Topic: waiting
lilith401's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:33 PM

I agree with you on this one. Someone carnal impulses take over flowerforyou


Exactly.... there were strong feelings before the IRL meet and in person, well... blushing

I think that it was just right.

Jill298's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:34 PM



Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away?

itsmetina's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:35 PM



Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

emilie013's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM


I agree with you on this one. Someone carnal impulses take over flowerforyou


Exactly.... there were strong feelings before the IRL meet and in person, well... blushing

I think that it was just right.

Right. I just think putting time limits on things like this is limiting. Attraction and passion at the beginning of a relationship is rarely a bad thing. Why wait the expected 3 months just for the sake of it? Life is short.drinker

Thomas27's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM




Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away?

If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know.

Lily0923's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM
I dated someone for 9 months and didn't have sex...course came to find out he was gay....grumble

Waited 3 months with my ex husband.

But usually a couple weeks to a month or so...give or take.

Citizen_Joe's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM

whats the max u'd wait to have sex once you entered a relationship?


One second after she said okay. devil

Jill298's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM





Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away?

If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know.
laugh laugh well there could be a lot of reasons that it wasn't good. Like maybe she was nervous or inexperienced. idk I never got accused of being badlaugh

Thomas27's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM




Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive.

me2g's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM


8-9 months before id start raising the issue..
laugh u prudelaugh

hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. blushing laugh

emilie013's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM



8-9 months before id start raising the issue..
laugh u prudelaugh

hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. blushing laugh

how romantic. laugh laugh bigsmile

Jill298's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:38 PM



8-9 months before id start raising the issue..
laugh u prudelaugh

hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. blushing laugh
laugh laugh well I hope for your sake you never ever tell her you wanna "stick it"laugh

Jill298's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:39 PM





Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive.
so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her?

Thomas27's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:39 PM






Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away?

If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know.
laugh laugh well there could be a lot of reasons that it wasn't good. Like maybe she was nervous or inexperienced. idk I never got accused of being badlaugh

Even if she was a bad kisser, I'd have to think twice. I like to look forward to kissing someone, same with sex too.

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Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM

8-9 months before id start raising the issue..



You can go pick up your wings in the second office on the left....


Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez
noway noway noway noway noway

jtip1977's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM
Until it felt right...........or 2 hours....whatever came first.laugh laugh laugh

me2g's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM




8-9 months before id start raising the issue..
laugh u prudelaugh

hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. blushing laugh
laugh laugh well I hope for your sake you never ever tell her you wanna "stick it"laugh

LMAO... I can HONESTLY say I have NEVER had a 1 night stand.. dont plan on it either.. ive always known the woman for at least 2-3 months.. yeah!! so I move slow.. I want her to KNOW that I want her for who she is.. not what she lets me do to her..flowerforyou

itsmetina's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM






Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive.
so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her?
i'm guessing so.

Thomas27's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:43 PM






Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking?
so ur saying ya need a sample 1st

Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship.
agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive.
so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her?

No, I left after she told me it was ok and we didn't need a condom. She also said it would be ok for me to ejaculate (she used another word) in her. Had I done it, I would have been shopping at Wal-mart for that std kit.

Sad thing is, she was stone cold sober!

DestinysDream's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:43 PM
I don't put a time limit on it and it's never really been an issue. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. I don't think there shouldn't be hangups about it. When it happens it should be natural because it is completely normal. That's my opinion but I disagree with people who think it's a dirty thing. (Probably why it's never been an issue.)