what i wanted to discuss was not really how people become insecurity,jealous and controlling, but how people get out of feeling that way with their partner.... i know that people say that "once you lose trust, you cant get it back" But what if you want that trust back, what if the person that hurt you is doing everything to show you they will do anything for you to just forgive them and love them again...and you see they are giving you their 100% all ....How now does the victim get over the pain,the constant second guessing their spouse or just being mad at them for no reason... or even the cheater, how do they get over the feeling that their spouse is going to do it back to them?

wow .... i wondered what Oregon man looked like .... this is what i have to work with now? well... its a step up from montana men.