1 criticize something they are wearing
" what is that on your head?" or " your'e gonna fall with those heels"
chicks dig that sort of thing
2. then move right into body parts..
" how short are you? did your mama skimp on food growing up?"
" is one of your legs shorter than the other?"
3. say something nasty about her family
" your brother is the biggest douche I think I have ever met"
4. when she says what she does for a living ...laugh
5. look at her with disbeleif and disgust and say " you gonna eat all that?"

Having read their profile what's sparked your interest in them, for example, maybe they enjoy hiking and you do as well, so start off by mentioning this mutual interest as an ice-breaker. Good luck.

Hi

Depends on a lot of things, but generally it doesn't matter all that much what you say
Conversations start well before you open your mouth, and most information they receive is not from what comes out of it (or via your fingers if online).

If you're doing it in person, body language and the ratios of your face and body (what triggers attraction) are the most important things that will influence how much she focuses on what you say, changes her mood to receptive. Generally followed by the situation and how you are dressed. (which is generally true for human beings in general.

People say confidence is key, but most don't (seem to at least) understand why.
When you're confident your body language is relaxed and open.
You feel secure and safe, slightly authoritative.
When you're nervous or scared you're tense throwing off body language (communication) of fear.

There's a reason why when one person laughs, others do too, or yawn, or mass hysteria, or when people drive by an accident they slow down and look around.
People take their cues on how to behave, think, and feel from the world around them.
When you call attention to yourself by interacting with them, their focus of the world is centered around you.

If you're telling them (via body language) everything is safe and secure, they will feel safe and secure.
If you're telling them there is danger, there is something to be nervous and scared of, they will slow down and look for the danger of what they should be scared of.
If you throw out mixed messages of insecurity and laughter, they will respond with mixed messages, not sure how to act, at best adopting a social facade in order to get away so they can try to figure out if there is danger or something good they can pursue.



If you're doing it on an online dating site, your picture is the most important thing. It's the only thing that potentially offers first impression body language for her by which she can judge your approach. Secondly is the general tone of your profile. Best thing to do is find a profile of a woman you wish to interact with. Then tailor your profile (with truthful things about yourself) to complement/mirror the tone of hers.
Whatever you send her, continue the tone of your profiles.


Start the conversation for the sake of the conversation and what you wish to say to them, saying something you are comfortable expressing.

If all you're worried about is getting to love, or just want some kind of feedback that validates a desire for her interest, then you're operating with ulterior motives.

Ulterior motives tend to be reflected in speech by what you don't say, or avoid saying, and will come across little differently than insecurity and fear or mixed messages, engendering a similar response from her.

Or IOW, "be open, honest, and yourself," but do some critical thinking first to determine if what's she's expressing (from her looks, tone, body language, profile) seems compatible or complementary to what you wish to express to her.
Her conversation with you started the moment you noticed her.

Doesn't really matter what you say. With the caveat I assume you are a normal human being with basic socialization from the same culture, where you don't just talk about your penis or how big your turds are every morning or that you like to kill people.

Well....
Most of us have a great heart.
Simple nah can't say that one