It takes time for wounds to heal in order to be equally objective (as much as possible) when judging yourself and others in some situations.
We all make mistakes and it is not easy to admit that, but once we face inconvenient truth, although it hurts, it brings a relief.
Regarding the roles...hmmm, Shakespeare has seen a whole life as a stage, but it still doesn't mean that everyone wears a mask and plays a role in a relationship.
If someone's trust was abused it is a fact, not some theatre play with a role of a victim on a stage of life.
It happens. But life goes on and the smart ones among us do not repeat the same mistake. LOL
Most of us do repeat it, but are not even aware of it. Recently I talked to a friend who told me that most people repeat the same mistake through their lives. We do not realise it because of the variation on a theme. It's not Sally, but Sue this time and it's not Toronto, but Thornhill, so it is not the same?
Well.. I realized he was right. But it is my conclusion, not the scientifically proven theory, so do not shoot, please. LOL
Again, it has nothing to do with roles, but everything to do with patterns of a learned behaviour.
The hardest thing is finding a key of our own minds and feelings, the key that opens the doors of our souls and helps us find answers why we do things we do.

After 25 years of marriage I believed I knew my husband well. I trusted him completely and respected his privacy. He had some kind of a "diary" that was always in his desk, never locked or out of reach, but I was never even tempted to sneak a peek. Sometimes he read some of his taught to me and then we would exchange opinions.
Cats sometimes want to be alone for hours. Of, course I would get worried if my cat didn't show up after being called, but if he was in one of his hiding spots I would leave him alone. He just needed some peace and quiet.
Everyone deserves their privacy and some peace and quiet moments. Yes, even pets.
Few days after husband's death I wanted to contact some of his friends to let them know about it.
I already let everyone else know, but I couldn't find few phone numbers and I knew my husband had them on the note he put in his diary. I have seen the note. He showed it to me. He was about to write those numbers down in his address book, but meanwhile they were in his diary in order not to be misplaced.
That was my idea. His desk was full of papers and notes, so it would be easy to lose the note with phone numbers. He took my advice to either to write them down immediately or to put them somewhere where he will easily find them. He told me the note was in his diary.
So, for the first time in 25 years I opened a drawer looking for those phone numbers. The last few pages of his diary were also his last taught, so I did read them, which I would never do if he was alive. I missed him. I missed our discussions about everything and anything under the sun. I wondered what he would say about some recent events, but I regret reading those pages.
You think you know someone and trust this person to find out that you didn't really know him. Some taught were never shared. I think he assumed where it would lead and decided to keep his mouth shut. After cancer surgery and health problems he needed someone who loved him and took care of him. That's why he never told me some things.
So it was a fear and a lack of trust? The same trust he was unconditionally given! He was in position to financially ruin me if he wanted to, which he almost done, but not intentionally. That's a whole different story about giving a trust to those who shouldn't be trusted. Before you invest - INVESTIGATE and cover your assETS. Fortunately my plan B helped, so I survived.
On the other hand he always insisted and pressured me to speak up and tell him when something was on my mind. He wouldn't give up until he found out, although it wasn't anything to worry about. I just didn't want to speak about some things until I could understand them, take them as they are and react accordingly. It takes time for taught to settle down and crystalize. Meanwhile, I'd rather not discuss it or take any action.
So, I felt cheated. I lived with someone who didn't want to share some of his taught and feelings because of a fear of losing me. He misjudged me. Completely!
Well...that's life!

LOL or just go with the flow?

Yes, sadly those mail limitations are there because of so many sexy students from overseas who use a body language (literally! Just look at the photos in their profiles ) and Google translate to find me and try to make me their happy Canadian wife. And I really do not want to be found by these great (looking) people who would come to join me and bring their small family one by one - all 50 of them (to begin with).

I make earrings with the teeth and some for charms. Also, I have one in a bottle submerged in formaldehyde: I would call it even! True story!


1:0 for you!

I hate sharks for one and one reason only - they do not need a dental plan!

The place where I grew up we never had those sharks.They didn't eat us. We ate them. I would still go if the cage is strong enough. Crazy former-reporter, eh? LOL

I love Adriatic Sea!That's the sea without bull sharks.

I think he is using Google translator.

Hi margie63!

And I meant a date, not a shark. It would be a nice shot!

Why not? But under condition to stay away from my camera!

Lucky me!

Right! And now I am here LOL

Let's hope it shall stay that way. It wouldn't be good to get a call to come back from my cosy retirement and jump on a first flight going your way.

Perhaps it's better to let us know if and when you are planning to come to Canada?

Welcome to mingle2.com community!

Thanks! I'll hang around.

"...that doesn't shoot back..."


It's funny because it is true. LOL

LOL, Well... Thanks! It is a bit unusual experience for me. Process is even a better term. It doesn't happen often that I shoot (with a camera ONLY! LOL) someone or something that doesn't shoot back at me. How refreshing! Mmmm!

Thanks Criollo99!

BTW, how do you like photos in my profile? I took most of them.
Hamilton has an interesting history. I am doing a bit of research and perhaps it will turn into a short documentary. Who knows... I am just having fun for now.

Feels like home. Thanks everyone!

@Dodo_David:"Gee, couldn't you have sent someone ahead to give us an advanced warning?"

Hi everyone, I am back.
I'll try to find someone to be friends with.
Perhaps it will work, perhaps not, but let me try one more time.