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Topic: waiting
lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 04/25/08 12:33 PM
I agree with you on this one. Someone carnal impulses take over Exactly.... there were strong feelings before the IRL meet and in person, well... I think that it was just right.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/25/08 12:34 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away?

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Fri 04/25/08 12:35 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy

emilie013 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 235	Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM
I agree with you on this one. Someone carnal impulses take over Exactly.... there were strong feelings before the IRL meet and in person, well... I think that it was just right. Right. I just think putting time limits on things like this is limiting. Attraction and passion at the beginning of a relationship is rarely a bad thing. Why wait the expected 3 months just for the sake of it? Life is short.

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away? If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM
I dated someone for 9 months and didn't have sex...course came to find out he was gay.... Waited 3 months with my ex husband. But usually a couple weeks to a month or so...give or take.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Fri 04/25/08 12:36 PM
whats the max u'd wait to have sex once you entered a relationship? One second after she said okay.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away? If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know. well there could be a lot of reasons that it wasn't good. Like maybe she was nervous or inexperienced. idk I never got accused of being bad

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive.

me2g Joined Fri 02/08/08 Posts: 1285	Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM
8-9 months before id start raising the issue.. u prude hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman..

emilie013 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 235	Fri 04/25/08 12:37 PM
8-9 months before id start raising the issue.. u prude hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. how romantic.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/25/08 12:38 PM
8-9 months before id start raising the issue.. u prude hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. well I hope for your sake you never ever tell her you wanna "stick it"

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/25/08 12:39 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive. so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her?

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 04/25/08 12:39 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. well if you got 5 or 6 dates and things seem to be going well... couldn't u teach a few things to her before walking away? If she hasn't learned by now..... I don't know. well there could be a lot of reasons that it wasn't good. Like maybe she was nervous or inexperienced. idk I never got accused of being bad Even if she was a bad kisser, I'd have to think twice. I like to look forward to kissing someone, same with sex too.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM
8-9 months before id start raising the issue.. You can go pick up your wings in the second office on the left.... Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM
Until it felt right...........or 2 hours....whatever came first.

me2g Joined Fri 02/08/08 Posts: 1285	Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM
8-9 months before id start raising the issue.. u prude hey now.. she asked what how long i would wait.. its not to say i wouldnt stick it after 5 minutes with the right woman.. well I hope for your sake you never ever tell her you wanna "stick it" LMAO... I can HONESTLY say I have NEVER had a 1 night stand.. dont plan on it either.. ive always known the woman for at least 2-3 months.. yeah!! so I move slow.. I want her to KNOW that I want her for who she is.. not what she lets me do to her..

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Fri 04/25/08 12:41 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive. so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her? i'm guessing so.

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Fri 04/25/08 12:43 PM
Shouldn't sex be a factor in determining whether or not you would want a relationship with that person? Just asking? so ur saying ya need a sample 1st Not necessarily, but if we are just dating and sex happened after 5 or 6 dates and it was bad or something. I probably wouldn't hang around for the serious relationship. agreed but i've also known men to discard women that were 2 easy I have discarded one recently for that same reason, very unattractive. so did you sleep with her before you "discarded" her? No, I left after she told me it was ok and we didn't need a condom. She also said it would be ok for me to ejaculate (she used another word) in her. Had I done it, I would have been shopping at Wal-mart for that std kit. Sad thing is, she was stone cold sober!

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Fri 04/25/08 12:43 PM
I don't put a time limit on it and it's never really been an issue. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. I don't think there shouldn't be hangups about it. When it happens it should be natural because it is completely normal. That's my opinion but I disagree with people who think it's a dirty thing. (Probably why it's never been an issue.)