I have a question? Im the type of guy that will tell a friend thats thinking about getting back with an ex girlfriend to let them go. Ill say if you guys broke up the first time it happened for a reason. Well now im in the same situation myself. Because im not back into dating i like having my freedom from clinging woman and ex's. I have a ex that i like to still spend time with on and off but now she's been trying to have me spend more time with her and shes wanting me to get back with her. Now this is where it gets difficult for me because im the one who got rid of her for no reason at all and she was prolly the greastet woman to be with a guy like me. So i feel at fault for the last time and belive that she feels we need another chance.It is nice to have someone with you,but its been so long since we had been together so should i just give in and accept that i should give this another chance for her sake for feeling guilty for the first flaw which could ruin our friendship if it dosent work but at the other end if i dont want to be with her again either she'll not want to be frinds with me because im not willing to date her or she'll find someone else and ill have the feeling that she was suppose to be the one from the start now i have a second offer to take the chance. I dont know Im not into dating anymore because of last relationships went sour but I may like it because she was a good woman to be with. A lil help people its complicated either which way is a good choice but whats more suitable in your prospective?

theres an underlying reason. u dont just break up with some one for no reason. there was a reason somewhere...find it. and go with ur gut. if u really truely care about her. then go for it. if not, then dont.

Fix the reason why you broke up to begin with and then see about doing round 2!

i don't believe that you will know the answer until you give it another try.yes we tell ourselves if this ever happens i'd do things this way but then when things happen to us we might feel diffrent.take a chance if love is still there.have as many good times with the person u love as u can

leave it, its not fair on her or you..your obviously not sure or you wouldnt be asking...plus it didnt work out the first time so chances are it wont the second...you may loose a friend..but then is she really a friend if she walks away because you wont go out with her..and is it the thought of her been with someone else that worrys you..ie a case of i dont want but dont want anyone else to have either..think hard before you jump in again hun

Well thanks this is like a having a million dr.phils or Phileets to have help you in some descions. Im really going to take it in consideration and keep the update on it. Thanks BD

i say don't think sorry deb.i'm a romantic.u feel the love then just go for it don't waste another minute

Mmhh sounds like u had one of these LONG relationships..like the "common law marriage type" like 1+years (IMO)..lol
and u felt like exploring the waters and that is really the reason on why you broke up..u wanted to date other people..and sniff around a bit..seems to me like u are not really digging that too much, after a while the sniffing gets old..b/c lets face it the world is pretty brutal being single and all, we sometimes don't know what we are msissing until it is gone..really...just my 2 cents..
Do some soul searching bra..and see if this is the woman for ya..don't settle..but if it was all cool beans b4, no major issues like cheating or big differences or fights, then maby get back together..

guilt should never ever ever be a reason to get with or back with someone - stay friends and time will tell.

its ok...guess my old age and cynical views can be a bit duh lol..i love romance and love...but i also look at the other side and sometimes you have to walk away

debbie u r still young.i just think life is short if u think u still feel love just enjoy it

So what your saying is that if she were your friend....you would tell her not to get back together with a guy who dumped her for no good reason?

If she gives you another shot, you might want to rethink the advise you give your friends from then on.

Unless there was a real conflict that caused the break up, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't see if it can work this time. You were probably in a little different place than you're at now. Good luck with whatever you do.

oh i am lol..hows you anyway hun??did it go ok??

yeah debbie no pamps but only got lotion for my skin no real help

move on....

typical..hope you can sort,you know where i am if you need to chat hun

debbie u r a sweety.the laughter i get from here helps