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Topic: I Just Do Not Understand
Mikentexas101 Joined Fri 09/28/07 Posts: 233	Wed 04/23/08 07:40 AM
i see it all the time......guys are ****s....... well not all of them but there are a lot of them that just leave and don't want anything to do with there own kids. it really does suck on the kids cause they usally grow up wondering what it was they did wrong and it never is about them but you can never really explain that to them I hate to hear this because I am a single dad raising 4 wonderful boys. It makes me sooo mad to hear about how some guys can be that way. i agree.....i have a couple of friends with kids and the way that they say the father treats the kids makes me sick... tell them you will be there and never show up...what kind of father does that......... I think the term you are looking for is sperm donor.

hauveralan Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 2827	Wed 04/23/08 07:41 AM
I admire each and every man that steps up and takes responsibility. It takes a lot of strength and courage to do it. And I respect each and everyone of you guys thank you...its hard but it is the best thing for my son... i don't beleive he gets enough love from his mother...right now she is to busy doing her own thing

hauveralan Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 2827	Wed 04/23/08 07:42 AM
i see it all the time......guys are ****s....... well not all of them but there are a lot of them that just leave and don't want anything to do with there own kids. it really does suck on the kids cause they usally grow up wondering what it was they did wrong and it never is about them but you can never really explain that to them I hate to hear this because I am a single dad raising 4 wonderful boys. It makes me sooo mad to hear about how some guys can be that way. i agree.....i have a couple of friends with kids and the way that they say the father treats the kids makes me sick... tell them you will be there and never show up...what kind of father does that......... I think the term you are looking for is sperm donor. oh is that the term now ok

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Wed 04/23/08 07:43 AM
If I wanted a sperm donor I would of saved myself all the heartache and headaches and went to a sperm bank.

sweetbilly Joined Sat 08/04/07 Posts: 518	Wed 04/23/08 07:48 AM
It's really sad when parents don't take time for their kiddos. I personally value the time that I get to spend with mine. If I can't see them then I at least call them often. The problem is that people certainly know how to make kids, but often forget how to love and care for them. BTW... my thought is that if someone neglects their kids that much then they certainly are not a person that can be in a good healthy relationship and are simply a self seeking individual anyway. I'm talking more about the person who really just has an I don't give a rip attitude. I am blessed to have a great connection with my kids and go out of my way to not just do my responsibility, but find it a joy.

hellkitten54 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 11707	Wed 04/23/08 08:22 AM
I mean look at that face! He is priceless. How can his father NOT give a crap about him? My little boy has NEVER done anything wrong. My ex is an a$$hole. How can he be so cold hearted? Sweetie, I'm in the same boat. My sons father doesn't want anything to do with him either. They will regret it one day.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Wed 04/23/08 08:41 AM
I mean look at that face! He is priceless. How can his father NOT give a crap about him? My little boy has NEVER done anything wrong. My ex is an a$$hole. How can he be so cold hearted? Sweetie, I'm in the same boat. My sons father doesn't want anything to do with him either. They will regret it one day. I guess I can look at the bright side. While growing up with me he will learn to respect women and then become a better man then his father was.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 04/23/08 08:43 AM
the father's loss, you do right by your child and enjoy all the joys that kids bring

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 04/23/08 11:35 AM
I stopped asking why a long time ago! There will be azzholes everywhere in life......its sad they take it out on our kids but Ive just learned all you can do is accept......and forgive!

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Fri 04/25/08 03:23 PM
Not all people were meant to be parents.It's that simple.they don't want to be trapped by the awesome responsibility.don't dwell on it.just love your son and make sure he has positive male role models in his life.