I was at work, and every Thursday we have this group of regulars come in. And well when you see people often enough you tend to become friends. And that is what is happened with this one guy. I gae him my e-mail address thinking there was no harm in it. And tonight he asked me out. I told him that now was not a good time for me. As I just broke up with my boyfriend, and me going out with him would just be a rebound thing, which is not fair to either one of us. And that right now I think that friends is the best thing. He seemed to except that at the time. Until I got home and checked my e-mail and found this from him:

Hi Cutie,
It was certainly nice seeing you again, and I like the blue top you
were wearing, you look good in it. I gotta tell you Melissa, I really
like being around you. I feel comfortable with you when we're around
each other. Anyway, hope you got home safe. Thanks again for the
coffee, appreciate it. I want you to have my heart, the key is inside
when you're ready to come in.

Mike
xox

I do not want to hurt him, as he is a really nice guy, and I know from others that he really does take things to heart. How else can I let him down with out crushing him? And advice would be great guys.

Are you saying you'll never be interested in him, or just not now?

Just simply do what all the women do to me. Ignore him.

I have never figured it out. people do not handle rejection well. They cease talking to me immediately

wow

I can't ignore him. He is a regular at my work. So I will have to see him again.

I would think it quite obvious...he is saying that when your ready he will be there, which means not now, not necassarily later, but a possible future date. If you don't want a relationship keep it as friends, if he cares about you that much he won't mind.

I never really thought of him that way. He told me awhile ago out of the blue that I was too young for him.

Just don't give him any false hope. You seemed like you already clarified that with him though.

It just feels like pressure.

It looks like you already tried to let him down easy. Being honest about is all you can do.

introduce him to Mutual Matches and tell him he can find someone there...........


Or


Tell him something suddenly came up


OR


Or feed him the line, "Its not you its me"

Either wait it out until you are ready or just tell him you or not interested in that way. I know for me personally i would rather know.

I agree 100%. Just make sure you don't change your mind later, cuz chances are he won't want you after you've rejected him.

Then don't over-think it, if needs be ask him what he meant by it in private. There is no pressure as far as the email goes afterall it is just words typed onto a screen, if he sincerely wished to pressure you he would continously ask you out...face to face and upfront, not over the internet.

Easy way out for you. Tell him to join JSH and read your thread!

"I want you to have my heart, the key is inside
when you're ready to come in."

What kind of cheesy line is that. Tell him to get lost.

OK, so I responded to the e-mail. I lied in it, but I really hate being mean.

Here was my response:

I had a good walk home. Will called me on the way home. Mike you need to understand when you are in love with somebody it is not something that is easy to get over. Will means a lot to me. He is coming down tomorrow and we are going to try to talk things out. I'm really sorry. Again it would just be a rebound if I went out with you, and can you sit there and honestly tell me that it would be fair to either of us? You are really a great and very sweet person. You are a great friend. I that is all we should be. I hope that you can understand.

tell him you're not into guys

That's a good one.