I really am just trying to help because I think you're alot like who I was before. Don't take it as an insult because remember I'm also describing my former self. You're coming across to most people on here as very rebellous, disagreeable and stubborn. I can see it from their perspective, I mean to me nothing you've said bothers me because like I said you're like I was. But I also realize you have to handle people delicately. I had trouble with that before, really considering other people's feelings when I'm dealing with them. But if you don't they're not going to want to deal with you. I mean you can't really expect someone to make you feel good about yourself if you don't make them feel good about themselves.

Some people think of themselves as nice people and I'm sure you think that about yourself but are you really? Are you really nice to people and forgiving even if it seems like they've stepped on your toes? (doesn't mean you have to let them run over you, but there's some things you have to just let go even if you want to blow up) Are you sympathetic to other people's problems? Do you apologize, say thank you, ask people how their days been? It's those little things bro that count. I used to really struggle with it myself, I didn't like small talk. But small talk is what gets people on your side. Especially women. Life is all about the small things, the details. Be good to people, I mean really be good to them and then they'll see you as a good person and be good to you. It's just the way the world works.

It's something to where being rebellous and stubborn works great when you're younger like a teen, but doesn't get you very far as an adult.

I've learned a guy is going to be a good guy to the girl he really wants.

If you're not who he really wants he will look elsewhere which to women makes him an a-hole, or a cheater or whatever you want to label it.

That's undeniable however on the other hand we all deserve true happiness in life, don't we?

So you have to not only find the guy you really want but you have to be the one he really wants too. It's a tougher equation than you would think.

I've been with girls I really want who ended up not really wanting me and I've married a girl who really wanted me but I didn't truly want her so we divorced.

Still looking for someone to want me as much as I want them myself.

Everything in life is a balance. You have to equally respect each other and be compatible.

It doesn't matter if you "give up" or not, it will happen when it happens not when you want it to.

If you didn't have negative thinking this thread would not exist because you wouldn't have to question yourself. If you spend your time wondering why 1,000 women didn't reply back to you then the next 1,000 will do the same. Life is very mysterious that way, it's a test. We're all being tested constantly. As long as you judge yourself by past failures you will never have future successes.

What's so difficult about it is, let's say see a girl that you like and you're being all positive and tell yourself "I'm going to go up to her and ask her out and she's going to say YES!" then you go up to her and it doesn't work out. The obvious thing to do is to question yourself, wonder why she didn't like you. But the right thing to do is to forget about it like it never happened. Can you stay positive in your mind when outside interactions tells your brain that you shouldn't? It's a challenge. But if you say you tried positive thinking and it didn't work out then you still had negativity in your mind then it was doomed to fail. Never said it was easy, but life isn't easy. Remember all of it's just in your mind though. You paint the world you want, if it's a negative one you will get a negative world. You can only have a positive world if you paint it in your mind.

There's a very simple solution to all of your problems in life my friend. Something that if you don't overcome you will never have the success in life you desire. You will never have the social interactions with people you desire and you will never truly be happy.

If you're a negative person and are ugly on the inside, people will know. Usually even if you try everything you can to cover it up people will still know and people just don't want to be around negative people. Until you're happy with yourself you will never succeed in life. Do you think successful people such as CEO's of companies think negatively? They think success, for you to win you have to think success. Doesn't matter what you want to do.

And I didn't get this out of any self-motivation book buddy, I used to a negative thinking person. Once I've changed that people respect me more, I get more dates and life is just easier in general. Take my advice, or don't it's your own choice.

Ok I've made a few changes, got rid of the Mr Rodgers pic (lol) I'm also being more true to who I am on my profile.

So what do you guys think of my profile now?

Understood, I feel the same way. Was just joking with ya a little. :)

It's a shame your profile says to be older than you, I'm the same age.

uno, trying to multiply it into dos. :)

I would be interested even without the candy.

I think the only reason I haven't gone the forum route I guess is because I just think what are the odds that the people I'm going to be talking to actually be in my area? LD relationships are tough. But I think now that I've talked to a few of you and you're nice it may be a good idea anyway just to make some new friends.

Would still appreciate some other opinions, so far the only issue has been mentioning my ex-wife and I removed that. I just want to know if there's any other red flags. And feel free to comment on my pics even if it's negative, I'm a man I can take it. I need to know why I'm getting ignored after I've sent quite a few messages out. (between here and pof maybe even 100)

Plentyoffish. Hope that word isn't taboo around here. :)

Thanks, should I not mention that I'm divorced at all?

And anyone else?

I've had horrible luck on here and POF both. I'll message women and never get a response back way too often. Practically every time. Often times they'll look at my profile first, and I'll message them thinking they may be shy to message me, but they still won't message me back. The only ones I get messages from are just women I'm not attracted to, to be honest. I don't have incredibly high standards, just looking for someone I'm compatible with. But it's been rough!

Maybe it's because I'm divorced, maybe it's because I'm average looking (or below average?) Maybe a combo of both. Or it could be a personality thing, I am not sure. So I need to know. Rate me. And feel free to point out anything you may notice that could be a turn off to someone. It may be a solution.

thanks!

I'm a guy who comes across as a nice guy at first, because I'm shy around people I don't know. I have to get comfortable with someone.


Once I'm comfortable around you, the bad boy comes out.

Email me @ justincredible_2k3@hotmail.com