Grandkids are great, mine are onthe east coast.
But every Thursday morn a friend shares hers with me. Little guy is close to same age as one of mine. He thinks I am grandpa, we have a blast & all 4 of the girls, enjoy me also.
KIDS ARE GREAT. Long as they have manners.

I'm the grandmother of a beautiful 9 year old. I used to see her everyday,but now she's with her dad so I have her only every second weekends. Very well mannered little girl...always yes please,no thank you..and she doesn't say 'what'..it's always pardon. God I miss having her around.

Good mornig all! Ms. Greer you need to check in more often so we'll know, that you have not just dropped off of mother earth!!!

I got off track whrn I went to see the kids last week, and just can't seem to catch up

I know sorry about that, everyone kinda wondered. So you have a life!!!

Yeah!!The life of a hermit

Hermits welcome here!

I decided way back, probably before I even became a teenage that I did not want to bring any children into this world. I could see how screwed up it was way back then (about 50 years ago), and I absolutely did not want to be responsible for creating new life in a world that I felt was already overpopulated with humans.

I never really voiced that opinion to the girls though so that wasn’t an issue concerning dating. Although it might have become an issue had a serious relationship developed and the woman wanted to have children.

It’s not that I was against having children. On the contrary I was completely open to the idea of adopting, and I would have loved to have had a large family actually. I just didn’t want to create new life in an already over populated world.

The vast majority of our problems today are actually due to overpopulation more than anything else. If we are running out of resource, or overly polluting the environment, it’s only because there are too many of us living on the planet.

I have to crack up, because people always look to science for answer, but science had the answer a long time ago,… Don’t over populate the planet! It’s just that no one wants to hear that answer. They want science to come up with cures without them having to forfeit anything.

In any case, like I say, I would have loved to have children and I would have been a really great father. It’s really a shame that I never had that chance. Not only did I lose out on the experiences of watching and mentoring another human being, but some kids missed out on a chance to have a great mentoring father.

I’m not want to push my agenda onto another, so I would have merely guided them in whatever they wanted to become. I simply would have helped them to discover what that was. And supported them in it whatever it was they wanted to do. Presuming it was within the scope of what I believed to be moral. If it was outside of that scope I would have had problems and I’m not sure how I would have dealt with that. I guess I would have had to cross that bridge when I came to it.

In any case, it never happened. So I have no children or grandchildren. Or even a partner for that matter.

At 58 years old I’m not really feeling up to raising a child now. I simply don’t have the energy required to keep up anymore. Not entirely due to my age, but health problems are in the mix as well.

Although having said that I would still welcome a partner who has children. Although, I imagine at my age any partner I would get would have fairly old “children” who could hardly be thought of as ‘children’, but even so, I still might be able to interact in a positive way with them, and potentially be a ‘step’ grandparent to their kids.

However, anymore I have little patience with total spoiled brats, or young people who have absolute no agenda, interests, or even respect. My sister’s kids are like that. They are in their late 20’s and early 30’s and still act like really spoiled brats. They have no self-respect, much less respect for others. And they are totally listless. They have no ambitions to do anything but sit around and play computer games and smoke pot.

I wouldn’t really want to be bother with “kids” like that in my life right now. They are really nothing more than completely irresponsible adults who won’t listen to a thing anyone says and who act like the world owes them a free ride.

I think it’s funny, if they just had a tad bit of respect for themselves, and an interest in achieving something constructive anything! I don’t if they wanted to become rock stars, if they actually got together and played music and tried to become good enough to perform at least they’d be doing something constructive. But to just sit around and play stupid computer games all the time and complain that life isn’t fair is more than I care to put up with.

I just don’t need to be bothered by that kind of attitude in my life.

Wow that sure addressed alot Abracadabra It is sad that your sister's kids have turned out to be such a disapointment.
I am very lucky that my sisters did an excellent job of raising their children.I love spending time with them and my great nephews.I have to take the city bus everyday to school and have first hand experience of how disrespectful teens can be.It also annoys me when every other person is talking on the cell phone.Technology has one down fall it makes us un approchable.I am always friendly to the drivers I know they put up with a lot.

I have been very blessed with children and grandkids! And am proud to say that in the next year or so, I'll be having more grandkids, as my son is getting married in August. It is amazing how being blessed will bring more blessings!

Abra, I am a firm believer that kids are a product of what & how they are taught. I agree that many of the young need to change their ideas of life.
It is up to us older/wiser to try to show them how life CAN be, if they chose to make it so.
I have one child, that is pretty much, a waste of air. I take some responsibility for that.
Another that has made a success of his life & is a better man than his father was at the same age.
Stepmom was the best thing that happened in his youth & he say that.
Stepdaughter is similar to her mom & is doing great also.

It is all how & what they are taught.
My opinion.

Yet again!!

That's why I call myself "SAGE"

Wise, Wise Man

well , no grand-children yet ,( the boys still bussy with university ,oh by the way , why do these people keep calling children kids ?make me wonder if tem is goats that they produce kids

Get along with step daughters, son not so much. He seemed content till he hit 30, now hates me and his mom and bemoans lack of love and friends

I wasn't blessed with children and that wasn't by choice, my ex wife couldn't have children and didn't want to adopt, so now I dont have children, I have an ex wife and at my age I believe its too old to start a family.

I have the assets, the resources and a very comfortable life, great family and only thing missing was kids.

But I'm open to meeting someone with kids and I could adopt them someday.

I notice this is a really old thread, but I'll say I never regretted at all in not having children. I think I'm one of the few people in the world that feels that way.

Raised 4 boys, 1 was adopted by me.
No regrets other than granddaughters mom ran off with her. Haven't seen her in several years.