Topic: social class
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Fri 05/09/08 11:43 PM

If I eat pineapple and beans I can fart hawaiian music.
Dammit youre too talented!!! laugh laugh laugh A class of your own!!!laugh laugh

tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:45 PM





Well motivation is another factor. Do you want to be with someone who has no or little motivation compared to you?




I can't be with someone that has very little motivation to move forward in life. But a better question is .....hhhmmmmm.....

I will be seeking the highest degree a PhD and the other person only wants job skills such as a trade school education... would that constitute someone not being good enough?
Are you planning on marrying this guy??? Its a hard call but Ive seen it in couples before...

At the same time are you being a social snob by not going out with this person because of his financial status?huh


no, i have plans to meet this person. however a guy friend stated that he thinks that he isn't good enough for me, that i deserve better.

I am far from being a social snob, I come from a low socioeconomic background and have worked very hard to get where I am. I will be the only person from my immediate family to graduate from college and will probably be the only person is my extended family from achieving a PhD.

So, I guess the next question is, the person that made the comment to me.... jealous or concerned?
I understand....the person could be jealous or maybe he thinks you do deserve better. Personally I go for hard working people, because that is how my family was and still is. Mentally is this person on your wave length?


I dont quite know yet... i guess i will find out in about a month or so.

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:46 PM
Congrats on the PHD. No second doctorate? Your dilemna is minor. Your problem of caste is only a problem if you let it be. Sounds like a bit of jealousy. Everyone deserves the best for what they strive for.

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:48 PM
Just my opinion. Don't hold it against me.

tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:49 PM

Congrats on the PHD. No second doctorate? Your dilemna is minor. Your problem of caste is only a problem if you let it be. Sounds like a bit of jealousy. Everyone deserves the best for what they strive for.


i am thinking the person that made the comments its a little of both.... true concern and jealousy

tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:49 PM

Just my opinion. Don't hold it against me.


drinker

Winx's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:49 PM


Well motivation is another factor. Do you want to be with someone who has no or little motivation compared to you?




I can't be with someone that has very little motivation to move forward in life. But a better question is .....hhhmmmmm.....

I will be seeking the highest degree a PhD and the other person only wants job skills such as a trade school education... would that constitute someone not being good enough?


No, it doesn't constitute someone not being good enough.

But..you may go thru some changes as you advance in your education. And you will change some more when you start working when you are done with college. You may be a different person than you are today.

tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:53 PM
winx, i know that i am have very different perspectives today then i did say 5 years ago.... but I consider that all personal growth and for the better.

Winx's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:55 PM
Edited by Winx on Fri 05/09/08 11:57 PM

winx, i know that i am have very different perspectives today then i did say 5 years ago.... but I consider that all personal growth and for the better.


No doubt that it will be better.flowerforyou

But...the type of man that will be right for you may be different. Your needs and wants will be different.

I'm not sure why I brought it up. It's just something to think about. It has to do with something I went thru when I finished college.


tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:57 PM


winx, i know that i am have very different perspectives today then i did say 5 years ago.... but I consider that all personal growth and for the better.


No doubt that it will be better.flowerforyou

But...the type of man that will be right for you may be different. Your needs and wants will be different.

I'm not sure why I brought it up. It's just something to think about. It has to do with something I went thru went I finished college.


valid point!

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Fri 05/09/08 11:58 PM


winx, i know that i am have very different perspectives today then i did say 5 years ago.... but I consider that all personal growth and for the better.


No doubt that it will be better.flowerforyou

But...the type of man that will be right for you may be different. Your needs and wants will be different.

I'm not sure why I brought it up. It's just something to think about. It has to do with something I went thru went I finished college.
True........I wont go out with a welfare bum who sells drugs..........nope!!! Call me a social snob!!bigsmile drinker

tanyaann's photo
Fri 05/09/08 11:59 PM



winx, i know that i am have very different perspectives today then i did say 5 years ago.... but I consider that all personal growth and for the better.


No doubt that it will be better.flowerforyou

But...the type of man that will be right for you may be different. Your needs and wants will be different.

I'm not sure why I brought it up. It's just something to think about. It has to do with something I went thru went I finished college.
True........I wont go out with a welfare bum who sells drugs..........nope!!! Call me a social snob!!bigsmile drinker


drinker

wiley's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:00 AM

I know that in american, social class divisions aren't always evident... however, what is everyone's opinion about dating/relationships/marriage with someone of a lower social class? Does it bring you down?


Like pretty much anything else, it would only bring me down if the other person kept rubbing my nose in it.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:00 AM
I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.

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Sat 05/10/08 12:04 AM

I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.
Which this person needs to get from himself and not someone else! Motivation.....you get it within yourself, for yourself, and by yourself! bigsmile drinker

Winx's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:04 AM
Edited by Winx on Sat 05/10/08 12:07 AM

I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.


Doesn't that person need to do it for themselves? If they do it for someone else, it might make a co-dependent relationship.flowerforyou

It might also be setting things up for future resentments.


tanyaann's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:05 AM
Edited by tanyaann on Sat 05/10/08 12:05 AM

I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.


but i dont know if i can be someone's muse
i dont have the time or the energy for that

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:06 AM


I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.
Which this person needs to get from himself and not someone else! Motivation.....you get it within yourself, for yourself, and by yourself! bigsmile drinker


Indeed, but sometimes other people can open your eye's to what you need to do. Gentle push, not an aggressive shove.:wink:

Winx's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:06 AM
Edited by Winx on Sat 05/10/08 12:08 AM
Double post.drinker

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 05/10/08 12:07 AM


I've been poor, rich, lived in my own house, lived on the street, drank from a golden cup, and licked paper plates. I'm just trying to survive until something comes along that gives me the drive, which could or could not be far away. Perhaps this person needs something to help him better himself.


Doesn't that person need to do it for themselves? If they do it for someone else, it might make a co-dependent relationship.flowerforyou


It's not doing it for someone else, someone can just help out with showing how to better THEIR life. Happened to me, figure it can't hurt to try.