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Topic: what is the right thing to do?
aLittleBird Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 2515	Wed 04/02/08 08:40 AM
A friend of mine started dating this guy last August. At first he told her he was divorced, then it comes out that they had filed...then it came out that neither one of them had filed...so, now it's April and he still hasn't filed but has been staying with her. (my friend, not his wife) I told her that she needs to give him the boot and move on. I figure if he lies about that, he'll lie about anything...he knows how much it bothers her that he's lied and still hasn't done anything. What do you all think?

krazykitty323 Joined Sun 03/09/08 Posts: 1083	Wed 04/02/08 08:41 AM
give him the boot

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Wed 04/02/08 08:42 AM
get rid

floh Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 1706	Wed 04/02/08 08:43 AM
boot just thinking of guys lying makes me naucious

hellkitten54 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 11707	Wed 04/02/08 08:43 AM
A swift kick with some steel toes should do the trick.

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Wed 04/02/08 08:43 AM
I wouldn't want to live with someone else's spouse unless i know they have actually filed for the divorce...that was totally uncool...I'd drop him, cause he will do it to her sooner or later...

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Wed 04/02/08 08:46 AM
A friend of mine started dating this guy last August. At first he told her he was divorced, then it comes out that they had filed...then it came out that neither one of them had filed...so, now it's April and he still hasn't filed but has been staying with her. (my friend, not his wife) I told her that she needs to give him the boot and move on. I figure if he lies about that, he'll lie about anything...he knows how much it bothers her that he's lied and still hasn't done anything. What do you all think? hes never gonna be honest with her hell tell she sweet nothings and say it will be soon and she wait and waste her time she deserves better

JUSTSAYINGHELLOO Joined Wed 02/27/08 Posts: 500	Wed 04/02/08 08:47 AM
once a liar, always a liar they don't change the best predictor for future behavior is their past behavior!

shoesmonkey Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 7088	Wed 04/02/08 08:48 AM
Dump him. That is too important of a matter to lie about.

OklaSixpack Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 67	Wed 04/02/08 08:50 AM
Make him back out of the house...that way when she give's him the boot it will land where it will do the most good.

sleeplessingermany Joined Thu 03/13/08 Posts: 1490	Wed 04/02/08 08:50 AM
i don't think that a new relationship which started with a lie has a future. there are so many nice men out there: why should she waste her time with a liar?

dodger1953 Joined Wed 03/19/08 Posts: 590	Wed 04/02/08 08:51 AM
drop his stuff off at his wifes house!

aLittleBird Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 2515	Wed 04/02/08 08:52 AM
that is exactly what I told her, but now he's telling her that he went to a lawyer...."but these things take time"...I told her bullsh**...it doesn't take that long to get divorced...plus, they have no kids and no property to spilt so that kind of divorce should only take 6 weeks at most...(i could be wrong on that time) but it's not like they're fighting over custody. Now, to get her to listen...maybe I'll just have her read all these responses...

aLittleBird Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 2515	Wed 04/02/08 08:53 AM
drop his stuff off at his wifes house! lmao....good idea!!

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 04/02/08 08:56 AM
Aother example of STARTING a new relationship,,,BEFORE their FINISHED with the one their in!!!!!! He DOESN'T KNOW WHAT or WHO he wants?????? And WON'T for a long time yet. Kick him to the curb,

RJR1 Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 548	Wed 04/02/08 08:59 AM
drop his stuff off at his wifes house! I like this one!!!

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Wed 04/02/08 08:59 AM
Tell your friend to tell him don't let the door kick his ass on the way out

aLittleBird Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 2515	Wed 04/02/08 09:03 AM
I told her to pack all of his stuff while he's gone to work. And the funny thing is, he has NO personal stuff at her house, just his clothes and he's been there a few months. I'm like...yeah, that's not right, no mail, no papers, no phone calls or friends stopping over....he's lying about more than not filing for divorce.

hellkitten54 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 11707	Wed 04/02/08 09:04 AM
drop his stuff off at his wifes house!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 04/02/08 09:04 AM
Lying about being married is one of the few indiscretions I could not overlook. I'd never forget it, and I do not think trust could be re-built after that.