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Topic: Ok, I think Im doing it all wrong!!
hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:32 PM
Ok, so my son just turned a year old on March 25th. He is so sweet most of the time, but I can also sense that he may be a little spoiled. If I have something in my hand, that he wants and I say NO or put it away, he will pull a huge temper tantrum. When I take him to the park and he is walking around and I tell him NO, he doesn't even listen to me. Doesn't think twice about going about his business and doing whatever he wants.


I don't want him to be spoiled. I want him to be a thoughtful young man and mind and respect me. How does this happen?

ladyblack67's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:34 PM
just enact the disciplinary system, if a firm talking to doesn't do it, then take away the tv for a day or 2 (take the cable out or he will watch it anyway)

brian325's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:34 PM
Kool kid, he has my b'day

he's one, let's him be himself, then control him after 5 :tongue:

merlot42's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:35 PM
It will take two rolls of duck tape and a beer.... Tape him to the wall when he acts up and drink a beer...laugh laugh I'm sure he will be fine... just things all parents go through... Hang in there!!

Queene123's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:35 PM
hes still a baby he doesnt understand all the time.. all children are spoiled.. my cousin was telling her daughter something that totally suprised me and i actually wondered if she understood for that age. she now 10yrs old and i havent seen her sense she was 2yrs old.

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:36 PM

just enact the disciplinary system, if a firm talking to doesn't do it, then take away the tv for a day or 2 (take the cable out or he will watch it anyway)


He is only 1, a firm talking to doesn't work. And he could care less about TV.:tongue:

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:36 PM
The biggest thing is consistency... otherwise they get confused.

lilith401's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:36 PM
I found that an only child gets spoiled, it is just the degree you can control.

Try to fucus him away from "him". Try to use words other than "no" and say things such as "No thank you" if he is being unkind, or "later", "unsafe", "hot", "danger", "ouchie", "not yours", "mommy's"... that sort of thing. It directs the attention outward and helps him see things as belonging to others and can hurt him without using the word "no" all the time. That way, when you say "no" he is more apt to listen.

I found that to be very helpful.

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:37 PM

Kool kid, he has my b'day

he's one, let's him be himself, then control him after 5 :tongue:


Oh well then Happy Birthday to you. It is an awesome day!drinker

ladyblack67's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:37 PM


just enact the disciplinary system, if a firm talking to doesn't do it, then take away the tv for a day or 2 (take the cable out or he will watch it anyway)


He is only 1, a firm talking to doesn't work. And he could care less about TV.:tongue:
oohh, then just keep him in his crib for an hour

Jill298's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:37 PM
I would let my daughter throw her fit and ignore her... once she realized tantrums didn't get her what she wanted, she quit doing it. If she threw a fit at the park, I would remind her how we "would have been" going to the park, but since she didn't behave last time, we can't go for awhile.

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:37 PM

It will take two rolls of duck tape and a beer.... Tape him to the wall when he acts up and drink a beer...laugh laugh I'm sure he will be fine... just things all parents go through... Hang in there!!


laugh laugh laugh

Thanks!drinker

ladyblack67's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:37 PM

It will take two rolls of duck tape and a beer.... Tape him to the wall when he acts up and drink a beer...laugh laugh I'm sure he will be fine... just things all parents go through... Hang in there!!
laugh laugh laugh do that! I got taped to the wall once, the janitors had to come get me downsad sad

brian325's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:38 PM


Kool kid, he has my b'day

he's one, let's him be himself, then control him after 5 :tongue:


Oh well then Happy Birthday to you. It is an awesome day!drinker


thanks, just another getting older day to me, hope he get's better use out of it drinker

laughsandgiggles's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:39 PM
Temper tantrums are just their way to get attention- so if you tell him no when he wants something and you put it away- leave it put away and you leave the room- performing to an empty room is no fun- he will learn to stop if you do not react to them

in the park- when you tell him no or tell him to do something- and he ignores you---- this is a huge pain in the butt- but go get him - and take him home- he has to learn to listen to you and every action has a reaction.

My son did all that stuff- and he does not now- it stopped fast.

just remember he's only a baby- it'll come to him. bigsmile

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:39 PM

hes still a baby he doesnt understand all the time.. all children are spoiled.. my cousin was telling her daughter something that totally suprised me and i actually wondered if she understood for that age. she now 10yrs old and i havent seen her sense she was 2yrs old.


Thats the thing, I want to understand how to discipline him for his age. I feel so bad when I hear him cry. Tears me to pieces.brokenheart

mssilverfox's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:39 PM
March babies Rock,, mines the 28th, have two kids born in march too. bigsmile

mssilverfox's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:40 PM

It will take two rolls of duck tape and a beer.... Tape him to the wall when he acts up and drink a beer...laugh laugh I'm sure he will be fine... just things all parents go through... Hang in there!!





laughlaugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

hellkitten54's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:40 PM

The biggest thing is consistency... otherwise they get confused.


Yep, supernanny did teach me that. I am very consistent about things with him. But it seems there is something new everyday.grumble

ladyblack67's photo
Sun 04/13/08 05:41 PM

Temper tantrums are just their way to get attention- so if you tell him no when he wants something and you put it away- leave it put away and you leave the room- performing to an empty room is no fun- he will learn to stop if you do not react to them

in the park- when you tell him no or tell him to do something- and he ignores you---- this is a huge pain in the butt- but go get him - and take him home- he has to learn to listen to you and every action has a reaction.

My son did all that stuff- and he does not now- it stopped fast.

just remember he's only a baby- it'll come to him. bigsmile
I like her idea

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