Well, here's the other side of it -- I've met 9 women from various dating sites (not this one) and 8 of them were total train wrecks. The reality of it is I would have been better off NOT meeting them, or even dealing with them in the first place.

It's taken me awhile to figure it out, but I see on line dating as a sort of lottery -- about 1 in 10,000,000 actually "wins" here. I know some people who have met their matches on this very site, but the percentages -- as I understand them -- are not hopeful. Especially for "more selective" types such as myself.

In the end, I decided I had to stop "playing" this particular "lottery." Not only are the odds against winning completely astronomical, but the "prizes" don't fit my needs anyway.

One of the posts in this thread mentioned batting .000 after you've made a few posts -- imagine batting .000 after making 10,000 posts. There's a point -- for me -- when it all boiled down to accepting the fact that I'm simply never going to meet anyone here, and that I need to be dealing with people in the real world again....

You're right. Online dating is only ONE option to getting to meet someone. The typical one's should still be used as well.

my advice?....stop searching.

No i'm not saying to give up what i am saying is don't wait for a woman to make you feel good about yourself. Just have fun, be yourself, and you will give off a confidence that a lot of people don't have anymore. Ever notice that when you have a g/f you have other girls intrested in you? but when you brake up they are nowhere to be found? wether the ladies admit it or not they want to be noticed...and they try. But if it seems like you don't care..i.e because you have a g/f they try even harder. If you try to keep this same attitude once your detached the same thing holds true. No i'm not saying to play a game...but looking like a challenge...and not looking like every other learing eyed guy in the place helps a little. But before you can pull this off effectivly you have to be comfortable being alone. That is just what i have noticed..i may be in left field. but hey at least i'm in the game lol.

I'm not so sure. YES, it is 100% true that when I have a girlfriend I have to beat girls off with a stick and when I'm single they're nowhere to be found but I think this has to do with something called "preselection".