sat 05/10/08 07:01 PM
okay this is a strange i met a girl 2 months ago and we started talking .She told me she always took things slow okay no problem.So during this 2 month time we start going out to eat clubs and such she still wont even let me kiss her.Now this is where it gets screwy numerous people that know her have told me that she was gay but what is the point of coming over to my house laying up in bed cuddling and all watching movies if your gay.Has anyone ever thought this about someone they were with? I don't kiss my man, and he does not assume I'm a gay. Maybe she doesn't like kissing or she is taking it slow.

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Sat 05/10/08 07:02 PM
i find it strange that the 2 of you go out and eat clubs. (bonk)

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Sat 05/10/08 07:02 PM
It depends on how often in that 2 months you've actually hung out together, too... 2 months is forever when you're waiting for a kiss but how much of that time have you actually spent talking to each other... about important things... about who you are and what you want? If you want a woman to be more comfortable with you, you've got to connect with her on some emotional level... find out what makes her tick, listen to her... if you just watch movies all the time and go to loud clubs where you can't talk, she might never crack...

elwoodsully Joined Tue 05/01/07 Posts: 7477	Sat 05/10/08 07:03 PM
It could be that she's not sure of her sexual preferences yet. I got married at 19, and was a virgin when she and I met.. My best buddy K has a cousin B that didn't figure out he was gay until he was still 26 and a virgin. His sister is a lesbian.. Hmmmm. 2 kids out of a farm family of 4 kids... wtf??

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:04 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months. then ask yourself if she is worth the wait... i am sure she has her reasons to being a turtle on relations with men if she doesnt get moving then it aint worth it

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:06 PM
It depends on how often in that 2 months you've actually hung out together, too... 2 months is forever when you're waiting for a kiss but how much of that time have you actually spent talking to each other... about important things... about who you are and what you want? If you want a woman to be more comfortable with you, you've got to connect with her on some emotional level... find out what makes her tick, listen to her... if you just watch movies all the time and go to loud clubs where you can't talk, she might never crack... the clubs and such is her idea.She doesnt seem to be one to talk i suppose that is the problem in 2 months i dont know that much about her.I also cant force her to open up.