I had backslid twice in my life, been saved over 20 some years now.
The first time was just not staying accountable and close to Him, the 2nd time was a hardening in my heart from pain and being in a job where my boss said we are going to toughen you up and I let her.
I barely knew myself anymore and church, prayer, nothing seem to help.I needed the gift of repentance and a Godly fear too.
Till I joined a prophetic prayer group that saw what I needed and much deep prayer and I got alot of healing of memories( getting rid of the lies and half truths and asking Jesus to come and minister to
and half truths in the memories and asking Jesus to come and minister
you, it's awesome.} regular christian couceling helps too as most of
the wandering away is trust issues. Blessings

It's good to get strong christian friends and the bible says to be cautious in friendships. I've learned to take it slow and you become like those you hang around with. So yes don't judge hearts but look at the fruit of others lives and find strong christians that are filled with his love and teachable usually means they are humble too. Ask God to lead you and which church to attend, there are so many and you need one that is grounded in the word but open to \his
spirit. Catherine