Well I thank the community for their responses. It is time for me to do some work at hand.

I'll be looking later at what the community has to say.

I can only say one more thing right now.

Ahhh Amore!

Not with out a good looking dress and a sex change.

W&W
Interesting reply. The question arises is the falling in love when younger, true or was their dependence in it.

For me when I did fall in love it was as if a chemical bond occurred. I liked ande respected and my love. It didn't work out because I was an immature jerk.

So I wonder all the experience, all the pain and all the judgments does it block ones heart from that chemical bond again.

Not that over time love can deepen or that the maturity of age assist it to grow. But the experience of the first flush, the power of it, can it be as strong. I would think it would add a powerful dimension to the relationship.

Like to get the benefit of others experience. Its been a very long time since I fell in love.

buttons

Need a little more than that.
To figure out yes figure out no figure that it is this way?

So MeChrissy2

Being realistic does it still make your heart jump or is it just a good solid decision.

iam4you has an interesting point, so maybe the more structures you build for what you want creates actually inhibits you from being able to fall in love. But how do you learn from the past and sit enable yourself to fall in love?

One sentence people! Come on please give some developed thought an observations on this.

I was hoping for more than a Hallmark card.

Honestly when you are over 40 are you just asking to much to fall in love.

So much of the matching I see when people get "older and wiser" is more of seeing whether someone fulfills a long laundry list of requirements.

If someone fulfills the list do they then fall in love? I don't think so. They are just making a rational pragmatic choice. Maybe that's the best way to do it.

How often are two people in love anyway. Isn't usually one sided with the other partner in need of the other?

I think I just see to many dam romantic movies and need to get real.

Please only answer this if you are going to be bleeding to death honest. I don't think anyone in the forum want to hear from Mary Poppins.