You seem like the kind of person that would do better in a live situation rather than online....if a woman met you they would get to see the 'real' you...your personality would shine thru & that is probably what will attract a lady....I suggest joining a club or organization or group....don't know what your interests might be but that is where i would start....good luck in your search....

Ok when did the rules change?i thought ur beautiful was a compliment?

No matter what's wrong with you, you can learn to have fun with that wrongness. If you knew what I was thinking one moment to the next, you'd be laughing your ass off. You don't have to know I'm serious though, or at least half serious.

As for dating, desparation wont help one bit. You don't need to fly someone in to find love, trust me on this. As for any inadequacies you might have, they are probably all within the confines of your own mind. Lastly, go watch my big fat greek wedding for inspiration. By the time you finish that movie, assuming you can empathize with the main characters, you'll probably find yourself motivated to do something positive for yourself. The fact is, all of us have room to grow in all areas and before you know it, it happens, whatever it is.

why don't you just get involved in the forums .. have fun and RELAX .. life should be played out a minor key

oh hun, it is a compliment, it's just when that's the only thing that's said, it leaves a women kinda empty, you know

tantalize the mind and the body is sure to follow
ask an interesting question or two, that's all

Yea I do, but I know its because my standards are so high...and Im fat.

I'm a big woman, too.

I don't let that stop me!

I absolutely love this statement!!! It is so totally true! Make your "wrongness" work for you and you will find someone who truly appreciates who you are. Sometimes the quircks are the best part!

It's more creepy than complimentary when it comes from someone you don't know. Sometimes "Your beautiful" is fantastic, but when it comes right off the bat from someone who just glanced at your picture online, it feels phony and more like a come on. Not every woman feels that way probably, but that's just a little advice from me.

what she said.

these guys who complain about women not returning their e-mails never e-mail me.

Maybe they should set their scanners on "realistic"

thanks for all the posts