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| Topic: Do I take sides when one friend is WRONG? | |
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Totage
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Mon 03/31/08 11:26 PM
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I have 2 friends who are roommates.. I have known one guy for about 2 years and am pretty close to him and I have become good friends with his roommate over the last 6 months or so. My friend is about 28 "greg".. has a load of finacial problems and has failed to pay rent for the last 4 months to his roommate, who is only 20 "tom". I feel like greg, who I thought I knew, is taking advantage of his much younger roommate. I have lost so much respect for this guy and question the possibility of sustaining our relationship. Greg maybe works 10-15 hrs a week, talks about doing nothing and being bored all the time, owes a lot of people money and spends his paychecks on alcohol rather then helping with rent or utilities. we are all really good friends and tom has confided in me. I know that it is a situation that does not directly involve me and it needs to be handled between tom and greg.. but I can't help but feel I owe it to greg to be honest with him. Knowing this situation and acting like everything is ok doesn't settle right with me. I wanted to ask all of you guy, Should I approach greg about the situation and openly support tom? Anytime two friends argue/fight/have a disagreement/etc., step aside let them handle it on their own. |
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You have a responsibility to yourself to do as your conscience dictates.
Getting between them unasked to settle their dispute is incorrect. However, you need to deal with your part in this whole little saga and it only has something to do with them superficially. From what I've read, it sounds like you and Greg have some talking to be done. It sounds like you're questioning whether you should continue to be friends with him or not. If that's the case, you owe it to Greg to lay your concerns out and allow him to address them. If your personal sense of ethics won't allow you to be friends with someone who acts as Greg does, then you do have a reason to become involved with it, however only as far as it goes with you. At this point, you've neither the right or responsibility to get involved with the relationship between Greg and Tom. You do have the right and responsibility to yourself to address the relationship you have with Gret. |
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Good point salemite. thanks, I really don't have the right to judge how he is directly treating tom... I am not involved in their siruation and as a friend to both I do need to leave those relationships seperate. I don;t need to fight anyone else's battles
lately I've started realizing how much greg abuses friendships. He uses people and when it comes to our relationship I have just never allowed him to use me, every friendship is different and maybe I just need to accept ours for the strengths and leave it at that. I have always been honest with him and I may say something if it ever came up.. but for right now I need to step back and look at the bigger picture THANK YOU everyone. I've been thinking about this all week and needed to hear what you thought about the situation |
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