hmmm HE feels it is wrong...not his choice. I can't blame you. I have been my married last name about as long as I was my maiden also. My husband died. I didn't change it back...does that mean I can't move on?

Think this guy should be quiet on the subject.

you do what ever make you happy !

My question would be, is he interested in more than being your friend, because it sounds like it to me. Does he know all that's involved in changing your name again? Also, as others have pointed out, he may be too jealous of a person to be involved with... what are his intentions? Just things to think about.

Awwww thank you sweet lady..I'm
so sorry for your loss

Choose whatever name you want! Any guy who is jealous of a married last name has to give his head a shake!! I went back to my maiden name, because I felt I didnt want the reminder of his last name attached to me. But everyone is different and do things for their OWN reasons.

thanks gypsy...

awwwwww ,I've never been married so I dont know.... but you'd think that maybe one day some one special will come along and they will give you a new last name but until then it sounds like an expense to go an switch all your ID's to yet another name or back to your maiden name , I would just keep the married name and hope for some one special enough to take their name one day

..thamk you sweet lady...

(((((((Angel)))))) How are you sweets??

I have kept my married name...I just never changed it I never really thaught about it!!
I think a lot of the reason is because he took our two kids from me as punishment for not wanting to be with him, so I kept it so that my kids could find me when they got older!!
I see nothing wrong with keeping your married name especially if that is the name you have known for so long...Hey just look at Tina Turner she became famous off her name!!

(((((Jen)))))) I'm well lady thanks for asking....
I'm so sorry for all of what you went through ..
But Trials only make us stronger...And you are a amazing Woman...Hummmmmm Famous???? You never know..maybe we will be famous too..

We are all famouse in our own way because we are unique and one of a kind and thats what makes us special!!
I have actually found someone very special and he will be moving here in June to be with me...I am soooo excited and sooooo in love with him!!
I do hope and pray for you as with all my dear friends to find that special one for them!!

Awwww sweetie..that's awesome...I am so happy for you..I can't think of a more amazing person for this to happen to..You deserve it...

..thanks Everyone for all your comments..
It means alot..and so many of you are right..
At the end of the day..it's all about what makes us Happy
to counts....

It's not wrong at all. Many women have kept their married last name after getting a divorce. Some do it because it's just easier for them to be known by their married name, while others do it for professional reasons (i.e; a newscaster) while still others do it because their given last name is so hideous that reverting back to it would be frightening.

No My Madien name isn't hideous...but I think i'll keep my married name ..Thank you

I dont agree with the guy who said you should change it...Sounds a bit over jealous and controlling.

Its your name now...if you want it to be...

If it bothers you, then you should change it.

A name is a name...whats the big deal...

ridiculous. keep it if you want. heck it's 1/2 your lifetime and anyway maybe it's easier to spell

I'm going to be the sole dissenting opinion here, so far.

With no kids, and no hope of reconciliation, I would not be able to get to the courthouse fast enough. Tabula rasa.

I was married for 15 years and been divorced for 2 years now. I still use my ex's last name even though hes now engaged to who used to be my best friend many years ago...another chapter in my book. But I have a teenage son and thats one reason I chose to keep it. The other reason being that I used my married name for over 15 years and I have no intentions of changing it. My ex hasnt asked me to change it and even if he did I would keep my name. That name, like you said, is a part of your histroy. You lived by that name for 17+ years so why wshould you have to change it unless you want to? I think you should explain to the man you are getting close to that there is nothing for him to be concerned with as for your name. Hope all works out well for you either way hun.

Kelley

There is nothing wrong with keeping your last name. You took that name 17 yrs ago and it was meant for life. It's your name and always will be until you re-marry