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Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Wed 04/30/08 06:32 PM
When you have pulled away from a woman, why do you show up out of the blue? They ALWAYS come back..... ALWAYS.... that is not true lily, I dont........ever

James4868 Joined Sun 08/12/07 Posts: 11	Wed 04/30/08 06:34 PM
Well if he shows up out of the blue takes you to lunch he want to gauge your reactions during the conversations. You said he wanted to be friends but it would be to hard for you because of your past feelings for him. That is not what he wanted to hear. He was probably looking for a sex with no strings and when you told him how you felt he knew he wasn't going to get what he wanted and that's why he will not pick up your calls and unfortunately he probably won't unless he's had one to many to drink.and I'm trying to say that in the nicest way possible.

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Wed 04/30/08 06:37 PM
Well if he shows up out of the blue takes you to lunch he want to gauge your reactions during the conversations. You said he wanted to be friends but it would be to hard for you because of your past feelings for him. That is not what he wanted to hear. He was probably looking for a sex with no strings and when you told him how you felt he knew he wasn't going to get what he wanted and that's why he will not pick up your calls and unfortunately he probably won't unless he's had one to many to drink.and I'm trying to say that in the nicest way possible. Sex is not in the equation. he stoppd some time ago. He would spend the night but, only sleep.

James4868 Joined Sun 08/12/07 Posts: 11	Wed 04/30/08 06:42 PM
Sometimes men do value a good friendship and if you guys had a good time together maybe he misses that. Maybe he needs a friend more than a gf and if that's the case maybe you should put your feelings aside and be his friend. All great relationships start as friends.

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Wed 04/30/08 06:44 PM
Sometimes men do value a good friendship and if you guys had a good time together maybe he misses that. Maybe he needs a friend more than a gf and if that's the case maybe you should put your feelings aside and be his friend. All great relationships start as friends. thank you James. I truely do appreciate what you have told me. I would not know what to think otherwise.

James4868 Joined Sun 08/12/07 Posts: 11	Wed 04/30/08 06:50 PM
Glad to be some help!

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Wed 04/30/08 07:08 PM
When you have pulled away from a woman, why do you show up out of the blue? They ALWAYS come back..... ALWAYS.... that is not true lily, I dont........ever You've never been with me sugar....ALWAYS come back....

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Wed 04/30/08 07:53 PM
2 words.....misguided insecurity.... have you ever noticed the guy that has the secure relationship always wants what his single buddies have....when they want what he has....

Crashy Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 808	Wed 04/30/08 07:54 PM
sry ladies cant help any

UplandHunter Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 8066	Wed 04/30/08 07:55 PM
I don't...when its over its over...had many show up, text or call me out of the blue.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Wed 04/30/08 08:04 PM
When you have pulled away from a woman, why do you show up out of the blue? I never have done that if i'm understanding this question, but usually that means what ever they had going on didn't work out and think that they can come back and play with you.

smuflicker Joined Mon 08/06/07 Posts: 4019	Thu 05/01/08 03:56 AM
When you have pulled away from a woman, why do you show up out of the blue? It could be a few reasons. The first being we've met someone else and after that blows up in our faces we go back to the person we think hasn't given up on us. The second being maybe we weren't ready for what the woman wanted and we bail only to have it in the back of our mind that that is still an option for us. The third could be purely sexual. Thank you James. I think you have the most insightful answer's. That's what I'm looking for. they were good answers. myself...if i was to brake it off with someone,i wouldn't return. one thing i would say is maybe his just scared of the relationship.