Our comments won t change his mind; he obviously hasalready made it up
andis asking for approval so we can lessen his guilt.

Kojack, it's a situation that I thought contradicted everyones normal
train of though, thats all. Just seeing if anyone sees the Grey areas...

I don't think it would be to lesson anyone's guilt to ask this question.
As both Txs and Sluggo spoke of this man never did anything wrong as far
as I am concerned.

Why would anyone believe this man didn't fulfill his promises and
commitment to his wife are beyond me. This man dealt with the situation
as he did because he loved his first wife.

I wonder how many people have watched a loved one waste away to nothing?
I have and it is not a pretty site. Having someone who is willing to
lend a shoulder in times of need is what MAKES a TRUE FRIEND. It doesn't
matter if this man married this other lady or not, she was there to
support him in times of need. That is what makes a friend a friend. I
hear so many of you spouting you want to be friends first, them you
condemn someone for being just that. No where in the original post did I
see where there was any infidelity of any sort. It seems to me some of
you like the daughters JUMPED to conclusions, YOU ASSUMED there was
something more there.

Like Sluggo said ADD(attention deficite disorder), learning how to read
what is written, and not what is supposed to be between the lines is
probably why most people on this site are still single/divorced etc.

I honestly believe and hope some of you will think about this someday,
when you are put in a situation that requires a friend, to hold your
hand in times of need.

G

Was refering to buttons original post

I was confused as to the original post. My reply should have been
directed to sluggos post on Alzhiemers.
Please accept my apology

G

FAIR??? Buttons asked, Life in not fair,and the situation definitely
isn't fair. And ladies we have forgiven our spouses for far more(some
men have CHEATED just to see if they could get away with it or just b/c
they could). And whose to say what the care-givening spouse is really
going through. Taking care of a terminal ill (long period of time) will
tear at a person. No, it's not right, but you not I knows what that
person was trully feeling. A need to be held, touch, consoled, just a
kind conversation. No, an affair would not be fair, but did that person
need an encounter, consolation, conversation, kind jester. I can and
would understand if it did happen, under those circumstances.

I myself would have to be there for my wife til the freakin end. That's
what love is, bein there for them even if they don't know about it. If
ya take the vows, they should mean exactly what ya say, TIL DEATH DO US
PART.

ummmm... its hard to say.

god amight DAM!! dontcha just looooove those
stories!!!

Judge not, least you be judged
Everyone has to walk their OWN path.

hard to say...

I'm glad I'm not this guy's wife!! I believe in 'til death
do us part'. Just because she is paralyzed doesn't mean she is dead or
anywhere near it. It does not give him the excuse to go out and get a
booty call!!

If I were to meet anyone in this situation and found out he was on a
booty call I would run the other way!....