I am a fairly strict parent, my daughter obliges me about 90% of the time in being good, so it all works out.

There is a girl that lives by us, and gets on the bus with her, that is a terror, who does my daughter chose to befriend... oh yes this girl.

I have talked to the mother, and she asks if my daughter can come over to play, luckily it was always days we had something planned, or days her father was coming to get her.

How do I knicks this friendship?

try getting her into after school activities, like dance class, karate, or something she would be interested in. hope it works out for you,

it depends....maybe you can do some good for the friend...by inviting her to your place to play...that way you can keep it undewr control...and help the little girl at the same time...that is probally the easyiest...so you dont build up resentment from your own daughter....other wise try talking to your daughter

she is 6, so she doesn't quite "get it" yet. But inviting her here is a good idea... Thanks.

take them on an outing...together!

kids tend to blend in with whatever's around them...if your daughter is well-behaved and you guys are calm...chances are, if the kid wants to be there...she will be, too. besides, most children save their really bad behavior for mom...

and WHY is the kid a terror? is it emotional or behavioral...or is it her environment? does she have some issue that's out of her control? maybe being around you guys will HELP her...she's definitely at an age where she could benefit.

She tells her mother what she is and is not going to do, and the mother lets her do it. She tears threw the mud first thing in the morning, and there goes my daughter following blindly. They stand in line for the bus and she pushes kids out of the way, and she is smaller than my daughter.

Some days she wants my daughter to be her friend, and other days she compleatly ignores her. My daughter is VERY sensitive. You'd think being my child she'd toughen up a bit, but I also don't want to change who she is. I was a very sensitive child, so I know what she is in for.

friday the little girl came to my car and said "Rane is comeing to my house today" and I said "no honey, her daddy is comeing to get her in a little bit" She says "She is coming over til he gets there then." and I said "no honey, I'm sorry tonight isn't a good night" she says "your mean" so I say to my daughter "get in the car baby" and she says "ok I'll come to your house then" so I say "you're mom is calling you" she says "she can wait for me" so I say "I'm not going to wait for you, Rane need to go home and eat dinner, and I have things I need to do, have a good weekend Brianna"

So my daughter gets in the car and is mad at me about it.

lack of discipline, or is there more to it? sounds like she might be missing a bit in the way of social cues...

i'd tell her that she was welcome at my house at such-n-such time on such-n-such day...but that, as a condition, she had to promise me that she would listen very carefully to everything i said. tell her that the rules are different in my house, and she has to follow them to play.

when she arrives, lay the rules out to her in the beginning, in DETAIL...set her up for success. you can't fault her for breaking one that doesn't exist or that she doesn't know about. also have consequences ready: "if these don't work out, we'll have to take you home to mom." then, if she doesn't listen...do JUST that. take her home, but don't explain to her mother why...just say that play-time is over.

after that...try again. chances are, she'll listen without fail.

I think it's poor dicipline....

But that sounds like a good idea. Maybe I will take them to th park tonight, if it stops raining.

If ll else fails talk to the parents

She sounds like a bossy little kid and some parents find that cute.I do not.My son has issues also even though I am strict so don't be to quick to judge the parents.disciplining your kid in front of others is risky business these days and no I'm not talking about spanking.anyway I agree with Lori,invite her to your house and tell her(and your daughter) she can stay as long as she follows the rules.If she acts up out she goes for the day.
Good Luck.

Maybe this was why the "play date" was invented.

Nowadays, it seems that is for pre-schoolers.

But if kids learn that routine, they will know what is required before they are going over to play at other people's houses.

Parents need to establish who is boss, even when it comes to their chidren's friends.

It helps when that happens early on, because when the teen years come along, a reputation as a tough, vigilant parent is helpful on all fronts.

My daughter brought home her report card today and it said ..."Rane has made great progress and is having a wonderful kindergarten year. She follows classroom rules, and is a joy to have in class."

I'm not going to jeapordize this for anything.

Since she was a baby, We have established rules and quidelines, and have rarely had to punish her...I want her to question authority...just not mine.... Seriously, I watch parents let their children act like monkeys, and do nothing about it... We have monkey time, but that is at home. When she is out she behaves. I have never had to dicipline her in public...EVER. I inherited "the look" from my father.....

good for you and for your daughter

mine is 22 and she knows sees why we give 'the look' and why we made her behave as a child in public.

kudos to you!!!!

I had my first tatoo before my mom passed away, and on my wedding day, you've never seen a bride put on her wedding dress so quickly... my sister-in-law still laughes about my reaction when someone said she was coming into the room.....

She would have been so upset with me. (I was 23, and had lived on my own since I was 17) but I still had respect for her. My parents instilled this upon me. I miss my mom, she was a saint...not perfect, but a saint none the less.

Well I wish i could say the same.I have the discipline,the look,all of it but still it's a struggle because my son hates authority.Oh well,to bad.One day he will get it .Hopefully tomorrow lol.