I've had horrible luck on here and POF both. I'll message women and never get a response back way too often. Practically every time. Often times they'll look at my profile first, and I'll message them thinking they may be shy to message me, but they still won't message me back. The only ones I get messages from are just women I'm not attracted to, to be honest. I don't have incredibly high standards, just looking for someone I'm compatible with. But it's been rough!

Maybe it's because I'm divorced, maybe it's because I'm average looking (or below average?) Maybe a combo of both. Or it could be a personality thing, I am not sure. So I need to know. Rate me. And feel free to point out anything you may notice that could be a turn off to someone. It may be a solution.

thanks!

The part about the ex doesn't need to be there...
I mean we all have an ex, doesn't belong in the
profile. Someone who talks of the ex in the first
paragraph... would be a turn off for me.

Good Luck, hope it gets better for ya.

Thanks, should I not mention that I'm divorced at all?

And anyone else?

Hello and welcome to Mingle

I think your profile is fine, you need to participate alot in the forums, I think you may have better luck.
I do not know what POF is ??

Plentyoffish. Hope that word isn't taboo around here. :)

In your profile there is a space for marital status, so if anyone wants to know they can look there. I agree do not go on and on about your divorce, a turn off to me anyway when men do that.

I think the only reason I haven't gone the forum route I guess is because I just think what are the odds that the people I'm going to be talking to actually be in my area? LD relationships are tough. But I think now that I've talked to a few of you and you're nice it may be a good idea anyway just to make some new friends.

Would still appreciate some other opinions, so far the only issue has been mentioning my ex-wife and I removed that. I just want to know if there's any other red flags. And feel free to comment on my pics even if it's negative, I'm a man I can take it. I need to know why I'm getting ignored after I've sent quite a few messages out. (between here and pof maybe even 100)

You seem like a nice young man Justin so here are a few sugestions; stop with the quirky poses in your pics,have a friend take a few candid shots of you and post those.Also,the naked or near naked bathroom shots are just kinda creepy to us girls and a bit of a turn off. We know you guys like to admire it in the mirror,no need to share it. lol! Also I like the lines about being raised by the women in your life and how that makes you a good listener. BUT go on less about how any girl will do and what a great friend and listener you always are.You come across as the ideal friend not boyfriend. Tell the girls what your favorite date night is,hobbies outside the home,romantic trip destination.Brag a little,be in charge and tell the girls where you are going to romance them. You are a cutie,now if I was only 15 years younger! :)

if there were people in your area chances are you would already have met them

the point of these sites is to broaden your search. it would suck to find a girl in your area that you kinda get along with okay, but 100 miles from your home is the perfect girl to be your soulmate and you miss her cause your limiting your search and not looking that far away

dunno if you really want some help or not


but i feel like being nosy



what kind of woman r you looking for? question one

Your profile looks fine...


Id have to say the unshaven look on your first pic makes you look a little bit like a slacker.

The second pic is a little Mr. Rogersy. I have no idea how you did that one, because it for sure looks like a pose.. but a really uncomfortable pose, and then you have that cutsey smile.


Anyway, everything else looks good.


Good luck.

Ok I've made a few changes, got rid of the Mr Rodgers pic (lol) I'm also being more true to who I am on my profile.

So what do you guys think of my profile now?

good luck

the shirtless bathroom mirror picture is pretty cliche around here. I wouldnt use it