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Ok, so I am really confused in a way because although I know that I am a great girl (okay, when i wanna be), why is it that I always meet jerks, or people with serious problems? Why do these guys have to be completely insane? What happened to just being a little crazy, or quirky? Or how about meeting a guy that you just dont click with? That seems so rare today, because somehow it seems that most guys act like they just escaped from Looney Park Mental Hospital. I mean its not only me. Im sure that there are other females out there that feel the same way. Its not that I think all guys suck or that I am a man hater.I know that there are some really great guys out there. My frustration is how come everyone else can find their Romeo, but I cant? This to me just doesnt make sense. In reviewing all of my options, I sometimes wonder if its me. Is there something about me that is attracting partners that are not worthy? I hope not, because if that is the case, I have some serious soul searching to do to figure out why this is and what I can do to stop it. I begin to feel like there is something wrong with me when every time I turn around I meet a guy that initially seems great but eventually shows me that he is nuts, or does something that completely turns me off to them. Am I searching for things to give me an excuse to get rid of these guys, or do these guys really have problems? I think maybe its a little of both. I know for a fact that there are a lot of total whack jobs out there but I also will admit that , because of my track record of meeting psychos, when I do meet a good guy, I automatically wait to see what is wrong with him. I know he has to have a flaw and its only a matter of time before I discover what it is. And I dont imagine a minor flaw, its always something major, that will make me want to stop dealing with them completely. So when something does come up I am immediately ready to cut things off, because of course you have proved me right again, just like all the other guys. Im not sure what causes me to be this way; I think that its a defense mechanism that I have created for myself. I know how I get in a relationship. I am so ready to give you all of me, that I am scared. I dont want to give all of myself to someone that would not do the same for me. I dont want bad experiences to change me into a person that wouldnt put their all into making a relationship work. Because of this, I dont really want to let anyone in unless I feel that you are completely worthy, but how will I know that if I dont take the time to get to know you? Then the reverse side of things suck because when I do give a guy a chance he proves to be completely nuts and not worth my time. WTF! What is a girl to do?! Its like I just cant win either way. So is there something wrong with me for feeling the way I feel, or can it be expected that along my road to meeting Mr. Right I will have to meet lots of Mr. Completely Wrongs and Mr. Completely Psychos?
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Don't give up.I myself keep dating till I find her.
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You might want to start asking for a psychyiatrist's clearance before you start dating any new ones...
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 Was close to giving up... But I figured I'd give it another try...
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You might want to start asking for a psychyiatrist's clearance before you start dating any new ones...
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Ok, so I am really confused in a way because although I know that I am a great girl (okay, when i wanna be), why is it that I always meet jerks, or people with serious problems? Why do these guys have to be completely insane? What happened to just being a little crazy, or quirky? Or how about meeting a guy that you just dont click with? That seems so rare today, because somehow it seems that most guys act like they just escaped from Looney Park Mental Hospital. I mean its not only me. Im sure that there are other females out there that feel the same way. Its not that I think all guys suck or that I am a man hater.I know that there are some really great guys out there. My frustration is how come everyone else can find their Romeo, but I cant? This to me just doesnt make sense. In reviewing all of my options, I sometimes wonder if its me. Is there something about me that is attracting partners that are not worthy? I hope not, because if that is the case, I have some serious soul searching to do to figure out why this is and what I can do to stop it. I begin to feel like there is something wrong with me when every time I turn around I meet a guy that initially seems great but eventually shows me that he is nuts, or does something that completely turns me off to them. Am I searching for things to give me an excuse to get rid of these guys, or do these guys really have problems? I think maybe its a little of both. I know for a fact that there are a lot of total whack jobs out there but I also will admit that , because of my track record of meeting psychos, when I do meet a good guy, I automatically wait to see what is wrong with him. I know he has to have a flaw and its only a matter of time before I discover what it is. And I dont imagine a minor flaw, its always something major, that will make me want to stop dealing with them completely. So when something does come up I am immediately ready to cut things off, because of course you have proved me right again, just like all the other guys. Im not sure what causes me to be this way; I think that its a defense mechanism that I have created for myself. I know how I get in a relationship. I am so ready to give you all of me, that I am scared. I dont want to give all of myself to someone that would not do the same for me. I dont want bad experiences to change me into a person that wouldnt put their all into making a relationship work. Because of this, I dont really want to let anyone in unless I feel that you are completely worthy, but how will I know that if I dont take the time to get to know you? Then the reverse side of things suck because when I do give a guy a chance he proves to be completely nuts and not worth my time. WTF! What is a girl to do?! Its like I just cant win either way. So is there something wrong with me for feeling the way I feel, or can it be expected that along my road to meeting Mr. Right I will have to meet lots of Mr. Completely Wrongs and Mr. Completely Psychos? i married two psychos and a mr wrong.i think i have a gift. 
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You have already answered your question. Look inward as to 'why' you are attracting the strange ones. Look at everything about you...the way you dress, your outward demeanor, your speech, and even the places that you frequent.
Don't get discouraged about this advice, you may just need subtle changes to meet a better class of guy. I wish you the best 
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Paragraphs are our friend.
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Well looking at the other thread you have going here gives me a goos idea why you might have problems. A quality man dosn't want a woman who will talk about intimate sex details in a public forum. You are simply gorgeous, try acting like you deserve a quality man & I am sure you will find one.
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because somehow it seems that most guys act like they just escaped from Looney Park Mental Hospital
Looks like we know some of the same men!!! |
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I think most girls who have the outlook that "most guys are so and so", normally, assholes, jerks, crazy dudes, need to look at themself before they start stereotyping guys in general.
Most girls like this will go on and on in long winded bashings of the male species, but will acknowledge they know there are "some" good guys out there, they just cant find them. Well here is news, maybe YOU just arent looking for the "good" guy. Stop dating biker guy, or alpha male, or other such male who is prone to anti social type behaviors, and maybe youll stop pulling so many duds. |
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Well looking at the other thread you have going here gives me a goos idea why you might have problems. A quality man dosn't want a woman who will talk about intimate sex details in a public forum. You are simply gorgeous, try acting like you deserve a quality man & I am sure you will find one.
i could not say that any better. If you want a higher class person then you must become a higher class person yourself...there it is, in a basket, with a handle and a lid to keep it from spilling out... |
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Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing.
And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Sat 04/12/08 05:16 PM
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Well looking at the other thread you have going here gives me a goos idea why you might have problems. A quality man doesnt want a woman who will talk about intimate sex details in a public forum. You are simply gorgeous, try acting like you deserve a quality man & I am sure you will find one.
OH NO SHE DI-ANT  that is not fair..and just a bunch of bull.....I have met many a quality men on here and else where and these loose lips have sunk some ships...let us not get on high horses and put on ares to give advice...or we might earn ourselves a nose bleed...KARMA mama..ever heard of it....
Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing. And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. ...thank you yaway for the voices of reason minus prejudice......good stuff lilith...  ~wicked~
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Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing. And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. that is pretty neat and i am sure not far from truth. Perserverance is a great word, not just for dating. |
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Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing. And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. that is pretty neat and i am sure not far from truth. Perserverance is a great word, not just for dating. |
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Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing. And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. that is pretty neat and i am sure not far from truth. Perserverance is a great word, not just for dating. |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Sat 04/12/08 05:20 PM
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Perserverance is my favorite word in dating talk. I think on the Internet... a whole bunch of people that otherwise might never chat do. Sometimes that is not a good thing. And my theory went like this... for every twenty or thirty mails you might actually chat with one. For every ten dates you have, one might go well. And not neccesarily result in a second date. You do the math. that is pretty neat and i am sure not far from truth. Perserverance is a great word, not just for dating. so glad to see it happen to some one else today...I swear it is the system...not you dude....(happened to me an hour ago...)
~wicked~
i could not say that any better. If you want a higher class person then you must become a higher class person yourself...there it is, in a basket, with a handle and a lid to keep it from spilling out...
...but this this is sad...that you agree with that..must because your new... |
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No malice intended. I stand by what I said.
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Paragraphs are our friend.
I get warned for comments like that. Be vewwy vewwy careful |
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