cheating when married is wrong, that said, insane wisdom is correct, if a couple wants a third party that is their business, I cant stand people that impose their morals and beliefs on others, I say again, I think its wrong, but if a couple wants to bring another into their relationship, its their business, if its a secret, then well, shoot em

Dating married people is wrong and if someone does it then they should be ashamed of themselves. Shame shooting homewreckers is illegal

it's only illegal if you get caught

Yea I know

Not everyone who falls in love with a married person is a homewrecker. I guess you feel that I should be shot for bringing someone a little bit of happiness before he dies.

I can't believe how harsh everyone in this thread is. I guess I am an imperfect person surrounded by perfect ones. It must feel so good to know that your every action is above reproach.

Thank you!!

We see things like the girls recently arrested for that beat-down, and hear their parents, and many times grandparents, make excuses to the press and attack members of the community who vocally admonish them.

We ask how could this happen, what has happened to children.
This is what!

People are excusing the ads as okay because they pay. (by all means lets forget right and wrong then. )
Some money is dirty, and Id just as soon not be indebted to the devil.

Others that cheating is okay because it makes them feel better about their indiscretions. They would just as soon compound bad choices with more bad choices. (They probably made their first choice using this same logic.)
If your marriage sucks then get out of it first, it wont be cheating then.
Next time use better judgement!

I must be getting old, because I remember honor and commitment.
I remember when America had morals and integrity.
I remember when parents guided children with living examples, instead of breaking their necks to be their child's best-friend. (more likely than not if you never have an arguement with your teenager, then its because you allow them to do anything they want!) Children need limits!

No, its not okay for your 16 yr old daughters boyfriend to sleep over at your house. Just because shes on birth-control and all the other kids parents let them.

No, its not okay for them to smoke pot in your house because you do.


No, its not okay to allow such advertising just because they pay! (legally yes, morally no)

We, American society, is whats wrong with these children, why we see an escalation in such instances, and why we will continue to see a decline in our society.

I remember when I was a teen, and one of my friends would be punished for something like staying out past curfew. (Yes such a thing did exist)
I remember the comments, when I grow up I wont be mean to my children like that. (from what Ive seen they carried these immature childish spurts into practiced reality)

I remember our parents comments that that our children will be out of control because of it!

Well, here we are!!!
Out of control kids, in and out of control society, with the wisest and best parents in the world!!

As oldsage said,
Personal INTEGRITY is what controls a persons actions.
Your children learn from your example!

Now I'll hear someone say this has nothing to do what how our children behave in society!

And this is just your opinion; not a sacred text.
We all have opinions; there is not just one way to live or one way to be.

But if being harsh and judgemental helps you to feel good about yourself, I say go for it.

That is my opinion!

Do you have children?
If so what do you tell them?

If you know its wrong and admit it to yourself, then you probably hide it from them! (ashamed)

If you make these same excuses to them, then most likely they will grow up with the same moral indiscretions!

This is not good for anyone!
Not for society and esp not for them.

I really did not think that this thread would turn harsh and for that i appologize to all of you.

Yes. It wasn't official. You got between two people that were still married. You cannot parse it any other way. The decision was influenced by an outside party. "party" being my version of the more appropriate descriptions listed by Twilights Twin.

I do have a child and I tell her to love people the way they are and not to be harsh and judgemental.

I don't think the rules of society rest in the hands of a group of angry misanthropes.

I think the self righteous are truly the downfall of our society.

That's what I tell her.

It's not your fault. I have learned that whenever you give people the right to feel superior by bashing others they will. No one ever walks a mile in someone else's shoes before they shoot off their big mouth.

But I know what is in my heart and the knee-jerk opinions of people who live in a black and white world don't matter to me.

In today's world, we seem all to ready to insult and intimidate. The ways of "old school" have seemed to disappear and what is left but empty feelings of self rightious values. Whatever happened to respect and courtesy? I miss the old days!

I didn't say all should be shot, there are different situations about falling in love with a married person. I am meaning if it is done deliberately and to hurt people and i have read your post, so you made him happy that is okay. Shoot you no, shoot the ones who do it maliciously yes (illegal I know). I had my home wrecked by a woman who was supposed to be my friend, so that is what I was talking about, didn't mean to upset you

Not trying to be harsh, just voicing my opinion, which I am entitled to do, just as everyone else does. And I didn't say my actions were above reproach, again just my opinion.

If it's rocky, it doesn't mean that it's not repairable.

If it's that bad, get a divorce before seeing other people.

I think I am being a little oversensitive.