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Topic: possible gay girlfriend.
justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Sat 05/10/08 07:07 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months. then ask yourself if she is worth the wait... i am sure she has her reasons to being a turtle on relations with men if she doesnt get moving then it aint worth it So, if she doesn't get to moving, you are done with her. This makes me think you are after just one thing if you are not willing to give her time or willing to talk with her about it. JMO

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Sat 05/10/08 07:09 PM
Well my guess is, she's a mess. Doesn't want to share anything about herself, wants to party, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to kiss... sounds like she's got a lot to hide. Do you even know where she came from, or just what she's told you... is she homeless... or married?

pjdh1952 Joined Sat 02/09/08 Posts: 1161	Sat 05/10/08 07:09 PM
That seems odd after 2 months! She may be using you as a stepping stone to her next true love! Inquiring minds want to know!!!!

SimplyElla Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 7124	Sat 05/10/08 07:11 PM
maybe she is curious about her sexuality? maybe she is a slow mover? maybe she is gay? maybe she is asexual? maybe maybe maybe.... you wont find your answer unless you get it from her mouth babe

justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Sat 05/10/08 07:11 PM
Well my guess is, she's a mess. Doesn't want to share anything about herself, wants to party, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to kiss... sounds like she's got a lot to hide. Do you even know where she came from, or just what she's told you... is she homeless... or married? Maybe she's shy. The person I am with is like that. Doesn't want to talk, kiss, etc. We've been together 15 years.

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:12 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months. then ask yourself if she is worth the wait... i am sure she has her reasons to being a turtle on relations with men if she doesnt get moving then it aint worth it So, if she doesn't get to moving, you are done with her. This makes me think you are after just one thing if you are not willing to give her time or willing to talk with her about it. JMO dont pass judgement. i am waiting .if i just wanted one thing. i make plenty money to go get anything i want.

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:12 PM
Well my guess is, she's a mess. Doesn't want to share anything about herself, wants to party, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to kiss... sounds like she's got a lot to hide. Do you even know where she came from, or just what she's told you... is she homeless... or married? she was relocated from neworleans 2 years ago.

Kravynn Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 1513	Sat 05/10/08 07:13 PM
I have LOTS of Lesbian friends. All of which were straight at some point...? Maybe shes looking for a guy to bring into her girl/girl relationship?

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:14 PM
I have LOTS of Lesbian friends. All of which were straight at some point...? Maybe shes looking for a guy to bring into her girl/girl relationship? well dont have time to help someone find thereself when i am lost myself.

justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Sat 05/10/08 07:15 PM
Find a way to kindly ask her, I mean if she isnt then try to fin out why she wont even kiss you, sounda a bit off to me. Do you brush good LOL? twice daily and i already talked to her she says she is not people just say that because she moves so slow but dam 2 months. then ask yourself if she is worth the wait... i am sure she has her reasons to being a turtle on relations with men if she doesnt get moving then it aint worth it So, if she doesn't get to moving, you are done with her. This makes me think you are after just one thing if you are not willing to give her time or willing to talk with her about it. JMO dont pass judgement. i am waiting .if i just wanted one thing. i make plenty money to go get anything i want. I'm trying not to. What does money have to do with it?

Shaden Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 6118	Sat 05/10/08 07:15 PM
I think I'd be questioning, if she is cuddling up with chicks. Confused maybe?

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:18 PM
I think I'd be questioning, if she is cuddling up with chicks. Confused maybe? I have questioned.I think that i need to just find someone that is willing to start a real relationship.

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Sat 05/10/08 07:18 PM
Well my guess is, she's a mess. Doesn't want to share anything about herself, wants to party, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to kiss... sounds like she's got a lot to hide. Do you even know where she came from, or just what she's told you... is she homeless... or married? she was relocated from new orleans 2 years ago. Well there ya go. Probably has a whole lotta story going on there... if she's got trauma from it, it's pretty normal to wanna go that slow, especially with talking about anything. The best thing you can do is slowly introduce new questions to her, like share painful things of your past with her and gently ask her questions if she's ever been through anything like that... or known anyone who has... sometimes it helps to open someone up by comparing scars. If you show her you're genuinely interested in getting to know her instead of thinking about kissing her, she might not feel so pressured.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Sat 05/10/08 07:22 PM
It depends on how often in that 2 months you've actually hung out together, too... 2 months is forever when you're waiting for a kiss but how much of that time have you actually spent talking to each other... about important things... about who you are and what you want? If you want a woman to be more comfortable with you, you've got to connect with her on some emotional level... find out what makes her tick, listen to her... if you just watch movies all the time and go to loud clubs where you can't talk, she might never crack... the clubs and such is her idea.She doesnt seem to be one to talk i suppose that is the problem in 2 months i dont know that much about her.I also cant force her to open up. If she's not opening up, why do you think she's not into being 'intimate'. Have you asked her about it? Everyone is different. Myabe she wantst to be sure that you don't just want sex, and that you are actually attracted to her.

Kravynn Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 1513	Sat 05/10/08 07:23 PM
It depends on how often in that 2 months you've actually hung out together, too... 2 months is forever when you're waiting for a kiss but how much of that time have you actually spent talking to each other... about important things... about who you are and what you want? If you want a woman to be more comfortable with you, you've got to connect with her on some emotional level... find out what makes her tick, listen to her... if you just watch movies all the time and go to loud clubs where you can't talk, she might never crack... the clubs and such is her idea.She doesnt seem to be one to talk i suppose that is the problem in 2 months i dont know that much about her.I also cant force her to open up. If she's not opening up, why do you think she's not into being 'intimate'. Have you asked her about it? Everyone is different. Myabe she wantst to be sure that you don't just want sex, and that you are actually attracted to her. I love you Lily...wanna spoon with me?

grozebass Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 13	Sat 05/10/08 07:24 PM
Well my guess is, she's a mess. Doesn't want to share anything about herself, wants to party, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to kiss... sounds like she's got a lot to hide. Do you even know where she came from, or just what she's told you... is she homeless... or married? she was relocated from new orleans 2 years ago. Well there ya go. Probably has a whole lotta story going on there... if she's got trauma from it, it's pretty normal to wanna go that slow, especially with talking about anything. The best thing you can do is slowly introduce new questions to her, like share painful things of your past with her and gently ask her questions if she's ever been through anything like that... or known anyone who has... sometimes it helps to open someone up by comparing scars. If you show her you're genuinely interested in getting to know her instead of thinking about kissing her, she might not feel so pressured. thank you for the advice i think that will do for this topic.I will try to open up some but that is hard to do when the other person is so closed off.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Sat 05/10/08 07:27 PM
I love you Lily...wanna spoon with me? Uhm, well.... Absolutely....

Kravynn Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 1513	Sat 05/10/08 07:36 PM
I love you Lily...wanna spoon with me? Uhm, well.... Absolutely.... Good cause Im too tired to do anything else