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Topic: dating question
tanyaann's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:49 AM


I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


better to be single longer, than to get into a relationship were the other person is not completely committed to you.

cplichristmd's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:50 AM



I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


better to be single longer, than to get into a relationship were the other person is not completely committed to you.
i know but i dont know if i should ask for that much commitment just yet. i am confused.

tanyaann's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:52 AM




I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


better to be single longer, than to get into a relationship were the other person is not completely committed to you.
i know but i dont know if i should ask for that much commitment just yet. i am confused.


well then take it slow and have fun, just keep in mind if she isn't willing to tell her parents, if you two decided to get more serious then it might be best to back off or end it.

PragmaticMind's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:58 AM


I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


Honey.. I've basically been single for over 8 yrs. Believe me, I know how hard it can be to find "the right one" especially if you have children. But regardless of how hard it is to find such companionship, wouldn't you rather wait and be with someone who is excited about your child(ren); knowing that they can be involved and share sweet memories with their family as well. I'm sorry, but if someone is avoiding a conversation that should be most important in a relationship that involves children.. it would end quickly for me. I would rather be alone and happy with what God has aready blessed me with (which is my children).. other things (relationships) will fall into place "properly" when my time has come. Don't put women first over your little one..

BettyB's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:59 AM
I am curious how she interacts with your daughter? Do you think she even likes kids?

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Sun 05/04/08 09:00 AM
Its only been a month.....why does she have to tell her parents anything about you??? For one thing you are still technically married....

PragmaticMind's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:02 AM





I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


better to be single longer, than to get into a relationship were the other person is not completely committed to you.
i know but i dont know if i should ask for that much commitment just yet. i am confused.


well then take it slow and have fun, just keep in mind if she isn't willing to tell her parents, if you two decided to get more serious then it might be best to back off or end it.


And if this is the case.. definitely don't have her around your child. There's no sense in putting a little ones soul in the mix of things, when you have no clue as to what the relationship will grow to be. Children are sensitive and easily attach to others. It's up to us to first protect them, then make decisions as to what is best for all of us. We don't have right to be selfish of our desire for "adult" love when it's not right for our kids. If you plan to remain with this girl.. then I certainly (speaking as a mother) would not involve her until there is true commitment and her parents are aware of the situation at hand.

cplichristmd's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:03 AM

I am curious how she interacts with your daughter? Do you think she even likes kids?
she says she does.

cplichristmd's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:04 AM

Its only been a month.....why does she have to tell her parents anything about you??? For one thing you are still technically married....
thats a good question and i dont have an answer lol but i told my mom about her.

cplichristmd's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:06 AM






I have 2 daughters.. and if I were with a man who didn't explain details to his family of my situation (as well as his) as he's suddenly apart of it.. I too would do what you've done, which is bring up the conversation. However, if a conversation like that is avoided.. then there is no reason for me to continue. My daughters acceptance and place in a relationship of mine is far too important to me and a good mother, than a person who doesn't wish to mention to others the package deal.


i know but i dont want to break up with her this early over it yet. she is a nice girl and i want to give her a chance. and do you have any idea on how hard it is for me to get a girlfriend lol. it took me a year.


better to be single longer, than to get into a relationship were the other person is not completely committed to you.
i know but i dont know if i should ask for that much commitment just yet. i am confused.


well then take it slow and have fun, just keep in mind if she isn't willing to tell her parents, if you two decided to get more serious then it might be best to back off or end it.


And if this is the case.. definitely don't have her around your child. There's no sense in putting a little ones soul in the mix of things, when you have no clue as to what the relationship will grow to be. Children are sensitive and easily attach to others. It's up to us to first protect them, then make decisions as to what is best for all of us. We don't have right to be selfish of our desire for "adult" love when it's not right for our kids. If you plan to remain with this girl.. then I certainly (speaking as a mother) would not involve her until there is true commitment and her parents are aware of the situation at hand.
she only met her once and that was for her to meet my ex wife so she could meet her.

CleanBathroom's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:17 AM

Its only been a month.....why does she have to tell her parents anything about you??? For one thing you are still technically married....


DETAILS, DETAILS :heart:

cplichristmd's photo
Sun 05/04/08 09:19 AM


Its only been a month.....why does she have to tell her parents anything about you??? For one thing you are still technically married....


DETAILS, DETAILS :heart:
i hear ya lol

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