I had a girl ask me last night why I though that most guys won't date a girl becuase she has a kid/kids?

See I'm not that way. But is there really that many guys out there so full of themselves that won't date a girl just becuase she has a kid?

There are many men who prefer to date women without children. That is their preference and I'm okay with that. I have my preferences as well.

Kids are a big responsibility. So, dating someone with kids is something people really need to think about. It isn't for everyone.

ive dated guys with kids, and it didnt work out. i tried, and its not for me. mainly because i would have done things different. i dont think anone can judge me for that, as ive been there and tried.

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I'm not saying that... A guy asked a girl out, then in the middle of the first date she let him know she had a kid... he got up & walked away.

I def understand the responsibility part though... Being a step-parent myself, it is a big responsibility to take on. But every responsibility has its own reward.

agreed and agree with lilith as well

Sometimes, its a big issue. It depends on the situation. The best advice I could give, and I got this from someone older than me who got it from someone older than him, is that you cannot be a parent to her children, you must be their friend and mentor. But above all, you must love their mother and let her be the parent. If you try to be a parent to the child, you will most likely overstep the boundries and lose them.

I as a rule do not date women with kids, I don't want kids nor do I want to be some step daddy

I don't really agree with this part.. I have 2 step-kids, now while thier mother & I are no longer together. I'm still a parent to them, they come visit each week. And why tech i'm not thier step-dad anymore, they still respect me & treat me as such.

I prefer to date guys without kids...and I have a kid.

My situation is so much different than alot of peoples though. Most of the time either

A.) There is ex spouse drama, which I don't take well to.

B.) The other parent has nothing to do with the child, and I become Mom.

C.) The kids get shuffled around and their behaviour is horrible, and I don't want my daughter around it. She is very well behaved, and I don't like negative influences on her.

I'm not saying I won't date them, but I prefer not to.

At my age most women have grown children,,,, So no I don't have a problem with that.....

My son is older, which I dont think is a problem. At my age, very few dont have children so if someone didnt want to date me for that reason, well then that is their choice.

Im not looking for a baby daddy or someone to save me...and my son isnt looking for a new dad either. But it would be nice to connect with someone who will accept me for who/what I am and what comes with that!

I guess age plays into it too, I am an empty nester and to get involved with a man who has kids at home with him would be a tough one for me. Do I really want to go back to being mom 24/7? I don't know that I would want to do that.

My ex's son still comes over and stays with me, we hunt and shoot together, I help him with his truck and we have a good relatonshp. But, I don't try to be his "father", I am his step-father. I give him advice, I am his friend. His faher and I are friends, and when he gets in trouble with his dad, I support his father. We don't talk about his mother.

Maybe over time... that could happen, depending on the individuals involved. However...walking in and assuming the role of parent in a family that is used to doing things without you in the mix? Sounds like the fast track to alienating that family.