Hey Roco, that's a fair question.
This is the NON-Reader's Digest version (fair warning to the whineypeople who think they HAVE TO read everything that gets posted and respond like it was THEIR forum)

The deal is that I moved in with my 5th grade sweetheart when I was 19, we stayed together for another 6 years, married for 4, she succumbed to the female urge to reproduce & rather than have kids or deny her of the privilege we decided to set each other free. The week I mentioned it at work a gal came up to me & said she was interested in me until she found out I was married, now that the situation was about to change she wanted to make sure I was aware that she was interested.
We started dating during the 3 month wait for the divorce to become final. "B" moved out on a sunday after the divorce & "M" moved in that monday, for the next 15 years it was the time of my life. We strived daily to become a single spirt instead of 2 people married. We became a "ring & pinion" the sum of the 2 of us was greater than 1+1. We never worried about money only about satisfying the needs of each other in every regard, she gave up a career in front of the camera in order to be with me more. We had no children and we traveled the world for a time, established 4 business together, 1 of them sponsored a national TV program in the 80's & was an advertiser on another on the same network.
We took lessons & got our SailPlane licenses, we worked 7 years 26-42 weekends a year to help a young man reach his goal of becoming a national racing champion, we raised 4 wonderful dogs and bought 2 houses together, moved across the country and we were the envy of all of our friends & associates because of the deep love we expressed for each other and the smoothness of our relationship, people said we acted like newlyweds for 15 years. I have never seen 2 people function like we did, we set our own standard.
What happened? She was killed by a speeder who ran redlights, I surrvived.

So my "dating" experience is between zero and none especially in the past 15 years.
Dating is like the anticipation of going to an amusement park, once you arrive you forget all of the stuff you've been occupied with and concentrate on the long term experience.

And thats why my ineptness is like a tidal wave, I've never had to do the legwork most do in search of a mate, partner, wife & best female friend.....

I know how to drive the car, make it run fantanstic & how to get the most milage out of it, I just have no experience in opening the damn door to the thing!