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Topic: I have a Question ?
knightless Joined Sat 04/14/07 Posts: 402	Sat 04/19/08 05:13 PM
Maybe she's scared to open up, fear of rejection...most men can't handle the past, or they condemn the woman for what happened in the past, ...who really knows for sure why she isn't talking to you about it..

yashafox_F4X1 Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 2079	Sat 04/19/08 05:20 PM
This sounds like a problem. I doubt that she will change. It is unlikely. If you can live with this, continue the relationship. If you can't or won't deal with it, then it's time to move on. More than one fish in the sea, you know? God Bless You and good luck.

mag300 Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 102	Sat 04/19/08 06:55 PM
sound like there is something bothering her,,if you really like her stick around but back off a bit let her come to you,,,when she is ready she will tell you/jmo

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Sat 04/19/08 06:59 PM
Run Forrest run!

Shaden Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 6118	Sat 04/19/08 06:59 PM
You can either be patient or leave. Only you can decide what she's worth to you. Good answer. Maybe she is just having a hard time and give it a week or two. Let her come to you.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sat 04/19/08 07:01 PM
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62easygoing Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 4641	Sat 04/19/08 07:06 PM
maybe a short time for understanding...see if she will come around ...with your kindness , in your words and deeds to, and for her.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sat 04/19/08 07:08 PM
I've been involved with a great woman for about 6 months ! Things can be amazing one minute, but suddenly she, for no reason at all has a mood swing. She won't talk to me, she's not angry at me, but other stuff mostly from her past, but she won't discuss it with me. She distance herself from me, and it's impossible for me to help her. I'm ready to let go, can anyone give a valid reason why I should not? she has moodswings?she's a female,they all do that!

RacineSingle Joined Tue 04/08/08 Posts: 126	Sat 04/19/08 08:09 PM
IF she is a relatively stable person, it is a compliment that she even lets you know she is feeling down. What she wants is for you to "drag" it out of her, if she is a strong woman it is hard for her to be weak. IF she is a crazy psycho-b*tch...run...she's bi-polar. I also think she could be bi-polar. Give it a little longer, if she won't open up then move on.

TheLonelyWalker Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 11870	Sat 04/19/08 08:11 PM
I've been involved with a great woman for about 6 months ! Things can be amazing one minute, but suddenly she, for no reason at all has a mood swing. She won't talk to me, she's not angry at me, but other stuff mostly from her past, but she won't discuss it with me. She distance herself from me, and it's impossible for me to help her. I'm ready to let go, can anyone give a valid reason why I should not? runaway ASAP

RacineSingle Joined Tue 04/08/08 Posts: 126	Sat 04/19/08 08:12 PM
she has moodswings?she's a female,they all do that! NO we don't!! Men have them too!!

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Sat 04/19/08 08:23 PM
I did not read all the posts, but wanted to give my opinion. Coming from somebody that suffers anxiety and depression, I can tell you that it is really hard for me to open up to anybody. A lot of me thinks that nobody will understand and just think that I am nuts. But I'm not, I have had a lot of hardships in my life. Take two weeks ago for an example. I was out with my boyfriend and some friends. A couple of them went out for a smoke, and I went into a panic and just took off. Did not tell anybody where I was going or even why. I just needed out. I have distant myself from my boyfriend almost to the point he thought I did not want him around anymore. Which was not true. I still wanted him there, I still needed the support even if I did not say anything to him. Just the fact that he was there meant the world to me. I have cried in his arms, and he has asked me if there is anything that he could do, and I just said hold me. Just knowing that there is somebody willing to except me for me was more then enough. So to wrap things up, just be there for her. Even if she does not talk just try to be there for her eventually she will see that you really do care and are not there to hurt her. It took me 5 months before I was willing to open up to Will. But just knowing that he accepted me for me meant more then anything. Give it time. I know 6 months seems like a long time, but if you really care for somebody how can you put a time limit on it? Hope this helps. and I am sorry it is so long.

buckethand56 Joined Wed 09/20/06 Posts: 1081	Sat 04/19/08 08:44 PM
Hey whisper, how are you, haven't been on in a while, glad to see your still here