most of you know am in recovery from alcoholism.. and part of the program is forgiveing yourself and others for what you have done or what they have may have done to you..
back in 1996 i was sober 4 years ..and me and my brother mike had bad words with each other..and the time came when i had to make amends for the things i said... but he commited suicde before i coudl even say i was sorry...i know in my ehart he forgives me... what iam trying to say is be carful what you say to people around you and the ones you love .. you ,may never have that chance to say am sorry...i bring this up cuz ai friend of mine wont talk to her brother for something her did..i told her my story .. and she went to him and made the wrong right...

Agreed, Carpe Diem... but live each day as though it is your last. That is why I think you can never tell your loved ones "I love you" too many times. And you can still do so, (tell him) Steve. Something tells me that you do.

VERY WELL PUT. I ALSO BELIEVE THAT YOU SHOULD CHOOSE VERY CAREFULLY WHAT YOU BLOW AT SOMEONE FOR. YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF..."IF THIS PERSON WAS GONE TOMORROW...FOREVER...WAS IT WORTH IT TO SAY WHAT I SAID...OR ACT LIKE I ACTED?"

Thats good for what you are doing

everyday i do..

That's always wise yes....We never know when the day will come when we lose a loved one especially because it's not a definite how long we will spend on this earth...Making a wrong right as soon as possible and not letting foolish pride get in the way is always the best thing...that way there is never any regret....especially when the person is gone for good....

I firmly believe that when we pass away... we don't take any of our anger with us. my heart goes out to you, good luck

I'm in recovery also (16 yrs sober) and all we can do is share our experience, strength and hope with others. You shared a painful part of yourself with a friend and that's what it's all about.

20 years and counting.

And I do remember the 4th step inventory...

truer words could not have been spoken ~ and always pass it on

When I found I was not the father of my 2 yr old son, the anger and bitterness almost ate me alive. 3 yrs later I HAD to forgive. I couldn't stay sober otherwise. Over 26 yrs clean and sober now.

totally agreed. i'm sure your brother have already forgiven you.

I been around the program for about 19 years. I did stay clean for 5 years and in those 5 years i found out that i was not an alcoholic but did stick around and still go from time to time. Forgiving yourself is where it all starts. Making admends is a hard thing to do at times and some times the admends is not excepted but it's knowing that your doing the right thing for you in order to grow in life.

i made a mistake when i originally typed this
i wrote forgotten instead of forgiven
Sorry