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| Topic: OK...I know already this is a tricky one...... | |
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...if you are in the very beginning of a flirtatiousness...and you both have shown a mildly singled out noticeable behavior in/on the forums and profiles for each other..and behind the scenes you are aware that other people are not going to read everything you post...and you are bonding noticeably at other sites where other friends are also invited to socialize with you each/both....should you be offended if another person privy to this over all process... "steps up their game" and starts sending more messages, comments and such trying to get attention from one of you...I find this in bad form/taste, but men notoriously navigate with somewhat of a safety net, so I don't feel a one on one comment is warranted yet, but when you know 4 hour conversations on the phone and heavy romantic exchanges are being sent in private...how should you feel if someone(outside) becomes obvious with there pursuit of one of you...I feel disrespected...I am beyond that age group that might find sparing for someones affections in a blat-on forum like manor desirable, I know I shall for now leave sleeping dogs to lay....but I'm not beyond saying something down the road if things continue to progress at the currant rate/pace....gawd I sound like a lawyer...just want to be fair about the etiquette and all...and yes the subject has been discussed between myself and the other party I am building a lol..."thing with" so as to not paint my self into a corner...lol....I'm not naive I know how the world works and being a hopeless flirt myself, I am trying to tread softly about this....I'm not talking about private messages now, I am talking the ones we send to each other in very public like manners.....to clarify that....should I expect this kind of behavior from a rival or should I expect them to be woman/man enough to bow out or at least back off for the time being while things take there coarse...please dont play with me I am being painfully honest here...I am an X runner in my past I would have considered throwing up my hands and say "f--k it" and maybe deactivate...so I am truly trying to do the adult thing here....and yes putting a spell on them lol is not an alternative (J/K)...lol......
sincerely   ~wicked~
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...if you are in the very beginning of a flirtatiousness...and you both have shown a mildly singled out noticeable behavior in/on the forums and profiles for each other..and behind the scenes you are aware that other people are not going to read everything you post...and you are bonding noticeably at other sites where other friends are also invited to socialize with you each/both....should you be offended if another person privy to this over all process... "steps up their game" and starts sending more messages, comments and such trying to get attention from one of you...I find this in bad form/taste, but men notoriously navigate with somewhat of a safety net, so I don't feel a one on one comment is warranted yet, but when you know 4 hour conversations on the phone and heavy romantic exchanges are being sent in private...how should you feel if someone(outside) becomes obvious with there pursuit of one of you...I feel disrespected...I am beyond that age group that might find sparing for someones affections in a blat-on forum like manor desirable, I know I shall for now leave sleeping dogs to lay....but I'm not beyond saying something down the road if things continue to progress at the currant rate/pace....gawd I sound like a lawyer...just want to be fair about the etiquette and all...and yes the subject has been discussed between myself and the other party I am building a lol..."thing with" so as to not paint my self into a corner...lol....I'm not naive I know how the world works and being a hopeless flirt myself, I am trying to tread softly about this....I'm not talking about private messages now, I am talking the ones we send to each other in very public like manners.....to clarify that....should I expect this kind of behavior from a rival or should I expect them to be woman/man enough to bow out or at least back off for the time being while things take there coarse...please dont play with me I am being painfully honest here...I am an X runner in my past I would have considered throwing up my hands and say "f--k it" and maybe deactivate...so I am truly trying to do the adult thing here....and yes putting a spell on them lol is not an alternative (J/K)...lol...... sincerely ~wicked~ I have no idea what you said
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So someone elsc is nosing in on your man? Yes that is rude but your significant other should handle it properly too!
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haha ^5 that was awesome girly
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So someone elsc is nosing in on your man? Yes that is rude but your significant other should handle it properly too! SHe knows rude, believe me! |
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take off that bra and make a sling shot out of it.............your man needs help..............
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Are we talking all posters here?
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So someone elsc is nosing in on your man? Yes that is rude but your significant other should handle it properly too! |
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Are we talking all posters here? .......no lilith just a person whom has stepped up their game and is seemingly showing signs of some sort of competitive behavior....here and else where....in a manner that feels like it is for my benefit to see.....but I could be wrong, thats why I'm trying to be diplomatic about it.... |
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.......no lilith just a person whom has stepped up their game and is seemingly showing signs of some sort of competitive behavior....here and else where....in a manner that feels like it is for my benefit to see.....but I could be wrong, thats why I'm trying to be diplomatic about it.... No... I mean all three parties are posters? If yes, send her a mail. |
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Is the person you speak of aware that there is a connection between you and her ummmmmm target?
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Fri 04/11/08 07:04 PM
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.......no lilith just a person whom has stepped up their game and is seemingly showing signs of some sort of competitive behavior....here and else where....in a manner that feels like it is for my benefit to see.....but I could be wrong, thats why I'm trying to be diplomatic about it.... No... I mean all three parties are posters? If yes, send her a mail. ...and say what..."is there somthing you wana say to me honey...?" ...I'm trying to not give it too much merit in hopes she will see the error of her ways and back off B4 one of us has to say something...at the same time I don't expect her to be a mind reader...maybe she isn't a bright bulb...naw, she definitely has changed her tone/tune in the last say 48 hours and is sending things that ring just a little more affectionate than 48 hours ago lets say.....and actually he wasn't even on here today....so she posted at another site to attempt to bring attention to herself.... Im not talkin things to him I dont see, that would be outa site outa mind...these are posts...meant for any/everyone to see.... Is the person you speak of aware that there is a connection between you and her ummmmmm target? ...yes because the competitiveness only started after we/him and I became a little more visible w/our comments to/about each other... |
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Well for clarification, I would need to know has there been a mutual agreement of exclusivity and then after that I would want to know if the person stepping up their game is also a friend to you. After that I would say:
If you are not mutually exclusive any and everything is okay with the exception of one of your friends who is also their friend and then that would not be cool but what can you do? Embarrass yourself over it?? I would say if you think that the romance is blossoming on the other end step back and move on. Or at least that is what I would do. And then we always have to consider the player aspect where the dude is playing all ends and then he is not worthy of either unless that is what the ladies are into too. I hope that made sense. |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Fri 04/11/08 07:15 PM
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Well for clarification, I would need to know has there been a mutual agreement of exclusivity and then after that I would want to know if the person stepping up their game is also a friend to you. After that I would say: If you are not mutually exclusive any and everything is okay with the exception of one of your friends who is also their friend and then that would not be cool but what can you do? Embarrass yourself over it?? I would say if you think that the romance is blossoming on the other end step back and move on. Or at least that is what I would do. And then we always have to consider the player aspect where the dude is playing all ends and then he is not worthy of either unless that is what the ladies are into too. I hope that made sense. ...we havnt disscussed exclusivity...no, but he is not in phone contact with her....and has voiced the opinon that she lives close enough that if she were to obtain his address she could "stalk" him, his word not mine....I just enjoy it when other people on here hook up and its fun to watch it kinda grow B4 our eyes...and I'm hurt instead she has done this in a way that I felt more like a target than him....if we get exclusive I do beleive he would say so to her, but lets just say I'm new to his life and visa versa and I am the apple of his eye and she is a orange from his basket of oranges.... |
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...just thought I'd bring/drag my dead horse back in to smell up the joint ..and maybe get a different set of folks view...I thought I'd add...the person in reference has not been on/in any forums to the best of my knowledge and has not posted since my boy toy has been bzy w/other things over the last 2 days...so does that make anyone else a little less doubtful...and yes I am in phone contact w/ the boy toy....still if she shows back up and keeps posting more suggestive things...what do you guys think I should do ???? just keep ignoring her...??? her last one on another site was a graphic saying "I love my Friend"...I dont even mis-use that word at this early point in the game....  ~wicked~
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Well.. I'd tell him it is making you uncomfortable. And yes, I would send her a mail as well. Be honest, and say you like the guy and are feeling things out. Why not?
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Well.. I'd tell him it is making you uncomfortable. And yes, I would send her a mail as well. Be honest, and say you like the guy and are feeling things out. Why not? ...thankyou...I will see how the next few days goes once he is back to work...that is where/when he joins in here...I will bounce it off of him and see if he is cool w/that...
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Well.. I'd tell him it is making you uncomfortable. And yes, I would send her a mail as well. Be honest, and say you like the guy and are feeling things out. Why not? ...thankyou...I will see how the next few days goes once he is back to work...that is where/when he joins in here...I will bounce it off of him and see if he is cool w/that... I have my fingers crossed that he will offer to do it for you. |
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Well.. I'd tell him it is making you uncomfortable. And yes, I would send her a mail as well. Be honest, and say you like the guy and are feeling things out. Why not? ...thankyou...I will see how the next few days goes once he is back to work...that is where/when he joins in here...I will bounce it off of him and see if he is cool w/that... I have my fingers crossed that he will offer to do it for you. (((((((me too)))))))))))
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