Topic: OK...I know already this is a tricky one......
feralcatlady's photo
Sat 04/12/08 06:20 PM
As the Matchmaker I see this time and time again. Someone could be ignored virtually forever and then he gets matched and bam...It's like a sign goes up to all the women to horde in. It wrong and it is sick. And the scanks that do it are just that skanky.....and imo have not one shred of class. I always tell people who are matched and really having feelings to get out....or be dammmmmmmm good and sure you are rock solid with each other cus the game playing I have seen......they do anything and everything to break them apart....again I say.......no class

wickedlluccy's photo
Sat 04/12/08 06:40 PM
flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou :heart: thankyou for weighing in feral...I'm trying to keep my cool and class about it....


:heart:~wicked~:heart:

feralcatlady's photo
Sun 04/13/08 07:19 AM
You are doing a great job of it wicked. I will tell you one thing....When women do this that is what separates the class from the classless.....so just always remember that when dealing with stupid people....giggle.

auburngirl's photo
Sun 04/13/08 07:46 AM
Yep...had it happen and it pissed me off! HUGS to you! flowerforyou

wickedlluccy's photo
Sun 04/13/08 09:46 PM
:heart: flowerforyou :heart: ....I have never felt quite so supported through a encapsulated mini drama...as I did with this one....thankyou my friends for your support and good thoughts...the universe smiled on me twice in this case...you helped shore my shaky heart up long enough to let this new sweet wonderful addition to my life show me one of the grandest of gestures I could ever have been shown...I will not divulge the details...but at this moment I feel heard and cared for and valued immensely !!!! Life's nectar of truth has never tasted quite this sweet for a long time.....


:heart:~wicked~:heart:

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 04/13/08 10:11 PM
I'm a bad flirter...so...*slowly edges towards door*...

wickedlluccy's photo
Sun 04/13/08 10:32 PM

I'm a bad flirter...so...*slowly edges towards door*...



...lol...lol...oh dear I believe you got a little lost...lol...I was talken to the girls...lol...lol..good quick cover...lol..drinker

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Mon 04/14/08 03:15 AM
Well, would love to give an intelligent answer to the problem of several women all clamoring for my attention at one time.

Having never BEEN in that situation, however.... laugh Kinda limited view point.


(FWIW - I think I may be the luckier for that.....)

feralcatlady's photo
Mon 04/14/08 08:00 AM
I think of course behind the scenes more people need to get called on their sh*t.....I know when I have done this with people that I see doing it from the match thread.....they sometimes no always didn't even know they were doing it......

auburngirl's photo
Mon 04/14/08 09:57 AM
Really? I'd guess women know! laugh I know the one doing it to me did.

wickedlluccy's photo
Mon 04/14/08 10:00 AM

Well, would love to give an intelligent answer to the problem of several women all clamoring for my attention at one time.

Having never BEEN in that situation, however.... laugh Kinda limited view point.

(FWIW - I think I may be the luckier for that.....)


...I believe you are correct in that assessment, a "bevy of beauties" is not going help you find that one person whom we just Click" with...I know it will run me off, left my competition filled days in Collage...been lookin for that one special "sticks out like a sore thumb" one to me since...competition can be so distracting we can loose site of the one we are drawn to because the "road blocks" to quote my honey...will make us choose a different course of action...I've ran, walked and skipped away more than once, from a crowd clamoring to derive the attention of a love interest most of my adult life...



I think of course behind the scenes more people need to get called on their sh*t.....I know when I have done this with people that I see doing it from the match thread.....they sometimes no always didn't even know they were doing it......


....I dont believe that is the case often...I am of the school that the average women more than men knows exactly what she is doing to attract the goal of her pursuit...I want to give some the benefit of the doubt, but life experiences have taught me..."All's fair in love & war" is really a template for many peoples system of directives !!! Altruistic I am very occasionally...not often...


:heart:~wicked~:heart:

BlueskyJ's photo
Mon 04/14/08 10:13 AM
good luck,,,hope it works out with you two & tell the other lady to back off, she probably doesn't realize the extent of your conversations with this guy....

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Mon 04/14/08 10:16 AM
If you dont want someone to flirt with your man, then you could privately email that person and let them know........or.........







TELL THE ENTIRE SITE WHO YOUR MAN IS SO WE WONT ACCIDENTLY FLIRT WITH THEM!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh laugh

feralcatlady's photo
Mon 04/14/08 10:18 AM


Well, would love to give an intelligent answer to the problem of several women all clamoring for my attention at one time.

Having never BEEN in that situation, however.... laugh Kinda limited view point.

(FWIW - I think I may be the luckier for that.....)


...I believe you are correct in that assessment, a "bevy of beauties" is not going help you find that one person whom we just Click" with...I know it will run me off, left my competition filled days in Collage...been lookin for that one special "sticks out like a sore thumb" one to me since...competition can be so distracting we can loose site of the one we are drawn to because the "road blocks" to quote my honey...will make us choose a different course of action...I've ran, walked and skipped away more than once, from a crowd clamoring to derive the attention of a love interest most of my adult life...



I think of course behind the scenes more people need to get called on their sh*t.....I know when I have done this with people that I see doing it from the match thread.....they sometimes no always didn't even know they were doing it......


....I dont believe that is the case often...I am of the school that the average women more than men knows exactly what she is doing to attract the goal of her pursuit...I want to give some the benefit of the doubt, but life experiences have taught me..."All's fair in love & war" is really a template for many peoples system of directives !!! Altruistic I am very occasionally...not often...


:heart:~wicked~:heart:




I agree to a certain extent...but I think that the capture intuition clicks in and sometimes women don't even know they are doing it......Example in case: I had one from the match game that thought that every one that talked to her was "hers" I had to get nasty a lil bit, because I explained to her that unless both parties agreed everyone was fair game.

feralcatlady's photo
Mon 04/14/08 10:18 AM


Well, would love to give an intelligent answer to the problem of several women all clamoring for my attention at one time.

Having never BEEN in that situation, however.... laugh Kinda limited view point.

(FWIW - I think I may be the luckier for that.....)


...I believe you are correct in that assessment, a "bevy of beauties" is not going help you find that one person whom we just Click" with...I know it will run me off, left my competition filled days in Collage...been lookin for that one special "sticks out like a sore thumb" one to me since...competition can be so distracting we can loose site of the one we are drawn to because the "road blocks" to quote my honey...will make us choose a different course of action...I've ran, walked and skipped away more than once, from a crowd clamoring to derive the attention of a love interest most of my adult life...



I think of course behind the scenes more people need to get called on their sh*t.....I know when I have done this with people that I see doing it from the match thread.....they sometimes no always didn't even know they were doing it......


....I dont believe that is the case often...I am of the school that the average women more than men knows exactly what she is doing to attract the goal of her pursuit...I want to give some the benefit of the doubt, but life experiences have taught me..."All's fair in love & war" is really a template for many peoples system of directives !!! Altruistic I am very occasionally...not often...


:heart:~wicked~:heart:




I agree to a certain extent...but I think that the capture intuition clicks in and sometimes women don't even know they are doing it......Example in case: I had one from the match game that thought that every one that talked to her was "hers" I had to get nasty a lil bit, because I explained to her that unless both parties agreed everyone was fair game.

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Mon 04/14/08 10:23 AM

As the Matchmaker I see this time and time again. Someone could be ignored virtually forever and then he gets matched and bam...It's like a sign goes up to all the women to horde in. It wrong and it is sick. And the scanks that do it are just that skanky.....and imo have not one shred of class. I always tell people who are matched and really having feelings to get out....or be dammmmmmmm good and sure you are rock solid with each other cus the game playing I have seen......they do anything and everything to break them apart....again I say.......no class


This is so true! I think that women see a man starting to favor 1 lady & it calls to their attention the possability he might be seriuosly looking for a relationship & not just playing online. So they all start focusing more attention on him, ignoring the fact that he might already be taken. This is very low class! Guys are aware of this behavior & if he's a good one he won't let it interfer. Best wishes!flowerforyou

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Mon 04/14/08 10:24 AM

If you dont want someone to flirt with your man, then you could privately email that person and let them know........or.........







TELL THE ENTIRE SITE WHO YOUR MAN IS SO WE WONT ACCIDENTLY FLIRT WITH THEM!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh laugh

franshade's photo
Mon 04/14/08 10:25 AM
<~~~ leaving thread now - huh yawn

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Mon 04/14/08 10:33 AM


If you dont want someone to flirt with your man, then you could privately email that person and let them know........or.........







TELL THE ENTIRE SITE WHO YOUR MAN IS SO WE WONT ACCIDENTLY FLIRT WITH THEM!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh laugh



I would hope the MAN would gently tell the other woman that he is pursuing another relationship.

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Mon 04/14/08 10:38 AM



If you dont want someone to flirt with your man, then you could privately email that person and let them know........or.........







TELL THE ENTIRE SITE WHO YOUR MAN IS SO WE WONT ACCIDENTLY FLIRT WITH THEM!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh laugh



I would hope the MAN would gently tell the other woman that he is pursuing another relationship.
yA!!! Wouldnt that be NICE!!!laugh laugh laugh laugh