most relationships fail because two are trying to hold the other to some standard, a hidden lie within each that say to be selfish is bad, and this make for two that condem each other constantly, and of course bitterness will devour......but believing one is selfish is the worst addiction to pain in the world......

it make one hate themself for being even human, and see all others thru their own disappoinment in themselves.....so all others are seen the more as bad, each day a little more, until......all are taught they are indeed defective and need try to SAVE themselves from themself.....how can one be a friend to another if they are not a friend to themselves....

trying not to be selfish is indeed the most selfish act committed, as it is still about self but it is selfishness over a self-hatred, self-defect......a double whammy that make for no love......make one SEE only selfishness in others.....

think of all the ways if you had been selfish, that it could have changed things for GOOD.......these are not things often even looked at since the teaching of self-less is taught most....

this thinking is the worst insideous addiction that make for all things touched to become a potential addiction.....even love that feel as pain......

two people that allow, accept and encourage selfishness in each other can love as there is no tomarrow, and each is free so free is double strength, lol.......

natural action-reaction cures everything........

trying to NOT be selfish is the only thing that STOP this

Even if a profile says they are married doesn't always mean they are still with their spouse, mabey they are seperated like me. I just haven't divorced the butthead yet. It costs money I don't have.

I don't date married or separated men.

With separated, I don't believe it's over until it's over, and then afterwards healing time or space is often needed.

i'm holdin out for you!

This is an evil website. They are in it for the sex and the money.

I think getting involved with a person that is married...just leads to heartache. A friend of mine has been with a married man for over 12 years now. I feel so bad that she doesn't think enough of herself to find someone that can be there for her....always. She knows after all this time that he will NEVER leave his wife....that's the sad part.

If you are single, you are not the one doing the lying. The married person is the one who is doing the lying... not the single person.

I used to date married men because I was not interested in some man taking over my entire life. If he was married, he was too busy to do that because he had his own life.

I was not interested in getting married either. Single men always started talking about getting married eventually even if I had told them I did not want marriage. They always think they can change your mind. Married men don't try... usually.

I would never lie about what I was doing or sneak around about it either. If a wife had ever confronted me and asked me what was going on I would not lie to her. Let the chips fall where they may.

The reasoning in this is that I don't believe in the institution of marriage or in people owning other people and making rules for other people, even their own spouses.

If you promise to be faithful to your spouse then you should keep that promise. If you break it, that is your cross to bare, and your problem, not mine.

I don't date married men anymore. The reason for that change is that I don't respect men who would lie and cheat on their wives.

I guess my standards have changed.

A married man I was dating once, asked me to marry him and offered to divorce his wife. I said no. He asked why, don't you Love me?

I said, yes I love you a lot. He asked me then why I would not marry him.

I told him simply because he was an alcoholic and because he is a man who cheats on his wife. I don't want to marry a man like that.

He thought I was being harsh but I was only being honest.

i wouldnt date married men here its not moraly right.
plus thats concider cheating and im not into that.

It is only 'cheating' - for you - if you are the one who is married.