I have a friend, that I grew up with, her and her son came over tonight, and she asked me a ? that I cant stop thinking about. She said, " Lisa, if you have a friend that started seeing/ dating an ex of yours, how would you feel?" (My first thought in my head was, ok who the hell are you seeing that I use to be with) I responded with, " Well, I guess it would depend on the friend, and I personally would never go behind a friend, never have, never will-there are just some lines you do not cross with friendships, but be a woman and tell that friend for sure!" I then asked her did the ? she asked me, pertain to me in any way, she said no, but I just cant shake this feeling that she is not being honest with me. Her and her son just left, so now I am asking JSH for their thoughts on the ?

go with your gut instinct on it

Time will certainly tell.

If she really is seeing your ex then he should be fair game as long as you two split on good terms.

Hmmm this is a touchy subject, my only suggestions are these wait and see, and 2 you must realise that if she is just becauses shes dating say one of you're x's doesnt really mean all that much, it simply means and I say this without trying to be offencive that you and him merily werent capatible however there may be a great compatiblity between them.
if it does turn out this way despite how you feel you should atleast try to seem happy for her.

Unless he was a absuive/cheating ass hole then rip that **** apart!

Thats true but if that is so, now lisa's been lied to.

None of my exs were on good terms.... I kept asking her, who she was referring to, and all she would say is, I was just asking in general, noone in particular. I DO NOT believe that tihs though.... Something is up, and I agree, time will tell. I am not one to put up with drama in my life, I avoid it, or if it happens, I will dismiss the problem-out of my life, I dont put up with it, and if that is what it is, then it will come to light.

All I can say sweets is a womans intuition is a very powerful thing and I believe you should listen to yours!!

Agree. and she is one who knows all of the good/ bad of all my relationships too... One of those kinds of friends, or so I think huh..

Booty call!!!

Is it possible she could be seeing someone else's X and was wondering how you would handle it? I do agree with what someone else said however....trust your gut. It's usually right!

I think so too, and I know that I know this, but I just needed to talk about it, because I know what is up.... I guess kind of preparing myself talking with you guys.

I guess because I, myself, would never do that to a friend-associate-whatever.... I am not that kind of person, and for someone to do that to me, if that is what is going on, IT WILL HURT ME, and I know this.... Like I told her, WOMAN UP, if that is what she is doing, be enough of a woman and tell her friend that is what is going on, whether it be me, or another one of her friends, whoever....

Man, once my ex is officially an ex, he is free for the taking. Why get testy about it? An ex is an ex......unless you harbor romantic feelings for the person still......

My female friends from my inner circle... I wouldn't do that to them... and would hope they wouldn't do that to me.

If it's not a close friend... eh... who cares.

However, my ex husband is up for grabs... and he's a pretty decent guy.... I would be fine if he dated someone I love... and was EXCELLENT to my daughter.

Not testy about him, she is my friend. We grew up together,lived together, had our kids together, raise the kids together, hang out almost daily, etc.... Nothing to do with him at all- if that is the case, I could care less about his zza. It is about the friendship issue... How do you handle this when/ if she is seeing/dating an ex?

eh, just shank her.