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Never got any approval or attention from my mom when was a kid cause I was male(she hates all men). Will/how do I stop looking for it in women?
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be more approving of yourself
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date men?
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I have the same problem, it has taken therapy and a lot of soul searching to try to curb it. It will never go away completely. It helps to be by yourself for a while and to find yourself. Good luck to you.
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Edited by
dejavieu
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Thu 04/10/08 02:36 PM
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It's never too late to learn...men are amazing, virile and exotic creatures! Learn it...live it...love it! If I didn't love being a woman so much, I'd envy you!
 
And date someone who knows it! |
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thanks
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be more approving of yourself Jill is right. Yet the process of learning to do this can be difficult because what you are describing is "primal wounding" which often occurs in early childhood as a result of very difficult life experiences. You may need someone professionally qualified to help you heal. |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Tue 04/15/08 09:10 AM
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Never got any approval or attention from my mom when was a kid cause I was male(she hates all men). Will/how do I stop looking for it in women? ....my mom did not/does not relate well to women (or female children)...I overcompensate for it, by loving my daughter fervently...and still do and always will...I feel blessed to have women in my life, even though I relate best to men and boys.....you just make that choice !!!and follow through with actions to back it up..... ~wicked~
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I think you have to look deep inside and accept yourself. Sure sometimes parents make bad choices and do the wrong thing when we are children...but thats done and over with. Look at all of your good qualities and accept who you are! I am sure that you are a great person and I am sure that you are a great father. That right there should make you realize that you deserve a great life!!
You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you SO thats what you need to work on!! Good luck
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I think you have to look deep inside and accept yourself. Sure sometimes parents make bad choices and do the wrong thing when we are children...but thats done and over with. Look at all of your good qualities and accept who you are! I am sure that you are a great person and I am sure that you are a great father. That right there should make you realize that you deserve a great life!! You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you SO thats what you need to work on!! Good luck
I never said anything about not liking or accepting myself, I f*ckin rock, was just wondering if I can find different type of woman than I am or have a better realitionship than what i was taught by my parents |
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I think you have to look deep inside and accept yourself. Sure sometimes parents make bad choices and do the wrong thing when we are children...but thats done and over with. Look at all of your good qualities and accept who you are! I am sure that you are a great person and I am sure that you are a great father. That right there should make you realize that you deserve a great life!! You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you SO thats what you need to work on!! Good luck
I never said anything about not liking or accepting myself, I f*ckin rock, was just wondering if I can find different type of woman than I am or have a better realitionship than what i was taught by my parents |
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I think you have to look deep inside and accept yourself. Sure sometimes parents make bad choices and do the wrong thing when we are children...but thats done and over with. Look at all of your good qualities and accept who you are! I am sure that you are a great person and I am sure that you are a great father. That right there should make you realize that you deserve a great life!! You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you SO thats what you need to work on!! Good luck
I never said anything about not liking or accepting myself, I f*ckin rock, was just wondering if I can find different type of woman than I am or have a better realitionship than what i was taught by my parents the possibilities are endless, it is entirely up to you which direction you follow. |
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what I want and what I think I need r 2 very different things.
what I look for and what I get r 2 very different things. patience is the key here. your parents did the best they could with the tools they had to work with. they didn't know any better. they shoulda but maybe didn't. forgive them. forgive yourself for looking for that validation |
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It's never too late to learn...men are amazing, virile and exotic creatures! Learn it...live it...love it! If I didn't love being a woman so much, I'd envy you!
And date someone who knows it! Beautifully said! We all want other's approval, but you must first and foremost approve of yourself. You must be happy with you!
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