Topic: Boyfriend ARGHs...
BizarreKelley's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:52 PM
My boyfriend have been seeing eachother for about 2 months, and "together" for about a month. We knew eachother about 2 months before we started dating. I have the most amazing time with him, but sometimes we just don't get along. And he'll say things that make me think I am totally out of line (like, "Ya big baby") even if he's laughing... which just makes me even more frustrated! And I try to communicate with him that something is upsetting me, to try to discuss it and come to some kind of resolution or understanding, and he totally avoids the issue and pushes it all off on me like it's all my fault. I'm not sure what to do about it or how to get him to understand that I am legitimately upset and need to resolve the issue! His response tonight was, "You're difficult sometimes." and then he left. :cry:

Etrain's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:55 PM
maybe time to move ondrinker drinker drinker

Cambolaya65's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:55 PM
.....bad

no photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:55 PM
The truth~~ He is playing you in order to have it all his way. It will eventually get to the point where you don't even bother to question him or yourself. It's "funny" to him, but it will seriously get to the point where you have done nothing but denegrate yourself in order to be with him. Call a counselor and ask if he/she has a list of what to look for in a relationship. Been there, done that........... ohwell

sexxyandsingle's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:57 PM
Another chapter in the book ma friend happy drinker

beccaloveslife's photo
Sun 04/27/08 09:59 PM
No dude should put you down. Its only been 2 months. Not long enough to get attached. Find a man who will call you beautiful 24-7.

BizarreKelley's photo
Sun 04/27/08 10:00 PM
I've heard from someone that it's too early in the relationship to be have disagreements like we do. I mean, when he doesn't get enough sleep, he is a BEAR. And, you know, I have been sleep deprived since I was probably about 15, and somehow I manage to not be *****y to everyone around me all the time. And maybe I'm just being selfish in expressing that I have needs that aren't being met. I don't know. And I know that for a couple to be successful they must have good communication skills, and I am really trying to have open communication, especially when something's wrong, and it's falling on deaf ears, I think.

floh's photo
Sun 04/27/08 10:02 PM
Edited by floh on Sun 04/27/08 10:03 PM
don't ever let anyone make you feel bad...no matter how long you've been together...that is unacceptable

Winx's photo
Sun 04/27/08 10:08 PM

My boyfriend have been seeing eachother for about 2 months, and "together" for about a month. We knew eachother about 2 months before we started dating. I have the most amazing time with him, but sometimes we just don't get along. And he'll say things that make me think I am totally out of line (like, "Ya big baby") even if he's laughing... which just makes me even more frustrated! And I try to communicate with him that something is upsetting me, to try to discuss it and come to some kind of resolution or understanding, and he totally avoids the issue and pushes it all off on me like it's all my fault. I'm not sure what to do about it or how to get him to understand that I am legitimately upset and need to resolve the issue! His response tonight was, "You're difficult sometimes." and then he left. :cry:


I know somebody like that. When they push it all off on you, they are manipulating and getting the attention off of themselves. It is very frustrating. But..they are controlling the situation that way. They are also being self-centered.

ltlone43's photo
Sun 04/27/08 10:10 PM
I was dating a guy a couple of weeks ago that told me I "could stand to lose a few pounds" I weigh 95lbs...wtf!!??
I will not date anyone that is so degrading to me or others. I kicked his butt to the curb!

I hope you do too.

codelockbox's photo
Sun 04/27/08 10:17 PM
sad sad

Kevrides's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:41 PM
Fact is if he says that sometimes you are difficult then you probably are. Difficult for him to deal with.

Stop pouting ya big baby.

Single_Rob's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:43 PM
Edited by Single_Rob on Mon 04/28/08 02:46 PM

No dude should put you down. Its only been 2 months. Not long enough to get attached. Find a man who will call you beautiful 24-7.
but I got so attached to you in our short time here together, but I havea hairy chest :cry:

DebbieJT's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:45 PM
say bye bye while kicking his bum out of the door

Totage's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:48 PM

My boyfriend have been seeing eachother for about 2 months, and "together" for about a month. We knew eachother about 2 months before we started dating. I have the most amazing time with him, but sometimes we just don't get along. And he'll say things that make me think I am totally out of line (like, "Ya big baby") even if he's laughing... which just makes me even more frustrated! And I try to communicate with him that something is upsetting me, to try to discuss it and come to some kind of resolution or understanding, and he totally avoids the issue and pushes it all off on me like it's all my fault. I'm not sure what to do about it or how to get him to understand that I am legitimately upset and need to resolve the issue! His response tonight was, "You're difficult sometimes." and then he left. :cry:



flowerforyou

Not a good sign. I would leave him.

flowerforyou

Totage's photo
Mon 04/28/08 02:51 PM

I've heard from someone that it's too early in the relationship to be have disagreements like we do. I mean, when he doesn't get enough sleep, he is a BEAR. And, you know, I have been sleep deprived since I was probably about 15, and somehow I manage to not be *****y to everyone around me all the time. And maybe I'm just being selfish in expressing that I have needs that aren't being met. I don't know. And I know that for a couple to be successful they must have good communication skills, and I am really trying to have open communication, especially when something's wrong, and it's falling on deaf ears, I think.


It's not selfish to express that you have needs that aren't being met. Communication is very important in a relationship, if you can't communicate, it's time to move on.

Winx's photo
Mon 04/28/08 03:16 PM

Fact is if he says that sometimes you are difficult then you probably are. Difficult for him to deal with.

Stop pouting ya big baby.


huh

No1sLove's photo
Mon 04/28/08 03:22 PM
If you're no getting along already, how could things possibly get any better? ohwell

BlueskyJ's photo
Mon 04/28/08 04:08 PM
And I try to communicate with him that something is upsetting me, to try to discuss it and come to some kind of resolution or understanding, and he totally avoids the issue and pushes it all off on me like it's all my fault. I'm not sure what to do about it or how to get him to understand that I am legitimately upset and need to resolve the issue! His response tonight was, "You're difficult sometimes." and then he left.


I'm not with you & your boyfriend....but i've been around enough women to know that sometimes its just best to STFU and leave things alone....

now if you insist....expect more of this, "and then he left" :wink:

clokeefe's photo
Mon 04/28/08 05:24 PM
Dump Him it will only get worse!