Peace Everyone,

I met this guy on line last year (never face to face) and we had a lot
in common. (So I thought). We went back and forth for a few months with
this chat thingy....I wanted to see where we were going and just the
other day he confessed that he was a M&M=Married Man. Boy, I was
pissed!!! He originally said he was single.

If he is married, why would he be on a singles chat line?
Where is his wife while he's doing all of this chatting with me and lord
knows who else? To all the wives, "You need to step it up, if you want
to keep your husbands."

Personally, I do not get involved with Married Men but I guess a lot of
women don't mind. It is hard enough trying to be my mans #1, why would
I settle for being #2 of having someone elses leftovers. Ilk

Smooches from
The Queen Bee

some times you just have to play it by ear...

I'm divorced,and have papers to prove it!!!

That's nice to know, make sure you make extra copies and continue to
keep it real. Thanks for the feedback.....

I have the papers to prove that I am divorced too, so there are a few of
us out here, you just need to screen your choices carefully.

You got that right Dave....I will

micheal and dave why don't you guys ask queen for her email? scan your
divorce papers and email them to her?lol

lol-Joe

However, I'm serious....and don't forget still pissed off because he was
a liar. He didnt have to lie to me, he didn't know me from a can of
paint.....

Peace

i'm a single good man.

Hi Romee,

That is good to know, but are you sure....?????????????????????

some of it has to do with the site you go to and some of it is the ppl
your talking too. I'm a good guy never been married. Anyway you have a
good point bee where was his wife did she even care that he was chatting
online. alotta strange things happen online. LOL Just gotta be careful

no not all good man are gone. but to be honest, if you seem like a good
guy from the beginning you will get nothing, you will get friendship at
most. what sparks a woman's attention is not the tender nature of a man,
it's the edge, the feeling that he's not available and that if she
doesnt try to get his attention he might be gone for good, that he has
options, that he is sought after by many. and this is not just me
talking, there are rivers of data from psychological studies supporting
it. so if you want to get a woman, benice inside but know how to spark
her interest. once she makes a solid connection with you, she will have
time to discover your tender nature.

I know what you mean Queen Bee. I few years ago I placed a personals ad
in the local paper. This guy left a message and phone number in my
inbox, so I called him and we hit it off. We talked a few times on the
phone before deciding to meet. He told me that his car was in the shop
so I said that I didn't have a problem stopping by his place to pick him
up. When I got there he asked if I could wait inside his apartment while
he finished helping his friend fix something and again I said no
problem. Since it was late by the time he finished helping his friend we
decided to stay in watch a dvd and talk. He was nice, funny and we had
alot in common. This is where it starts to get weird. I stopped by his
place one night just by chance (a couple of days later) and when I got
there he let me in and I noticed he was packing his things up and had
pictures up of him and a woman, mind you the first time I was in his
apartment there were no boxes and no pictures. He said his dad just got
out of a relationship that ended badly and that he was going to go live
with his dad for a while to take care of him and help him out. Now, when
asked about the woman in the pic he said it was an ex-girlfriend. I know
red flags should have been going off and glowing and they probably did
but I just didn't pay attention. It gets better, his wife called a
couple of days later. When she asked if I knew him I told her yes and
when she asked if I knew he was married I told her No because he told me
he was single. The strange thing about all of this is that I met her and
she was a nice sweet lady. We talked about her asshole of a husband, who
had done this to her quite a few times before. When I called her a
couple of days later the phone was disconnected and I had no way of
contacting her. I would have liked to have been her friend because she
was a nice person who got a bad deal when she married this guy and that
if she ever needed to talk I would be there to listen. Men and women
should be honest because in the end the truth will bite you in the ass.

Nice Piffs good advice

hey queenbee and yea i'm very sure sweetie.

Hello Cashay, I feel you gurlfriend....It's like that sometimes. I don't
think I would ever go to a guys place like that. Please be careful, I
would definately have to meet him in public. If he didn't have a whip,
then he would have to take a cab. I guess that is a lesson for us both
to learn. Keep our guards up for the M&M's.

Nice Smile Romee......

oh thank you queenbee sweetie.

I always let a friend or family member know where I'm going and I call
them when I get there and when I leave. And, I have a friend who tells
me to call him if public turns to private so that he can follow me to
kind of check things out. Plus they always call my cell phone about
every 10, 15 or 20 minutes to check up on me when I'm out. This guy
wasn't going to try anything because he was busy trying to pass off the
girl that spent the night at his place as his cousin to his friends who
were also his upstairs neighbors who they were having dinner with and
trying to keep them from seeing me. He didn't keep them from seeing me
because his friend's wife sent her husband downstairs to return a vacuum
cleaner so he could find out what was going on. When I met with his wife
their friend's wife was there and she told us both that she had a
feeling the girl wasn't his cousin and that she saw me when he came
downstairs to met me and that he couldn't pass me off as his cousin
unless I was a step-cousin by marriage since I was black.

Cashay,

Gurl, isn't it a shame what a M&M will do?

If they wanted to be ballers, then why get married in the first place is
the ???????? They should stay single and mingle.

Needless to say, I am very cautious and I'm going to keep it movin' if I
have any doubt.