I am a bit confused of How Dating and approaching goes, I never really have done it before...

There is someone I admire and who I am interesting in,
We recently started talking more (last Wed.)

From what I understand asnd she has said...
She wants to stay single for the rest of her life,
and thinks no one out there is for her


I have not approached her in a manner other then friends so far,
But I am interested in becoming ore then friends with her,
But I also want to respect what she has said
and also think in a way that she just hasnt met anyone nice/good
she is young like I am



I would like more then friends, but If its better to stay frineds, I can understand that

Im asking what is something I can do

ask her, if there was someone out there for her...would you date them?

take it from there

just give her some time and see what happens. but try not to get your hopes up and get hurt. But at some point you will have to tell her how you feel.

Shakespeare "it is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all"

Just Roll With it, you got this far right !

ask her out for a pizza and a movie... see how it goes... hold her hand... if she will let ya... kiss on the cheek.. just something little... you'll know if she's diggin ya

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what she says!!

Honestly? It sounds as though she doesn't like herself too much right now and emotionally I would keep my distance.

thats what I told him, he's gonna have to tell her!

As much as I like to play and mess with people, but I do take this post seriously ^^

Or maybe she's waiting for someone to reach out to her....

hey death, I think lilith is right

I think I can show her someone who will care


Do you disagree?

you might need to talk a little more then drop something casual on her...like a walk and a bite to eat ... and just because she thinks she wants to stay single (and if she's near your age her mind will most likely change at some point) doesn't mean she doesn't want to date, have fun w/a friend or explore her options...brenda

well usually when they tell you they just want to be friends they end up married to your best rreind.

1)you just jinxed it!!
2)he's 18!!!!

If your willing to be friends without getting emotionally attached then go thatdirection and see where it goes...if it goes.

If your not...then be honest about your feelings with her and see if she is willing to go out and see if you two can make something ou of it.

Either way move slow...be honest to yourself and her.

Oh yeah...your young...think with your head and your heart but not your pants

Rule 1: do *not* "express your feelings." That virtually always drives her away, no matter how much people will tell you it's "the right thing to do."
Rule 2: Attraction is NOT a choice. If she's not into you, there's nothing you can do about it. Conversely, if she's into you, there's nothing *she* can do about it
Rule 3: A woman becomes attracted to a man based on the FEELING she gets when she's around you, and when you're not around and she thinks of you.

Your best bet: have *fun* when you're around her, and pull her along into your fun, so to speak. Make her laugh, make her smile, be relaxed, confident, and at ease around her. (Important point: don't use self-depreciating humor. A lot of guys hear that laughter works wonders, and then go on to make fun of themselves, getting lots of laughs as a result, of course, but in the end self-depreciating humor kills attraction just as much as no humor at all).

Be spontaneous! There are few things a woman likes more than a man who's totally unpredictable when it comes to the next adventure. You don't have to be adventurous, of course, but you get my drift. A good idea: watch some romantic comedies and some James Bond movies as well. And watch "Accepted"..Bartleby Gaines is the perfect example of what I'm talking about in the last 3/4 of the movie.

Also: Chivalry isn't dead.

Cheers!
-MarsNS

I agree. If she says she wants to stay single, the options are limited.