no you dont need both parties to agree with the divorce infact the other party cant contest it either, but then it might take longer to be finalized

i have been separated for four years, and we have no contact, except for an occasional phone call, usually about business, he needs the insurance, he is self employed and I still carry on him else he could not get his diabetic meds, i don't want him to die, he has no one to marry just yet, i would not discount a guy who says this, i would watch out, but i would not discount him...

I have to say that I would date some separated .... it depends on the situation........ if they are in the process of a divorce then it is ok. The divorce can that a while and people like to get out and just date maybe not get real serious at first but that is ok. I was separated for 4 years waiting for him to file because I could not get money to file. So finally I went to a payday loan and got the money. So there can be many things that can be the reason for him to be separated. You have to look at the whole thing.

I refused to sign a paper or pay a lawyer so it took my ex 2 years to get his divorce. He could have had it in 6 months if he was willing to go "no fault", but he was trying to make me look bad. Getting married was his idea, the divorce was his idea, I just concentrated on protecting my daughter.

He has been married 5 times now & has 4 kids, each with a different mother. I never remarried or had another child.

Well the health issue is a totally different thing from what I'm talking about..I'm talkin bout the people who think they can string you along til they see whats gonna happen with the ex.

agreed.. my divorce took a year to be final...

and it gives you time to think about EVERYTHING!!
would complicate things to be seein somebody!!

Agree with you Italy,
There are some situations that mandate separation for long periods of time before the divorce becomes final. There are some people who tend to over analyze and create excess drama and issues...

Even if that's true, what does that mean he is offering you? He is still unavailable.

I had a friend that was dating this married guy..He said he couldn't leave his wife because of the kids..when I asked her how old the kids were..she said 14 and 16..THATS not staying for the kids..thats staying because you want to..a 14 and 16 year old are old enough to understand it when mom and dad say they aren't happy together anymore!

Seperated, but in the process of divorce? Or, just seperated? I dated while seperated in the process of divorce.. I filed for divorce with no intention of going back... ever!

Nope..not in process of divorce..just plain old separated..

Staying together for the kids MIGHT be a good idea, but not if you are going to cheat on their mother! That's not a good thing for them to see & kids are more aware than their parents might think.

I am seperated. Which means to me that I do not LIVE with my soon to be ex-husband. We'd been married 16 years and he left 2 months ago because he "found the love of his life", who is also married by the way. I filed for divorce the next week and hopefully we will have this nasty little process completed within the next 30 days. Life is too short. Would I date? You bet!! Why should I sit here when we both know its' over while he is living with another woman, who hasn't filed yet by the way. Each situation is different and I couldn't be happier with mine right now. I want to move on.

I am separated. I am NEVER going back. AND, I am not holding up my life because of that piece of sh*t.

Exactly.....Thank you.

I even have it in my profile
divorced for less then 2 years or seperated need not apply

I won't even consider them as dating material cause saperated still means married and divorced less then 2 years can still mean issues are still happening

Staying together for SMALL children might be ok..but at 14 and 16..You should be free to think of your own happiness and like you said children know more than their parents give them credit for,they know when something is wrong.

No Divoce! No Dates! that simple.No problem.

I was seperated from my ex since 2003 and got my divorce finalized late last year. Sometimes getting a divorce isn't that easy, since I couldn't find him for so long.

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