because i was just wondering. and because i am in one. he lives in ohio
and i live in new jersey. and we plan on meeting. the problem is i am
kind of nervous about meeting. cause you hear all these stories on the
news about people meeting online. and how people get kidnaped etc. and
im also afraid we wont have much in common. anyway in order for me and
him to work out he wants me to relocate there. and i really do not want
to. mainly because we dont know eachother that will. and because my
family needs me here. any sugestions

meet him in a public place. talk get to know each other.
After dating for several months if you still like each other, then its
up to you. Don t rush, take your time

YUCK

J/K

Well Luv first and foremost..make sure you know him..you do not have to
live there in order for you to get to know him..that's the most
important thing to do. It's also important for you to realize if you
don't want to move..then probably long distance isn't the right
thing..always meet in a public place..and another suggestion..he should
be coming to you first, not the other way around.

HAVE U GUYS SWAPPED PICTURES AND TALKED ON THE PHONE YET ?

I have 10 Russion Girlfriends I correspond with now!
They all tell me I'm the only one, and that they love me! LOL!

yep, DIVA yer sooo right. The man should definitely be the one to make
the trip, especially for a 1st time meeting. Abosultely meet in a public
place, especially if it's a place where the patrons or employess know
you or at least know who you are.
And if he's not even willing to think about relocating to be with you,
that could be a sign. If it's for family reasons well that's
understandable, but if it's because of his job, well hell, a job is a
job. If someone wants to be with you a job should never get in their
way. Unless he's makin 6 figures or better a year, then you might wanna
consider re-locating LOL.
Ok I joke, but DON'T even consider moving til you know him better. Do
you have his phone # ? If so, go buy a long distance calling card.
They're real cheap and you get great rates, some as low as a penny a
minute. Spend time out of each others day on the phone. Talk to him
everyday if you can, that way you can get an idea of how his moods might
be, what kind of personality he has, etc etc... and all much better than
on-line.

Long distance relationships CAN work. I've been in one for over a year
and a half now. She lives in New England and I live 500 miles away in
Canada. We see each other every chance I can get away for 3-4 days or
more at a time, and the subject of marriage has even been brought up by
her ;-)

Take it slow, if he can't respect that, then he's not the right one for
you.

Kojack has a point. I'd go even further than that, though. Never be
desperate, no matter how much you don't want to be alone. If he really
is worth all of that, he will take his time with you, and be patient.
He will wait for you, or he will relocate to where you are. Sounds to
me like it's not being kidnapped that you ought to worry about, but
being controlled. At any rate, it doesn't sound like a good senario
that he is suggesting. Hold off.

WELL ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE THE WAY TO GO IS THROUGH THE PHONE THE SOUND
OF ONES VOICE GIVES AN AURA IN A WAY THAT LETS YOU EITHER TRUST MORE ,
BUT DONT BE FOOLED SOME JUST SPEAK WITH AN OPEN MOUTH AND NO HEART SO
YOU SHOULD TALK MORE ON THE PHONE THAN ON LINE ITS BETTER YOU ACTUALLY
GET TO LAUGH IHNSTEAD OF LMFAO AND IS THE PERSON REALLY LAUGHING WELL
THATS JUST MY OPINION YOUR FRIEND TALES!

And Erica,

you are toooo cute!!!!

Hi Luv
New Jersey is not far from Ohio.
I crossed the ocean for someone in Canada that time.
Another time someone crossed the oceam for me.
Just take care first. Check this person, send some gift by mail to check
the address. Talk a lot by phone. Be sure this person is a good one.
Tell to your friends where you will be (address, phone and the name of
person).
Ask to your friends call you as soon as you arrive there, at least for
two days...and be happy !!

im in a simular situation..Im in Fla and hes in Iowa..very sweet guy,
exchanged pics and talked on the phone alot. but, we both already made
it clear that he doesnt want to move here, because he has his own
business up there & was honest about it, he doesnt want to take his kids
from theryre mother and i can totally understand that and thats y i wont
move there either, not taking the kids away from dad. But we seem to get
along great on the phone and on line..Been talkin to him for a couple of
months now. really nice guy. but, i guess to really know is too meet
which we r probably this summer sometime.

yeah its possiable, but why would you want the goodies across town
when you can get some goodies from next door, c what im sayn?

well personally i havent found anyone in FLA..the men seem
difficult..very, very picky and not very honest..so..i know, i've lived
here 36 yrs...

broken that was crude. I am sorry, but yes both "goodies" are good and
enjoyable. but the one next door might be comparable to say a piece of
candy, whereas the one further away would be a full buffet of deserts.
If you had to choose betwen those two choices, which would you RATHER
have?

well lets see if im hungry now im going next door now if im going on a
diet and eat here and there then im going across town but you know diets
never last and going across town gets old after a while

well lets see if im hungry now im going next door now if im going on a
diet and eat here and there then im going across town but you know diets
never last and going across town gets old after a while

Luv, there is a lot of good advise here. I have been in two long
distance relationships. My first fiance stayed in Bosnia (army) while I
was sent elsewhere. It did not work out. My wife spent almost a year
in Iraq. Although the marriage did not last, it was not due to the
seperation. So I have been lucky and sour in this issue.
However, if you truly like what you have seen so far, then take it slow.
Have hime come to you the first time. As it wsa said you are not that
far away (look back at mine). You could both even meet in the middle
somewhere for a day.
And do not even THINK about moving closer to him at this point. You
really do not know him yet, and as you said there are things to be
concerned about. If he truly likes you, and is a decent person, he will
uinderstand your caution, and will actually agree with it. Also, if he
can nto respect that you have family commitments that you can not break,
the how could he respect any commitment he offers to you?

I don't think they work unless one or the other is willing to move
eventually. Like lion moving here sat