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Topic: does anyone else feel like this??
wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Tue 04/22/08 11:41 AM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? That is such a shame.That little girl deserves better.Why don't she give her to someone that wants her. She should use birth control if she does not want kids. I can't think of any thing better than to have my kids. Would not trade them for anything in the world.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 11:41 AM
Regardless to how she feels victimized by her own actions, she should not be putting that out there in front of the child. The child did not ask to be here so it not her fault she was born. I would tell your sister that too without any qualms about it. Of course I am blunt and honest like that so maybe you cannot be that blunt. im not talking about my sister.

Adam745 Joined Sat 04/19/08 Posts: 1	Tue 04/22/08 11:42 AM
Could be serious post pardom depression. Could be that she knows she's not cut out for parenthood since she had 3 previous abortions. Either way the child shouldn't suffer because of her. I would recomend that if she really doesn't want it then she needs give the child to family or friends if there's anyone willing to love the child before she decides to correct her mistake or she ruins the child's life. Adoption is also a possibility. The child will know it isn't wanted if it stays with her and that will cause great damage. Children are a blessing but some people just aren't ready for that. My ex-wife wasn't. She ended up leaving us when the baby was 14 months old. She did what she felt she had to and did it in a way that minimized damage so I don't begrudge her that. There's nothing wrong with someone admitting they can't handle the situation and taking steps to protect those who can be hurt by it. In fact it shows an incredible amount of maturity if done correctly. Also she may need some education on birth control.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 11:43 AM
I feel that if you have a child there was a reason for it...no matter the age...if you don't want anymore then learn what caused it and fix it...as for saying harsh things in front of your child is just wrong. If they don't want the child put it up for adoption. There is too many people out here that want children that can't have them for health reasons...they will love them unconditionally....I have 1 son and that was enough for me... this is a part of the reason i got so upset, because i might not be able to have kids, and shes got a beutiful little girl there and all she does is saw awful things, and beat her.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Tue 04/22/08 11:44 AM
Regardless to how she feels victimized by her own actions, she should not be putting that out there in front of the child. The child did not ask to be here so it not her fault she was born. I would tell your sister that too without any qualms about it. Of course I am blunt and honest like that so maybe you cannot be that blunt. im not talking about my sister. Sorry cousin

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 11:45 AM
Regardless to how she feels victimized by her own actions, she should not be putting that out there in front of the child. The child did not ask to be here so it not her fault she was born. I would tell your sister that too without any qualms about it. Of course I am blunt and honest like that so maybe you cannot be that blunt. im not talking about my sister. Sorry cousin

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 11:46 AM
Could be serious post pardom depression. Could be that she knows she's not cut out for parenthood since she had 3 previous abortions. Either way the child shouldn't suffer because of her. I would recomend that if she really doesn't want it then she needs give the child to family or friends if there's anyone willing to love the child before she decides to correct her mistake or she ruins the child's life. Adoption is also a possibility. The child will know it isn't wanted if it stays with her and that will cause great damage. Children are a blessing but some people just aren't ready for that. My ex-wife wasn't. She ended up leaving us when the baby was 14 months old. She did what she felt she had to and did it in a way that minimized damage so I don't begrudge her that. There's nothing wrong with someone admitting they can't handle the situation and taking steps to protect those who can be hurt by it. In fact it shows an incredible amount of maturity if done correctly. Also she may need some education on birth control. i dont think so, it started when she was born and carried on until she was 7, i dont speak to her now else it could still be happening now. so definintly not post natal depression

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Tue 04/22/08 11:47 AM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? If she didn't want kids she should have took the measures she needed to in order to make sure that she didn't get preg in the first place..you don't get preg you have no need for an abortion.

USmale47374 Joined Sun 06/24/07 Posts: 835	Tue 04/22/08 11:48 AM
Nobody with an IQ of less than 160 should be allowed to breed. That would certainly take care of the overpopulation problem in short order.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 11:50 AM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? If she didn't want kids she should have took the measures she needed to in order to make sure that she didn't get preg in the first place..you don't get preg you have no need for an abortion. you would think she would have learnt having 3 abortions already

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 04/22/08 11:52 AM
this woman is abusing her child mentally and the child will develope problems if something isnt done. she is very wrong. My son wasn't a wanted pregnancy either but i did the pro's and con's of abortion, adoption and keeping him. keeping him outweighed it and he is my world and would never do anything to abuse him

Hindzfeet Joined Mon 03/17/08 Posts: 146	Tue 04/22/08 11:56 AM
Having my son was the best thing that ever happened to me. As you can see hes in the pic with me. Its to bad she feels this way about her own child hopefuly the little one can overcome this.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 04/22/08 11:58 AM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? This is what i was talking about on another thredd. Women don't use this as a forum as a birth control. Sorry to say this, but tell your friend to keep her legs shut!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 12:00 PM
she did this to her daughter from the day she was born up until she was 7, when i no longer spoke to her anymore, i would think it carried on after i didnt talk to her anymore. when i was there and her mother was hitting her, shouting at her, saying horrible things, i would pick her up and take her out the room and played with her until her mom and calmed down. when i was gone, i dont know what went on behind closed doors. the social services were aware and there was no more i could do.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 12:01 PM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? This is what i was talking about on another thredd. Women don't use this as a forum as a birth control. Sorry to say this, but tell your friend to keep her legs shut!!! shes my cousin and i dont speak to her anymore, so i cant pass on any questions to her

Hindzfeet Joined Mon 03/17/08 Posts: 146	Tue 04/22/08 12:02 PM
she did this to her daughter from the day she was born up until she was 7, when i no longer spoke to her anymore, i would think it carried on after i didnt talk to her anymore. when i was there and her mother was hitting her, shouting at her, saying horrible things, i would pick her up and take her out the room and played with her until her mom and calmed down. when i was gone, i dont know what went on behind closed doors. the social services were aware and there was no more i could do. I personally would have reported her for this kind of behavior. No child should ever have to suffer this kind of abuse.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 12:04 PM
she did this to her daughter from the day she was born up until she was 7, when i no longer spoke to her anymore, i would think it carried on after i didnt talk to her anymore. when i was there and her mother was hitting her, shouting at her, saying horrible things, i would pick her up and take her out the room and played with her until her mom and calmed down. when i was gone, i dont know what went on behind closed doors. the social services were aware and there was no more i could do. I personally would have reported her for this kind of behavior. No child should ever have to suffer this kind of abuse. i did to social services, i have said that somewhere

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 04/22/08 12:04 PM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? This is what i was talking about on another thredd. Women don't use this as a forum as a birth control. Sorry to say this, but tell your friend to keep her legs shut!!! shes my cousin and i dont speak to her anymore, so i cant pass on any questions to her I'm sorry this is happening. If you could or if it was me. id try to get ahold of her and tell her if she doesn't want her daughter then give her to someone that will love her. It's sad how some people, my little sis was like this and i didn't speak to her for years untill she pulled her head out of her ass and realized that you just can't keep doing what she was doing.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Tue 04/22/08 12:06 PM
since day one of my cousin having her baby, she said on and off for years she wishes she didnt have her, and it was the biggest mistake of her life not aborting her. She said she would have aborted her, if the abortion was free, but because she had 3 abortions previous the health service makes you pay for any more abortions after 3. this used to upset me, and make me so mad, because she said things like this in front of her daughter. does anyone else think having kids ruined there life?? This is what i was talking about on another thredd. Women don't use this as a forum as a birth control. Sorry to say this, but tell your friend to keep her legs shut!!! shes my cousin and i dont speak to her anymore, so i cant pass on any questions to her I'm sorry this is happening. If you could or if it was me. id try to get ahold of her and tell her if she doesn't want her daughter then give her to someone that will love her. It's sad how some people, my little sis was like this and i didn't speak to her for years untill she pulled her head out of her ass and realized that you just can't keep doing what she was doing. i offered to have beth when she was a baby, i havnt saw her for a few years, so by now she can defend herself and ask for help

Hindzfeet Joined Mon 03/17/08 Posts: 146	Tue 04/22/08 12:08 PM
she did this to her daughter from the day she was born up until she was 7, when i no longer spoke to her anymore, i would think it carried on after i didnt talk to her anymore. when i was there and her mother was hitting her, shouting at her, saying horrible things, i would pick her up and take her out the room and played with her until her mom and calmed down. when i was gone, i dont know what went on behind closed doors. the social services were aware and there was no more i could do. I personally would have reported her for this kind of behavior. No child should ever have to suffer this kind of abuse. i did to social services, i have said that somewhere Yes you did but keep calling until you see results, sometimes are system doesnt work as well as it should and one must often become a thorn in thier side to get them to move.