i live with someone i i use to love but we fight and i'm not happy and
she's not happy we live in separt rooms in the house .she has total
control of everything i say and do .i want to move out but she has total
control over my money too.i have told her like twenty times i want to
leave but i don't think she get the message should i pic a argument so
she will give me my money and throw me out or should i stop my cash flow
and move plz.somebody help me.

Son, time to grow up & act like a man. Quit your bellyaching, do what
you want. DO NOT pick a fight, just pack your stuff & move on your own.
Your pay ck. is in your name, right? Don't give it to her, manage your
own life. A guess says she has been taking care of what you don't want
to do. Learn to do for yourself. You are 33 yrs. old act it.

Above is the opinion of the writer; nothing more.

Had a man and our situation was the same.
I opened a secret acct under my sisters address and saved money quietly
on the side. I played the June Cleaver role and did everything to keep
the peace during my final days.
One day out of the blue he came home to find all of my things gone.
I moved to the next town and started my whole life over. It was the
smartest thing I ever did.
You just have to come to the point were enough is enough- for your own
sanity and peace of mind.
Love does not possess and control. It gives you the room to be yourself.
Love adds and multiplies-It does not subtract or divide.

Hey Greeneyes, How Ya" feeling? White wolf, you probably don't watch Dr
Phil or read Dear Abbey, but when I'm in a bad situation, I alway ask
myself "What would Dr Phil say." And I get my answer. You'll find that
answer in the advice given by the people above me.

Personal I would just pack my bags and leave for she's not doing
anything but using you man. She don't want you seem like she just want
to control your money. You can do better and plus be a lot happy if you
find some one who is more into you trust me there is someone out there
for you:) Peace out!!!!

hay hun just stop the cash save it and move out life is to short to put
up withthat

good point Hotmomma:)

pack your stuff and leave !!

Well, if you've told her 20 times you want to leave, but you are still
there......huh....I mean, is she supposed to take you seriously? At some
point you either need to get some extensive professional help for the
two of you, or buck up and cut your losses. Playing this "should I stay
or should I go" card isn't getting you anywhere......

1) you should have left the second you got tired of her
2) you are only hurting yourself by staying
3) you obviously dont love yourself enough to make sure YOU are happy.
4) SUGGESTION: after you read this. shut down this computer. get your
things. put them in the car. go to a hotel room. look for a new place to
live.
5) avoid contact with her, she can bring nothing good to you. Even if
you "work things out" you will both remember these times and they will
only bring heartache later.
6) a clean break is the only way to go
7) start dating again

Lily, you are really Dr. Phil in disguise. Hang out a shingle, girl.
You're talent's being wasted here. I mean it!

Rolling threw but I feel that you just should leave and be done with
it:) the longer you stay the unhappy you'll be and not to meant broke:(
Point check I'm out of here:)

I agree with Oldsage here...

your money,your life,move out without a fight...

just up and go...can't argue with a person,
about what is yours,
and you should never give up your life to another...

be a man...stand on your own feet!!!

I wouldnt pick a fight she may throw you out without your money
but I think you need to move on find yourself then find someone who
likes you for you,you shouldnt have to change for anybody to like you be
yourself

YEH I AGREE..U ARE AN ADULT HERE..FIGHTING ISNT GOING TO GET U ANYWHERE,
I WOULD JUST LEAVE..U HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY..U DONT NEED THAT CRAP

I don't understand how she has control of your money. Money you have in
an account? Is this an extensive amount of money? Can't you go to the
bank and close the account?

Sushi, you are a doll!

greeneyedlady42, you and I are very much alike. I did the same damned
thing - I hid money in a bank account in my mom's name until I moved
out. If I hadn't done that, I would have had the necessary down payment
on my house. We do what we need to do.

ok, a very important word left out of that post - If I hadn't "hid" my
money, I would NOT have had the money to close on my house.

here is a thought...why dont you girls keep your jobs when you hook up
with a guy. dont expect him to take care of you. and kids are no excuse,
you should not have one if you wont be able to support him alone. you
ladies should really become self sufficient.